Anniversaries: Are they important?

[Bagor]

Originally Posted by Ice

I never cared about celebrating any anniversary until I was married. Even now, if my husband forgot our wedding anniversay, I don't think I'd care. I don't think there needs to be one specific day set aside for celebrating a relationship. I feel the same way about Valentines Day, that's a lame holiday. He'd be in trouble if he forgot my birthday though.

Exactly the way I feel. If our anniversary falls on say a Wednesday no big deal. Might turn round a couple of weeks later and use it as an excuse for a nice meal.

Valentines day has turned into a joke. Our 3 year old came home from the childminders with more presents than I got for some Christmases (is that a word)?

[Buff]

Anniversaries (along with birthdays and valentine's day) are one of the few days of the year when sex is guaranteed... unless you do something to really piss her off.

In your case it sounds like she either is planning on some sort of day long trip/adventure, or she expects to be pampered all day long.

Perhaps she thinks football is played in the evening. If you can be a good little boy and not get drunk while watching football then go out with her in the evening.

As for dating anniversaries go, they aren't as big a deal as wedding anniversaries. I remember our first two dating anniversaries, only because the 1st one we did a day trip, and the 2nd one we spent the day moving her family. The others... I can't quite recall. I know we did something.

[rubecube]

So in summary, as men we don't think they're important but women do, but not for any discernable reason?

[Traditional_Ale]

My advice would be plow her for hours and hours early in the morning before the game starts so she sleeps through most of it.

Besides, after hot dirty kinky sex, could you imagine how good a doobie, a cold beer, AND football would feel?

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Buff

Perhaps she thinks football is played in the evening. If you can be a good little boy and not get drunk while watching football then go out with her in the evening.

I've already told her that I'm willing to sacrifice not watching any other games that day or drinking. I just want to watch my Eagles play from 10 AM - 1PM and then we can do something after. I don't think that's unreasonable.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by rubecube

So in summary, as men we don't think they're important but women do, but not for any discernable reason?

I think that sums it up nicely.

Dude chicks are crazy.

[Buff]

Originally Posted by rubecube

So in summary, as men we don't think they're important but women do, but not for any discernable reason?

I've put a stronger importance on anniversaries since we had kids. Once you have kids, its you, the wife and the kid(s). You don't get as much quality alone time. Anniversaries is the one time when you get somebody to watch the kids and you make time to spend with your significant other. We used to go for walks late at night, or go out to eat once a week, or go to a couple of movies a month. Since kids we only do that stuff on anniversaries or other important dates.

[Buff]

Originally Posted by rubecube

I've already told her that I'm willing to sacrifice not watching any other games that day or drinking. I just want to watch my Eagles play from 10 AM - 1PM and then we can do something after. I don't think that's unreasonable.

No, that doesn't sound unreasonable at all. If she still insists that you don't watch football then you've got a high maintenance woman that will likely place a lot of restricting demands on you later on in life.

[4X4]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

Dude chicks are crazy.

You're missing some very important punctuation. Unless... Umm... Oh, wait!

[mykalberta]

Originally Posted by rubecube

I've already told her that I'm willing to sacrifice not watching any other games that day or drinking. I just want to watch my Eagles play from 10 AM - 1PM and then we can do something after. I don't think that's unreasonable.

Not unreasonable.

I have never had a 1 year anniversary last the whole day, especially starting at 1pm. It may be different if you live together.

Depending on your feelings toward her I would consider this a water shed moment. You are willing to give up 1pm-X where she wont give up 3 hours? IMO not a great way to start.

The only one year anniversary I had that came close to lasting that long was I decided to go to SFO for 3 days with her, she thought it was for the anniversary, truth be told I just needed a vacation and to plan it around that day served 2 purposes.

Of course you could record the game on your PVR and watch it later but that sets a dangerous presidence IMO.

[4X4]

Originally Posted by Buff

No, that doesn't sound unreasonable at all. If she still insists that you don't watch football then you've got a high maintenance woman that will likely place a lot of restricting demands on you later on in life.

Yup.

Seriously, you're giving her the balance of the day in exchange for three, relatively early hours. Maybe you can smooth it over by telling her you'll make her breakfast before the game starts. If that doesn't work, tell her she can go celebrate that day with a cucumber.

[enthused]

Originally Posted by rubecube

I've already told her that I'm willing to sacrifice not watching any other games that day or drinking. I just want to watch my Eagles play from 10 AM - 1PM and then we can do something after. I don't think that's unreasonable.

Definitely not unreasonable at all.

As a girl, I can definitely admit that anniversaries are at least kind of important to most of us. I don't put a lot of emphasis on them, because in the end it is just a day... but it is still sometimes nice to recognize that day. I don't expect a huge she-bang to be planned, just recognition is good!

Anyways, I'd say that you watching the game, and then doing something with her afterwards is a more than fair compromise. If she has a problem with it, well then... too bad for her I guess!

[troutman]

You can pull some kind of Three's Company stunt where you get a look-a-like to entertain her for three hours while you watch the game.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by enthused

huge she-bang

paging fotze . . .

[enthused]

Originally Posted by troutman

paging fotze . . .

Hahaha.... oh geez

[MarchHare]

"Dating" or "relationship" anniversaries don't exist. If you're not married, you don't have an anniversary. Period. End of Story.

Thankfully, my wife shared that same view when we were dating, and thus we never bothered celebrating our "anniversary" until it was the anniversary of our wedding. Heck, I probably never would have married her if she had insisted on monopolizing my entire day solely for some pointless, irrational, and completely arbitrary reason like 365 days having passed since our first date.

I've never met your girlfriend so my opinion could be completely off the mark, but if she's unwilling to give you three hours in the early afternoon to watch your favourite team play, she sounds like the type of high-maintenance drama queen that I would never want to date.

[Traditional_Ale]

Originally Posted by mykalberta

Depending on your feelings toward her I would consider this a water shed moment. You are willing to give up 1pm-X where she wont give up 3 hours? IMO not a great way to start.

Definately something serious to be thought about.

Of course you could record the game on your PVR and watch it later but that sets a dangerous presidence IMO.

PVR works both ways.

[Dion]

What i can't understand is why she isn't flexable on the anniversary thing. It's your day to watch football and she should know that by now. Just because you want to celebrate the day after does not make you an insensitive jerk.

She just sounds a tad self centered to me. Could lead to similar problems like this down the road.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Am I the only one who is a little supprised with the number of posts that are at least tacitly saying "dude if she won't let you watch the game, she's probably not worth keeping around"?

That being said, my advice is as follows:

Dude, if she won't let you watch the football game, kick her to the curb.

[enthused]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

Am I the only one who is a little supprised with the number of posts that are at least tacitly saying "dude if she won't let you watch the game, she's probably not worth keeping around"?

That being said, my advice is as follows:

Dude, if she won't let you watch the football game, kick her to the curb.

Well its kind of true though... because wanting to watch a couple hours of football really isn't unreasonable! If she makes such a huge stink about something as minor as that... I'd hate to see what would happen if something actually significant happened!

Not that I want to bash rubecube's girl, cause she must be decent if he's with her, it just seems like she's overreacting big time.