How late is too late?

[Tron_fdc]

I'm on time for everything but work. I can't show up at 8:00AM no matter what....and I don't know why. When it comes to friends though, I'm usually pretty punctual.

If I wait for more than 15 minutes for somebody and they don't call, I'm out. No way in hell would I wait an hour alone, it's a complete waste of time. If someone calls however, I'll wait as long as it takes (or meet them somewhere else so I'm not sitting around with my thumb up my arse).

[HelloHockeyFans]

Tardiness is probably one of my biggest pet peeves... 15 minutes is my absolute limit without some sort of text message or phone call... for your friend to show up an hour late for dinner and not even provide an explanation??! Ridiculous.

I think it just shows a lack of respect for the person waiting for you when you don't let them know that you're running late... sure, it happens, but let them know... and if you have experience with traffic or whatever holding you up in the past... leave earlier. Pretty simple.

[J pold]

I can't stand it when people are late, my mother has always been perpetually late. Ever since I was young I couldn't stand it so I make a point of never being late. The rare time when I am late I always call and am deeply apologetic.

My Girlfriend has a problem with constantly being late. I used to begrudgingly put up with it until this one night she asked my to stop by her friends house on our way to dinner. What was supposed to be a quick drop pick up of an item turned into me waiting in the car for 40 minutes. I tried calling her, knocking on the door, when she finally returned she half heartily apologized. I didn't say a word drove her right back too her house told her to get out of the car and that I would call her in a couple of days. She hasn't been late for anything since.

[Tron_fdc]

Originally Posted by J pold

I can't stand it when people are late, my mother has always been perpetually late. Ever since I was young I couldn't stand it so I make a point of never being late. The rare time when I am late I always call and am deeply apologetic.

My Girlfriend has a problem with constantly being late. I used to begrudgingly put up with it until this one night she asked my to stop by her friends house on our way to dinner. What was supposed to be a quick drop pick up of an item turned into me waiting in the car for 40 minutes. I tried calling her, knocking on the door, when she finally returned she half heartily apologized. I didn't say a word drove her right back too her house told her to get out of the car and that I would call her in a couple of days. She hasn't been late for anything since.

I bet she was inside smoking.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by J pold

I can't stand it when people are late, my mother has always been perpetually late. Ever since I was young I couldn't stand it so I make a point of never being late. The rare time when I am late I always call and am deeply apologetic.

My Girlfriend has a problem with constantly being late. I used to begrudgingly put up with it until this one night she asked my to stop by her friends house on our way to dinner. What was supposed to be a quick drop pick up of an item turned into me waiting in the car for 40 minutes. I tried calling her, knocking on the door, when she finally returned she half heartily apologized. I didn't say a word drove her right back too her house told her to get out of the car and that I would call her in a couple of days. She hasn't been late for anything since.

I would have done the same thing. Good job!

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by J pold

My Girlfriend has a problem with constantly being late. I used to begrudgingly put up with it until this one night she asked my to stop by her friends house on our way to dinner. What was supposed to be a quick drop pick up of an item turned into me waiting in the car for 40 minutes. I tried calling her, knocking on the door, when she finally returned she half heartily apologized. I didn't say a word drove her right back too her house told her to get out of the car and that I would call her in a couple of days. She hasn't been late for anything since.

You sir, are my hero.

[Claeren]

Its funny you mention girlfriends. I was once always on time for things but 13 years worth of long term relationships and I learned that not only was it pointless being right on time, but if you showed up too early you created 'emotional pressure' for the ol'girlfriend that was not worth the effort when she vented later on!

So slowly I got used to showing up 5 minutes after when I said I would so that when they were finally ready to go 5min or 10min after that (so now 15min late) we could go without them feeling guilty - because apparently my 5min meant I was just as late as them(!?).

Giving that extra 5min saved me a lot of fights over the years.


I am single now but I am used to having that extra 5min-15min to sit around and wait. Such a hard habit to break though!

I am pretty good now in general, but being outright early is still generally outside of my reach.

(And no worries, current/future girlfriends do not have life nearly as easy, no more emotional-babysitting in my life....)

[BuzzardsWife]

When I was younger and much more patient, I would wait. Now I don't wait very long. Last night a friend was late picking me up for a movie..I was about to leave and go by myself. If I have to wait more than 45 mins for a dr. I leave. I tell the receptionist that its rude to overbook and I have to go. If I was waiting in a restaraunt i think it would be about 20 mins max before I would leave, if they hadn't phoned me or text me. Now making my husband wait, that's a whole other issue, and it's my god given right as a wife to always make him wait.

[Ayrahb]

Originally Posted by J pold

[...]one night she asked my to stop by her friends house on our way to dinner. What was supposed to be a quick drop pick up of an item turned into me waiting in the car for 40 minutes. I tried calling her, knocking on the door, when she finally returned she half heartily apologized.

I sure hope this was a female friend.

[Jiggy_12]

I would have lost it on the guy who was an hour late, absolutely lost it.

I hate that stuff.

[ken0042]

How late is too late depends on many different things:

- Going to the pub with 20 friends and one show up late; no biggie.

- I ask a friend to come over to help me with something around the house and he's 30 minutes late; once again no biggie.

But to be late so that the person waiting on you can do a favour for you? You waited a lot longer than I would have EG.

[Antithesis]

I can't stand tardiness when it's for no real reason - a traffic disaster, whatever, but 'just because'? It's immensely rude.

To a point, as a parent I now understand that arrival times have to be a bit flexible, but the amount of time you were waiting in both cases would lead me to speak up and demand better - on both counts.

[Eastern Girl]

My brother finally showed up at around 2pm. I kept saying that I would give him another half hour and then I would take off, but each time I waited a little longer. waited because I don't get to see my nephews often. If it had just been my brother, I would have said 'screw it' and gone out.

And I understand he's got two young boys and sometimes that throws you off schedule, but he could have called and said he was running 3 hrs behind.

[Dion]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

My brother finally showed up at around 2pm. I kept saying that I would give him another half hour and then I would take off, but each time I waited a little longer. waited because I don't get to see my nephews often. If it had just been my brother, I would have said 'screw it' and gone out.

And I understand he's got two young boys and sometimes that throws you off schedule, but he could have called and said he was running 3 hrs behind.

You're enabling your brothers actions by accepting the nephews that late. Be firm and let him know that in the future you won't be around when he fails to call and shows up 3 hours late. Your brother was very rude and self centered.

[Eastern Girl]

^^ Yeah, I know what he did was rude and believe me, I didn't hold my tongue when he arrived, but like I said, I don't see my nephews often living quite a distance from them. I wasn't going to turn them away.

Is that what you think I should have done?

[bigtmac19]

^
I would have done the same

[Dion]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

^^ Yeah, I know what he did was rude and believe me, I didn't hold my tongue when he arrived, but like I said, I don't see my nephews often living quite a distance from them. I wasn't going to turn them away.

Is that what you think I should have done?

That's what i would have done. I understand the nephews part as i went through something similar when my niece and nephew were younger. My sister never did it again after i spoke my mind.

[Muta]

I booked a huge lunch yesterday for 30 of my co-workers. I made everyone confirm with me that they were coming.

So, 22 people show up. 8 people didn't that confirmed. None of them told me. A couple of them told others, but I didn't receive any email or phone call. You'd think it'd be relatively easy to contact me, since we're all in the same office.

To top it off, I ended up having to pay an additional $50 of my own money to cover the rest of the tab.

That's the last time I book lunch for people, and try to do something fun with my co-workers at lunch. Perhaps next time someone else can do the bookings and organize something; I'm done with that.

[Kidder]

Wow Muta, that's like three pet peeve threads rolled up in one.

Are you sure that on the way home you weren't stuck behind a slow driver in the left lane (yacking on his cell phone using words like irregardless), only to speed around him and get a speeding ticket which you're considering fighting in court?

[Muta]

Originally Posted by Kidder

Wow Muta, that's like three pet peeve threads rolled up in one.

Are you sure that on the way home you weren't stuck behind a slow driver in the left lane (yacking on his cell phone using words like irregardless), only to speed around him and get a speeding ticket which you're considering fighting in court?

That was me, but I didn't have to fight the ticket, since the judge didn't show up.