Moving the girlfriend in ...

[GreenLantern2814]

Originally Posted by skudr248

So.. the girlfriends moving in.

I am already settled on the fact I am going to marry this woman. We essentially already live together... I am always at hers and she is mostly at mine already here in Vancouver.

What I am asking for is what I can do to make her happy during this process. What would you do

More of a fun game, lets hear it.

Ask her to marry you.

Once that’s out of the way, Get married and do it small - like immediate family + best friends max.

You’ll actually get to enjoy your wedding, and save a ton of money.

This latest Covid wave is a perfect time to do it too; you don’t have to justify your decision to any of your tertiary friends And family, you can just say “####in Covid eh” and you’re off the hook.

Oh, and don’t listen to the bitter old men who lament marriage because they chose poorly.

Good luck.

Oh, and clean every surface of your apartment.

[topfiverecords]

Originally Posted by skudr248

So.. the girlfriends moving in.

I am already settled on the fact I am going to marry this woman. We essentially already live together... I am always at hers and she is mostly at mine already here in Vancouver.

What I am asking for is what I can do to make her happy during this process. What would you do

More of a fun game, lets hear it.

You should spend more time at the same place. Jokes aside, move all your stuff into storage and give her all the space she wants for her stuff.

[Nufy]

Delete your browser history...

NOW !!!

[Matata]

She's not moving in, she's taking over. Remove yourself from any sentimental attachments you may have to the layout of your home. She'll need a private space or two for herself, try and set that up immediately.

Congratulations, you are now the number one target for her to vent her frustrations and anxiety in life. There is a storm coming that has broken many men before you, but you can weather it if you can brace yourself and start making preparations for it now. Good luck and may god have mercy on you soul.

[djsFlames]

Rent a storage space to keep your "start a new life" cash, burner phones and foreign passports.

[CaptainCrunch]

Next thing you know, you'll be wearing sweaters and dress pants when you're at home. And learning to enjoy the next big fad diet, because she thinks you could stand to use a few pounds. Oh and why can't you be more like her father. And get rid of that mullet. And shouldn't we get a more sensible car.



(Think I got everything out of the way)


I have no advice to give, supposedly I'm a horrible person to live with.

[MoneyGuy]

Communicate, communicate, communicate.

Married 43 years and I’m not good at this communication thing so I don’t know how we’ve made it this long, but I read the communication thing somewhere.

[Cecil Terwilliger]

Ok most of these are helpful but I'm not gonna lie there are a few incel type responses. I think some are supposed to be jokes but it's hard to tell which are which.

[Nufy]

6 months after she moves in...

[Lanny_McDonald]

Don't tell her about your side piece.

Seriously, make sure you each have private spaces or agree that you can have time alone to do your own thing. If that means she get's a girl's day and you get a boy's day, make sure that is clear and you take advantage of it. Being together all the time doesn't give you space to breathe when needed. Make sure you factor in that breathing room.

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Lanny_McDonald

Don't tell her about your side piece.

Seriously, make sure you each have private spaces or agree that you can have time alone to do your own thing. If that means she get's a girl's day and you get a boy's day, make sure that is clear and you take advantage of it. Being together all the time doesn't give you space to breathe when needed. Make sure you factor in that breathing room.

He's in a condo in Vancouver, how many different rooms do you think the guy has?

[Locke]

[Jordan!]

Never go to bed mad at each other

[PaperBagger'14]

If she's moving into your place, it's very important to make feel like it's her home too. Try to call it "our home" in conversation, help her pick out places to put up her decorations. If you're handy at all, maybe build a piece of furniture for her that she would want.

Just do as much as you can to make it her home too.

[CroFlames]

Best piece of advice that I have a hard time following is to not sweat the little stuff.

My wife leaves chairs out after using them (not sliding em back under the table), we have a perfectly good mud room, yet she leaves her keys and other stuff on the kitchen counter, we have a shoe rack but she leaves her shoes right at the goddam entrance.

If you were smart, you would just let that #### go. If you are like me, you let it bother you and you get high blood pressure, your hair falls out and you shave years off your life.

We had fun time two nights ago, so it's all worth it

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by Cecil Terwilliger

Ok most of these are helpful but I'm not gonna lie there are a few incel type responses. I think some are supposed to be jokes but it's hard to tell which are which.

I was thinking this exact same thing.

It's disturbingly clear who here married a partner, and who married someone to be their mom.

[Brendone]

Originally Posted by calf

Try building some Ikea furniture together. If you can make it through that, you can make it through anything.

I would say ikea is a good pre-screen, but the ultimate test is to successfully back a trailer into a tight camp spot as a team (she can’t walk away and come back once your done). If your still on good terms after that, then your probably good for the long haul. It’s the ultimate test of patience and communication.

Also, hide any old clothes you don’t want thrown out, and as others have said, what’s yours is hers, and what’s hers is hers.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by PaperBagger'14

If she's moving into your place, it's very important to make feel like it's her home too. Try to call it "our home" in conversation, help her pick out places to put up her decorations. If you're handy at all, maybe build a piece of furniture for her that she would want.

Just do as much as you can to make it her home too.

This is good advice. Its going to be tough for a bit, but I would say to be open to finding a new place where you can start together.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by skudr248

More of a fun game, lets hear it.

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

I was thinking this exact same thing.

It's disturbingly clear who here married a partner, and who married someone to be their mom.

He was practically begging for the jokes. Relax Oedipus.

[Weitz]

Not gonna lie when the wife and I moved in together it was pretty simple and without issue. Mind you we are both adults who had clean apartments and did everything ourselves (cook, clean, etc). So it weaved into a partnership that worked fine.

Now when we got the puppy... He caused all sorts of havoc...