This is definitely good advice. Honestly I never thought my ex would have been doing a #### job until my son wouldn't stop talking about it, and I've never said a bad word about her.
Hey lawyers, is it bad form to post these letters and responses online?
It's weird, you never really know what people are capable of.
Just remember, it's not a reflection on you, and it might not be a true reflection of who she is either, everyone goes through their own #### and everyone is capable of doing ####ty things sometimes.
Stay strong man, it'll get better.
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I appreciate the advice everyone! Can anyone tell me exactly how admissible text messages are in court? I have records of all of our texts from since before we separated. I have records of her denying parenting time due to money, I have records of her refusing to take our son unless she got money and I have records of her refusing to honor our signed and filed agreement. Does anyone know someone who actually gives a #### that can help me? My lawyer seems to just want to go through the motions and get paid.
my experiance of family court is to some degree the texts arent going to matter that much, the court is about as powerless to enforce visitation as it is child support, they dont want to jail anyone so you can prove that your ex is a total cow to you and they can do little more than tell her to be nicer, you arent going to find a single 'solution' through court, you may end up going back and forth to court endlessly just to hear the court say 'Ms Smith you cannot stop your ex from seeing his child' she will say sorry and promise not to do it again, get pissed at you a week later do exactly the same thing and nothing will happen, this may be your cross to bare for a while
My ex was easier to deal with once we finally had the divorce settled, she was a complete bitch during the seperation period, she was never easy though, I was always walking on egg shells trying not to piss her off, never let her know I was dating or happy, that seemed to be a challenge to her to ruin my life in some small petty way.
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my experiance of family court is to some degree the texts arent going to matter that much, the court is about as powerless to enforce visitation as it is child support, they dont want to jail anyone so you can prove that your ex is a total cow to you and they can do little more than tell her to be nicer, you arent going to find a single 'solution' through court, you may end up going back and forth to court endlessly just to hear the court say 'Ms Smith you cannot stop your ex from seeing his child' she will say sorry and promise not to do it again, get pissed at you a week later do exactly the same thing and nothing will happen, this may be your cross to bare for a while
My ex was easier to deal with once we finally had the divorce settled, she was a complete bitch during the seperation period, she was never easy though, I was always walking on egg shells trying not to piss her off, never let her know I was dating or happy, that seemed to be a challenge to her to ruin my life in some small petty way.
That's what it's starting to look like...hopeless. Our separation has been settled and the agreement signed for over a year now.
The part that's really starting to get to me is that she can apparently to whatever she wants with no recourse, while everyone tells me to mind my myself.
I'm not even sure why I got a separation agreement drawn up as everyone tells me there's no consequences if she doesn't follow it.
I have a 4yr old son who tells me how "his mom always yells at him, how she makes him stay in his room and how she never plays with him" and more. It is absolutely heartbreaking. I'm sorry for putting my #### on here but honestly, I am pretty confident my lawyer is either awful or incompetent. I'm happy to hear the responses here and look for a new lawyer who will be able to represent me.
Sadly, I have a another good friend, with similar scenario. Heartbreaking for him too. Lots of love during this tough time.
I'm sorry this happened to you. I only have experience with this via clients, so I cant really give any advice....also...I'm not a lawyer. Just ride it out and be there for your kid.
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The part that's really starting to get to me is that she can apparently to whatever she wants with no recourse, while everyone tells me to mind my myself.
It sucks and it's not fair, but this way you get to live with the knowledge that you did what was best for your son.
I'm not saying don't fight it, but do it through lawyers / court rather than stooping to her level. Your feelings of frustration are valid, but taking them out on her / her lawyer or posting them online will likely make matters worse. A trusted friend or counsellor might be helpful.
I’m just a lowly corporate lawyer but this seems offside. If the lawyer is somehow trying to protect his/her client from the advice of pending breach being used against the client I don’t think that’s going to work.
The lawyer should have advised that the client wishes to re-negotiate the agreement and could certainly propose the terms on a without prejudice basis.
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