What's the most painful thing you've been told?

[Puppet Guy]

When my best friend died.

[Cali Panthers Fan]

Originally Posted by Since1984

That my dick was too big and there was no way she would be putting it anywhere

Where's the poster "That Never Happened" to thank a post when you need them?

[schteve_d]

My parents told my sister and I for years, when we were quite young, that when you were born you are only allotted so many words and once you use them up, you can't talk anymore.

I get it. It's funny, actually, but it traumatized us both!

[Faust]

Originally Posted by White Out 403

thats rough man i can relate. is your mom still with you?

Unfortunately no. That diagnosis came in July 2020 and mom passed in April 2021.

How is your mom doing?

[rotten42]

When we were told our daughter needed major adnominal surgery 5 days after she was born.


It all turned out well though.

[fotze2]

My former best friend died. Came home from University and my mom told me. We had a falling out a couple months prior and hadn't talked for a while. I was kind of a nerd and wasn't into getting into bar fights at The Bank. Turned out his girlfriend dumped him for Mike Terrigno (the Osteria guy). He was getting his pilot's license and decided to fly the Cessna right into the ground that night. They weren't 100% sure it was suicide but if you knew him, it was totally suicide.

He's got a grown nephew with his same name and I follow him on instagram which is weird, but whatver.

[Fuzzy14]

There are a few, but these three stand out:

1) My mother had stage 4 breast cancer. My sister called me 15 minutes before the start of my thesis defense to inform me that my mother was in the hospital and had maybe 2 weeks to live. She lasted 10 days.
2) When my mother was in hospice, the end was clearly near. I had been there for 36 hours straight and just couldn't do it anymore. I went home to catch a nap. It was 2am and I was woken up by some crazy thunder and lightning outside. 30 seconds later my dad called me to tell me she was gone. I like to think she was waking me up to say one last goodbye.
3) I landed at home for christmas holidays while in law school. Turned my phone back off airplane mode and had a voicemail that one of my best friends had died; bit of a freak complication from a flu. He taught me how to golf and I think of him every time I pick up a club. "Keep your head down... keep your head down... keep your head down".

[Huntingwhale]

If you pop into the Ukraine war thread, I made a post a few pages in about my wife being trapped in an occupied village with her family a few kms from the russian border. Her text that morning with photos of tanks outside her kitchen window was probably the worst I have ever felt and an absolute whirlwind of dread and emotion...and that pain just went on and on until we were back together a few weeks later.

Fortunately I am one of the lucky ones who's pain from that has disappeared. Sad to read some of the stories in here.

[D as in David]

When my wife told me her cancer had returned and she wasn't willing to go through treatment for it again.

[DownInFlames]

I have a friend who grew up a Jehovah's Witness. We didn't really talk about it because he wasn't active in the religion. When his dad, who was a great guy, died of a heart attack I went to the wake. His mother starts talking about how she told the doctor that they couldn't allow them to do a blood transfusion. I was shocked that he could have lived but their religion made the surgery impossible.

[blankall]

Originally Posted by rotten42

When we were told our daughter needed major adnominal surgery 5 days after she was born.


It all turned out well though.

I don't think I knew the meaning of the word fear until I had a child. When I hear stories about people who've lost young children, my only thought is how do those parents manage to ever pull themselves together enough to continue on living themselves.

[White Out 403]

Originally Posted by Faust

Unfortunately no. That diagnosis came in July 2020 and mom passed in April 2021.

How is your mom doing?

My mom passed unfortunately. She had the whipple procedure her 1st diagnosis, and seemed to "cure" her. She stopped doing her annual scans after 5 or 6 years, and, then, 9 years later it just came back quite suddenly. From the time she first was diagnosed to when she passed was 8 months.

[Insufficient Funds]

I have a couple.


-My very good friend that I grew up with and were joined at the hip, committed suicide this past fall. None in our friend group knew he was struggling. Left behind the most precious 5 year old little girl you've ever met. She's got a lot of new aunts and uncles to help her through life now. Breaks my ####ing heart.
-My wife telling me she didn't want to married to me anymore and that she was leaving me after 15 years together. That feeling of being unloved/unlovable is pretty ####.

[schteve_d]

Originally Posted by D as in David

When my wife told me her cancer had returned and she wasn't willing to go through treatment for it again.

Wow.

[dissentowner]

Originally Posted by Yamer

Of course nobody knows exactly what happens when you die, but all science and common sense says nothing.

At least I know I can wax my carrot without someone watching me....unless I stipulate it.

Actually a lot of science is starting to believe that consciousness exists outside of the brain. I would actually argue given the data from new scientific studies and NDE reports that common sense says it is more likely you continue to exist in some form.

[dissentowner]

When I was 9 years old I was quite the troublemaker. After my friend and I were playing with matches in my dad's garage and the neighbour caught us my parents sent me to this institution I shall not name as I agreed not to slander them as part of a lawsuit I settled. The worst thing I have ever been told is "if you tell anyone, nobody will believe you" after being sexually assaulted multiple times by a councilor while residing there. I spent 9 months of hell there and I never told anyone until years later when other kids who had suffered the same fate came forward and there was enough victims to file a class action. It literally stole my childhood from me, I was never the same again. I still get nightmares about that period of time.

[White Out 403]

Originally Posted by dissentowner

When I was 9 years old I was quite the troublemaker. After my friend and I were playing with matches in my dad's garage and the neighbour caught us my parents sent me to this institution I shall not name as I agreed not to slander them as part of a lawsuit I settled. The worst thing I have ever been told is "if you tell anyone, nobody will believe you" after being sexually assaulted multiple times by a councilor while residing there. I spent 9 months of hell there and I never told anyone until years later when other kids who had suffered the same fate came forward and there was enough victims to file a class action. It literally stole my childhood from me, I was never the same again. I still get nightmares about that period of time.

jesus thats ####ing awful. did you talk to your parents about it as a child or grown up?

[dissentowner]

Originally Posted by White Out 403

jesus thats ####ing awful. did you talk to your parents about it as a child or grown up?

Never as a child. Only later on when I was really battling depression as a young adult. They felt guilty, they still do but they thought they were doing what was best for me. As a parent I get it, if I had placed one of my son's in a place thinking it would help him and that happened I would feel guilty too even though you could never have foretold that happening. I have never even gone to councilling for it, I probably should but I try to block it out. I don't even know what possessed me to post it on here. I guess strangers I interact with on a daily basis is easier to say something to than a personal friend.

[Snuffleupagus]

I'm pregnant again

[kipperiggy]

My mom tried to hide my dad's medical issues from us, but being myself I kept asking her why they were coming to the city for doctors appointments. Learning that he had memory issues just 3 years after her mom died of Alzheimer's was a punch in the guy.

He passed away 3 years ago today.