When it's time...

[BBQorMILDEW]

i don't miss everything about being single. I just miss taking off for a weekend with my buddies without having to check in with the "boss" to see if it's all right..

If im the only one who has ever felt this way then that's great, but i just want to know what pushed your relationship from "just another" to the end all be all...

I am thinking about this way too much..

[Muta]

geezus BBQ, you and are in the exact same position.. and I'm turning 26 in May.

I just went through the EXACT thing you described... last week... and actually did something about it.

I don't have time to write it all right now, but I'll respond with a better reply later tonight. Corporate Challenge Volleyball is right after work!

[habernac]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

i don't miss everything about being single. I just miss taking off for a weekend with my buddies without having to check in with the "boss" to see if it's all right..

If im the only one who has ever felt this way then that's great, but i just want to know what pushed your relationship from "just another" to the end all be all...

I am thinking about this way too much..

I think it's different for everyone. Freedom is nice. Not having anyone to share your accomplishments, experiences, etc with is boring.

I was at about the same point in a relationship as you are. One thing was very important to me. I asked her one day if, 10 years down the road, we were still together and had no children, would she be ok with it. With no hesitation she replied "As long as I was still with you, I would absolutely be fine with that." I bought the engagement ring the next day.

Taking off for the weekend with your pals once in awhile is fine, but is it really that much of a bother to talk to the Mrs first? If she's a keeper, she won't mind if you do that once in awhile. But you've still got to expect she's going to want to spend time with you on weekends as well. It's a balance thing.

[Flames89]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

i don't miss everything about being single. I just miss taking off for a weekend with my buddies without having to check in with the "boss" to see if it's all right..

I think we will always have these feelings. It is ingrained in our DNA.

It is the other MAJORITY of the time that matters.

[LChoy]

You should still be able to go out with your buddies for the weekend, just like how she'll need the girl's weekend and Spa trip. It's unhealthy if your girlfriend is controlling and wants to know what you are doing every minute, but a simple "honey, I want go out with the guys this evening" with some advance warning should be fine with her. Everyone needs some alone time with their significant other, just as it's important that both fo you have your own friends.
Like everyone else has said, these things will pop into your head from time to time, but in the end, you'll know if she's the one
Good luck

[Table 5]

i'm still amazed how my gf ever agreed to go out with me more than once, and am pretty sure could never ever get another woman to even look at me, yet i still wonder about the grass being greener.

if only there was a way to marry them and still put your wee-wee in someone else's hoo-ha once in a while...

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

i don't miss everything about being single. I just miss taking off for a weekend with my buddies without having to check in with the "boss" to see if it's all right..

If im the only one who has ever felt this way then that's great, but i just want to know what pushed your relationship from "just another" to the end all be all...

I am thinking about this way too much..

i'd seriously consider how this goes down before making any decisions.

If the boss answers with...

1) sure Dear, have fun, stay out of trouble, thanks for letting me know, we'll see you next week.

I'd NOT ditch her.

2) what? what do you mean you're going out with your friends all weekend. When will you be back? when will you spend time with me? nag nag nag etc.

I'd ditch her.

Most people in relationships are jealous of other peoples freedom. I know I am a bit, and probably always will be, but the benefits outway the that small problem. Just make sure you are with a girl who gives you lots of space, and it will work out.

[Gozer]

Originally Posted by Table 5

if only there was a way to marry them and still put your wee-wee in someone else's hoo-ha once in a while...

RED SQUARE!

[CGYTransplant]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

i don't miss everything about being single. I just miss taking off for a weekend with my buddies without having to check in with the "boss" to see if it's all right..

If im the only one who has ever felt this way then that's great, but i just want to know what pushed your relationship from "just another" to the end all be all...

I am thinking about this way too much..

"checking in" is called "respecting the person you're with enough to let her know what's going on so she doesn't assume you're dead in an alley/in jail/running to mexico with some other woman". Part and parcel of being in a relationship is letting the other person know what's going on in your life. In a good relationship, one partner doesn't hold the other partner back when they want to do something that's important to them. If she's saying no, there's a reason, and it's probably something you did.

The relationship goes to the "be all end all" when you don't mind asking if you can do something....and when you don't necessarily miss being single b/c you know you've got a better thing.

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by Table 5

if only there was a way to marry them and still put your wee-wee in someone else's hoo-ha once in a while...

Join the Mormons?

[BBQorMILDEW]

Originally Posted by fotze

this is important, OP is insinuating that he is never allowed to go out with the boys. If that's the case DTMFA.

i am not saying I am never allowed to go anywhere..

I mean last May i went to Cancun with around 30 people for a wedding.(she couldn't go due to school)
Just two days after Cancun i went to Vegas for the BCA pool championships.
I had to kiss serious ass in order to do this..

(all without her)

I just miss being spontaneous with myself, maybe it has to do with growing up and finally realizing what my limits are.

No one here who is attached misses being independent even a little bit??

[habernac]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

No one here who is attached misses being independent even a little bit??

yep, all part of being human. Independent is awesome. But very lonely.

[CMPunk]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

i am not saying I am never allowed to go anywhere..

I mean last May i went to Cancun with around 30 people for a wedding.(she couldn't go due to school)
Just two days after Cancun i went to Vegas for the BCA pool championships.
I had to kiss serious ass in order to do this..

(all without her)

I just miss being spontaneous with myself, maybe it has to do with growing up and finally realizing what my limits are.

No one here who is attached misses being independent even a little bit??

I think most of us would have to kiss up a bit being able to goto Cancun and Vegas back to back. Of course she'd be a bit tweaked she couldn't go. Not to mention they both those places are HUGE party towns, of course she'd be a tad worried

[ken0042]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

No one here who is attached misses being independent even a little bit??

Yes, but then I remember that when I was single, not once did I ever open my closet to find things had been ironed.

At 26 you are only a few years from the rest of your friends being married. Then you miss out on all the other fun things that happen because you being single didn't add into keeping the numbers even.

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

No one here who is attached misses being independent even a little bit??

independence doesnt do the dishes and cooks you dinner. then again, independence doesnt care if you hang out in your underwear all weekend. so it really comes down to whether you prefer to eat or want full underwear freedom privileges.

[BBQorMILDEW]

Originally Posted by ken0042

Yes, but then I remember that when I was single, not once did I ever open my closet to find things had been ironed.

At 26 you are only a few years from the rest of your friends being married. Then you miss out on all the other fun things that happen because you being single didn't add into keeping the numbers even.

i am starting to see that more and more each day...

My single friends are being cut out of my life due to the numbers game..

I love coming home to someone, having dinner. A companion through the good times and bad.. A girl who doesn't care what anyone thinks about me...

I am just undecisive as to whether I want to spend the rest of my life with this girl..

I am planning on possibly taking the plunge in the next couple months I just want to be sure...

Obviously this is a touchy subject but i like to hear other peoples opinions on this type of stuff.

[Table 5]

BBQ, I think half of CP is in the same boat. So let us know what you decide to do so we can all do the same. One for all....

[kermitology]

Being single sucks, that's my only input.

[Incinerator]

Originally Posted by Table 5

independence doesnt do the dishes and cooks you dinner. then again, independence doesnt care if you hang out in your underwear all weekend. so it really comes down to whether you prefer to eat or want full underwear freedom privileges.

marriage will not necessarily do the dishes and cook you dinner either, in fact, for some guys they'd have to do twice the dishes and cook for two!

(this is not personal experience btw, but I know it's happening out there )

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by kermitology

Being single sucks, that's my only input.

mostly because of the lack of input, i remember