Have to agree with the issue of people who are too firm trying to compensate for something. I especially notice this with some women who come in and squeeze as hard as they can.
I suppose they are thinking 'I am a business women and I need to show that I'm not weak'.
Meanwhile I am thinking 'I feel sorry for this person who is obviously trying to compensate for their insecurity by giving an awkwardly hard handshake'.
And my issue with the early closer is when they and up squeezing the ends of your fingers, and you can't do anything short of 4X4's response--use your left hand to punch them in the face, then try and reposition your shaking hand.
Have to agree with the issue of people who are too firm trying to compensate for something. I especially notice this with some women who come in and squeeze as hard as they can.
I suppose they are thinking 'I am a business women and I need to show that I'm not weak'.
Meanwhile I am thinking 'I feel sorry for this person who is obviously trying to compensate for their insecurity by giving an awkwardly hard handshake'.
And my issue with the early closer is when they and up squeezing the ends of your fingers, and you can't do anything short of 4X4's response--use your left hand to punch them in the face, then try and reposition your shaking hand.
Girls with hard handshakes make my pants feel funny.
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I find shaking womens hands to be really tricky, especially older women. I am a big guy (6'4/210) and when this little womens hand comes out you never know if you are getting a real handshake or one of those horrible girly things where they half grab your hand.....
I was meeting my wifes family at her family renunion last month and her great aunt who is well over 60 went to shake hands with one of her cousins who is a rather large guy. After the handshake he teased her that her handshake was far to strong, since it had actually caused him pain.
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That drives me nuts too. I've re-done handshakes after people pulled that crap on me. I also hate when you try and start on the down-shake and the other guy, for some reason, starts on the up-shake and cancel eachother.
Or if you combine the two you just wind up holding hands for a few seconds. It's like something off of Seinfeld.
George: I held a mans hand today, Jerry.
Jerry: What were you doing that for?
George: I didn't mean to, Jerry! I had this meeting with this guy at work and we went to shake hands and he closed too early.
Jerry [Nodding]: Ahh, the Early-Closer.
George: You gotta let your thumbs lock. There's no shake if you don't lock thumbs!
Jerry: The locked thumb is what makes or breaks shakes.
George: To make it worse, I tried to keep going anyway and started on the down-shake...
Jerry: You gotta start on the down-shake. It's the natural start to any handshake.
George: And he started on the up-shake, and it cancelled eachother out, so we just sorta stood there, holding hands.
Jerry: The Early-Closer-Up-Shaker; the bane of any handshake.
Did you make that up or was that in a real episode? That was gold I tell ya.
A weak handshake in my opinion tells me alot about the person whether it is true or not. My buddies and I have a good laugh about weak handshakes and "early closers" not very cool at all.
The weird part is how do people come off doing a weak handshake? It just seems natural to squeeze... Very weird.
^^ Hilarious sig.. I judge people based on handshakes all the time. I think it indicates who's confident. Which is half the battle to being competent in business.
That drives me nuts too. I've re-done handshakes after people pulled that crap on me. I also hate when you try and start on the down-shake and the other guy, for some reason, starts on the up-shake and cancel eachother.
Or if you combine the two you just wind up holding hands for a few seconds. It's like something off of Seinfeld.
George: I held a mans hand today, Jerry.
Jerry: What were you doing that for?
George: I didn't mean to, Jerry! I had this meeting with this guy at work and we went to shake hands and he closed too early.
Jerry [Nodding]: Ahh, the Early-Closer.
George: You gotta let your thumbs lock. There's no shake if you don't lock thumbs!
Jerry: The locked thumb is what makes or breaks shakes.
George: To make it worse, I tried to keep going anyway and started on the down-shake...
Jerry: You gotta start on the down-shake. It's the natural start to any handshake.
George: And he started on the up-shake, and it cancelled eachother out, so we just sorta stood there, holding hands.
Jerry: The Early-Closer-Up-Shaker; the bane of any handshake.
The other key to a good handshake is the eye contact. there is nothing worse then the guy who only looks at the hands to make a good shake but ruins the shake with no eye contact
I don't have no limp-fish handshake but I hate the guy that tries to squeeze too hard. It's not a arm wrestling match.
Although wouldn't it be cool if that became the way to introduce yourself? Hi Jim, I'm Dan....Hi Dan nice to.arrggggggggggggggg, aahhhhhhhhh ..YES!!! You're a pansy Dan! It was nice to meet you though.
Do limp handshakes bother anyone else around here?
Absolutely. And same as a overly firm handshake, as mentioned.
You think it would be pretty simple to have a normal pressure handshake. You shoul dhave tried to punch fists with Mr. Dion and see what kind of reaction you got.
It's relatively common for a politician to have a limpish handshake. If I were shaking that many hands, yeah, I'd be a little limp too.
Honestly though, it's a handshake. If you're gonna derive your opinion of a person, why not use some actual qualities like speech, intelligence and personality as judgment qualities instead of an awkward social gesture?
The only politician's hand I've ever shaken was Jean Chrétien, and he actually had a pretty solid handshake. I'm just thankful he didn't try to strangle me.
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It's relatively common for a politician to have a limpish handshake. If I were shaking that many hands, yeah, I'd be a little limp too.
Honestly though, it's a handshake. If you're gonna derive your opinion of a person, why not use some actual qualities like speech, intelligence and personality as judgment qualities instead of an awkward social gesture?
Its an impression, and you cant really control what makes an impression on you. If I shake someones limp hand, it makes an impression, as well as their speech and intelligence etc.
Lately I have been finding myself throwing in the left hand also...kind of making a handshake sandwich. It works great when shaking womens hands and also is effective on the overly aggressive shaker...it non-verbally says "Hey little buddy...calm down...this isn't an arm wrestling contest".
Ugh, I hate the second hand. I'm not interested in your little handshake sandwich.
A firm handshake is a given. What gets me is when the other person doesn't look you in the eye during the shake. That tells me more about a person than the strength of their grip.
