How Often Do You Argue With Your Partner?

[return to the red]

Originally Posted by Flames in 07

Some people don't really have a need to take out anger on their spouse ... sorry.

back the F8ck up.

I said we have our squabbles, I never said I "take out my anger on my spouse"

Thanks anyways though

I should add that the line is blurred as to what exactly a "fight" is. What may be a fight to me may not be a fight to you. I guess I should have said my wife and I argue, but we rarely fight

[arsenal]

well you know you are in trouble when you loose arguments with yourself..

[Phanuthier]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

Daily, or so it seems.

Yeah, same here lately.

[Wookie]

My current g/f and I are fighting, she hasn't spoken to me in approximately 4 months, I haven't seen her, she won't return my repeated emails or phone calls

[Locke]

Thanks tons.

We are currently fighting right now due to an arguement arising about how much we fight with each other. She says lots, I say rarely.

This might as well be World War III.

[Crazy Flamer]

Originally Posted by Locke

Thanks tons.

We are currently fighting right now due to an arguement arising about how much we fight with each other. She says lots, I say rarely.

This might as well be World War III.

Women... Always overreacting!

[Dion]

[Dan02]

Originally Posted by CrusaderPi

I've only argued once with my wife.


It started while we were dating in April of 1999. I feel I made some good points yesterday.

seconded.

Seems we have some pretty different views on what constitutes a fight here though. Looks like some people are thinking more along the lines of a throw down knock em out sorta deal, where as other people like be view it more as of everytime we have a minor disagreement, for example, whose turn it is to take out the dog, which lasts 10 seconds, and is over and forgotten by the time i hit the stairs on the way out with the dog every morning.

[Jayems]

Put me in the never fight category (7.5 years, just recently engaged)... and along with the booze is your friend category too...

[Neeper]

My wife and I rarely have arguements. She's passive and I am always right. Seriously, it's true. But when she is right, I have no problem admitting it at all.
Communication is the key to having a healthy relationship. Do not let things pent up inside, because it will always make it worse.

[BBQorMILDEW]

Wow, this thread makes me laugh.. I can truly say that i have had some major fights with my ex girlfriend. She is a spoiled rich brat, and i am a middle class work for my money kind of person. Sounds like the worst couple ever right??.

Typical fight.

I was out with her and my buddy playing pool one night. We left together and i planned on dropping her off at home first since my buddy is also my roommate. I was about 5 minutes from her house when she blurts out "why are you dropping me off first" I didn't want to cause a scene so i pretended i didn't hear her, "Deep down i knew she would start flipping out". I told her it was kind of stupid to drop off my buddy then drop her off after. We were not doing anything that night i had to work in the morning. So she sits there pouty face like a 6 year old who never got dessert. I am biting my tounge just so that i can drop her off without incedent. As sooon as i get to her house, she asks if she can go into the trunk, I say yes, She goes in there and starts throwing my golf clubs and everything else all over the street. I am laughing on the outside (at how emabarrassing this is) but deep down i am ready to "choke a bitch" I get out of the car and tell her to just calm down and breathe, which only escalates things. She's yelling and screaming. I go towards her and she throws her purse at me, I pick up the purse and chuck it across the street, she then blindsides me with a sucker punch, and breaks my glasses, by this time my buddy is trying to calm me down. She spits in my face, I completely lose it but of course i can't hit a girl, so i do the next best thing. I agitate and make her look even stupider than she already is. I am calling her every name in the book, so she throws another wild punch at me, to which i block and laugh at her. SHe then decides to kick me in the shin, so I throw her on her grass. Pack my up in the car and head home. 3 hours later i have cops at MY door. Wanting to talk to me about a domestic disturbance. Seems that my crazy ex has decided to call the cops not mentioning that she gave me a black eye and carved up my arms with her stupid nails. I had to plead my story to the policeman who was actually quite nice after i explained my story. I now have a restraining order against her, no phone calls nothing. It's really hard to admit it when you have someone who abuses you. I just thought she was just a little wild and that i could tame her, (her parents multi million dollar trust fund in her name would look good right about know though.) Stupid Philipino women... I have more stories but they will have to come later i suppose..

[BBQorMILDEW]

Typical fight number 2

I picked her up at her house to take her to school, On the way there she pulls out a bag of cut up apples, she says i can have some of them but to leave her some. So I take her to Pita Pit because she is bitching about being hungry. While waiting for her in there i decide to start eating the apple slices, I leave her about 6 apples which i thought was ok. (HAHA) I was wrong. She comes in and immedeitly starts flipping out about the apples, I am speechless APPLES??? I tell her that i will go to the grocery store and pick up a couple apples just to stop any fight,. She says she wants the apples cut into slices. I laugh at her and tell her to go fluck herself, which is something in hindsight maybe i shouldn't have done. She continues to berate me while i am driving. All the while I am telling her that she is Psycho and needs help to control her anger. (not a good idea) I said something about her being crazy and she jumps over while i am driving and scratches up my face, so i grab her arms and hold her back, she is scratching up my arms and punching me contiuiously in the back of the head. I get to a red light and i grab her by the neck and squeeze a little. Told her to calm down breathe. She slowly stops flipping out. I then make it to my house and I got out of the car and started taking my stuff out of the car. She gets out and starts wailing on the back of my head. I am telling her that it's over and she needs to be with someone else to abuse. She then takes out her phone and threatens to call the police to say that i choked her. I grab the phone and snap it she bites my arm to the point of BLOOD, I punch her in the leg to get her to stop. I go inside my house and she sits there in the car crying, She then goes to the neighbours house and calls the cops, who then go to my house and accuse me of abusing her, but this time i had evidence of her abuse, (myarm was bleeding my face was cut up) They had no choice but to lay charges on her, I didn't want to but it was outta my hands. My punch was deemed self defence and no charges were brought upon me. I have never really told this to anyone so this is a great big weight off my chest. I always check my car backseat to see if she will be there with a gun or a knife.
Thanks for reading this.

[Jayems]

^^ boy, I couldn't imagine lasting 5 seconds in that type of relationship. Number one (and I see you did it) but if someone ever laid a hand on me that was in a negative manner, I'd be out. Same with the apple thing... it sounds like you antagonize her too, but still, who cares. I couldn't live like that...

[@theCBE]

^^ if thats fighting then I've never had a fight with my g/f. That is insane.

Big arguments come up come up once or twice a year, minor disagreements occur with anyone you spend a lot of time with.. whether they are your girlfriend of just a friend. I learned after a few fights in a short period of time how to pick my battles... some fights are not worth getting into even if you are right. But sometimes you need to see it through to make a point.

[BBQorMILDEW]

Originally Posted by Jayems

^^ boy, I couldn't imagine lasting 5 seconds in that type of relationship. Number one (and I see you did it) but if someone ever laid a hand on me that was in a negative manner, I'd be out. Same with the apple thing... it sounds like you antagonize her too, but still, who cares. I couldn't live like that...

It was scary, I just couldn't trust myself, a part of me wanted to see how far this crazy girl would go. I was honestly scared that i was going to end up in jail over this broad..

[Flames in 07]

Originally Posted by return to the red

back the F8ck up.

I said we have our squabbles, I never said I "take out my anger on my spouse"

Thanks anyways though

I should add that the line is blurred as to what exactly a "fight" is. What may be a fight to me may not be a fight to you. I guess I should have said my wife and I argue, but we rarely fight

Your the same person who said:

"get's the anger out"

right?

Just using your words, I'm not referring to a fistfight either.

[Rathji]

I have had 3 major fights with my wife since I have known her (met 18 months ago, got married 11 months ago). They are mostly stupid little disagreements that blow up because one of us ( ME ) says something stupid. Our first was actually centered around a statement I made that a Japanese Truck wasn't a 'real mans truck'.

Now, we have disagreements about "How the heck am I supposed to read your mind" or " I honestly have zero memory and I thought I said I would be home at 11pm, not 9pm ". These kinda things are very minor, never lasting more than 5 mins at most.

Actually, I think the last big fight we had was about 4 months into our marriage. Let me just give a suggestion to anyone who might become a newly wed soon. Don't get pregnant in the first 6 months. It is hard enough learning to live with someone without learning that pregnant women are THE most insane force known to man.

[HalifaxDrunk]

Originally Posted by Flames in 07

Your the same person who said:

"get's the anger out"

right?

Just using your words, I'm not referring to a fistfight either.

I'm with the idea Return to the Red is trying to communicate. You are taking what he said literal (which is easy to do on a message board), I'm pretty sure he would like to re-word his 1st post. It diffuses anger rather then let it boil up inside you.

My wife and I have been married over 7 years and together since 1993. Yes, we have disagreements (call them arguments if you'd like). I would never say we are "fighting". We've never had anything that lasts longer than a 1/2 hour after we get our opinions out. The examples by BBQorMildew above are unbelievable, I can't comprehend being with a girl like that (see Jerry Springer/Cops).

[Regorium]

See when you're saying you give yourself a couple hours to "cool down", or other people say you guys go to the bar and booze up and things are all good after, isn't that a fight in itself? Sure it's not the yelling at each other, stuff getting ruined kind of fight, but still, I would define it as such. That's why I'm very wary of people that say that they've never fought with their s/o.

Here's my situation, I said some stupid things to my GF, she got really mad, and we didn't talk for like 3 days. Now everything's fine because we both got over it. Is this a "fight" or not? I would define it as one.

[Phanuthier]

Originally Posted by BBQorMILDEW

Wow, this thread makes me laugh.. I can truly say that i have had some major fights with my ex girlfriend. She is a spoiled rich brat, and i am a middle class work for my money kind of person. Sounds like the worst couple ever right??. ..

Well while I'm in a bad relationship, at least I'm not you.

Seriously though, you should get out of it.