Desperate and F-off, or endearing and pleasant?

[calgaryblood]

Am I the only one who doesn't understand the thread title?

[Flashpoint]

Flowers is needy.

Phone her like a man and ask her out. If she says no, move on. If she says yes, then bring flowers.

[afc wimbledon]

First open up a Plenty of Fish account, get laid a few times with some random strange then decide whether you want to see her again.

No flowers, no note to work, its 2017 and that all looks stalky and desperate, even if she did like you that'd likely spook her, track down who ever it was that invited her and check with them or the ever popular Facebook friend request.

[Da_Chief]

Call where she works and ask to speak to her. Ask her out. She'll say yes. Profit.

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by 81MC

^ Pretty much.

Just at a non-familial wedding event, over two brief evenings. And I'm not cool enough to be a biker.

A wedding? Everyone knows all girls get very horny at weddings. If she walked away (or drove) after a wedding, forget it. She obviously went to someone else's place for action. You're done.

[SeeGeeWhy]

Modern protocol would be to Snapchat her a dickpic.

[metallicat]

Do you know where she works? Take a friend and hang out in the lobby until she comes down for lunch and then pretend you were there meeting up with a friend.

[Da_Chief]

Originally Posted by oilers_fan

Do you know where she works? Take a friend and hang out in the lobby until she comes down for lunch and then pretend you were there meeting up with a friend.

Nah. No need to play games. Be straight up, if she wants it she can have it if not move on and find someone else.

[Table 5]

Hanging out in the lobby with a friend is a good suggestion. If not, perhaps getting her number from some sort of charity list might do the trick.

[metallicat]

Originally Posted by Table 5

Hanging out in the lobby with a friend is a good suggestion. If not, perhaps getting her number from some sort of charity list might do the trick.

That might be a better idea. You have to put your phone number on those signup sheets. Are there any charity walks coming up soon?

[Amethyst]

If you randomly start hanging out where I work or get my phone number off a list somewhere and call me, HUGE stalker vibes are going to go off.

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by Amethyst

If you randomly start hanging out where I work or get my phone number off a list somewhere and call me, HUGE stalker vibes are going to go off.

Hmm, so would you say that showing up randomly and giving her a flower bouquet made out of her TV Guide would be out of the question?

[taco.vidal]

Originally Posted by Wormius

Or just ask to pass along your number / contact info to her because you liked her. Or put in a request for her contact info. That is, ask a mutual friend to ask her if you can get her number or something.

OP, if youre looking for more beta male suggestions, the best one would be to post a missed connections ad on Craigslist.

[Wormius]

Originally Posted by taco.vidal

OP, if youre looking for more beta male suggestions, the best one would be to post a missed connections ad on Craigslist.

What the what?

I was just suggesting that since they know somebody in common, ask that person to either ask her for her number for him, or pass along his to her.

[Galakanokis]

Originally Posted by Amethyst

If you randomly start hanging out where I work or get my phone number off a list somewhere and call me, HUGE stalker vibes are going to go off.

Me? I would be totally flattered especially if they happened to be an architect.

[EldrickOnIce]

Originally Posted by Wormius

What the what?

I was just suggesting that since they know somebody in common, ask that person to either ask her for her number for him, or pass along his to her.

Plus, it would be good to find out now if she was your cousin...

[SportsJunky]

WWHND?


What would Hockey Ninja do?

[wittynickname]

Originally Posted by Wormius

But, you must know somebody that she knows from the wedding. She was either invited by the groom or bride. Bring it up with one of them, and see if they can arrange something that would get you guys in the same room again. Or just ask to pass along your number / contact info to her because you liked her. Or put in a request for her contact info. That is, ask a mutual friend to ask her if you can get her number or something.

This is absolutely the best response in the entire thread, coming from a woman's point of view. I loathe having my number given out without my knowledge. Find a family member/friend who was at the wedding, figure out who knows her and how, and contact them and throw out a line that you're interested. Offer to give them your number to pass along to her, or have them ask her if it's okay to give you her number.

To me it feels like an invasion of privacy to just have my number given out without warning me. (But then I've had creepy guys who wouldn't stop calling/texting me excessively before, so I have bad experiences with that)

I would much prefer to have the guy's number given to me, so then I can make the decision whether to call/text or not.

Originally Posted by Flashpoint

Flowers is needy.

Phone her like a man and ask her out. If she says no, move on. If she says yes, then bring flowers.

I would say this depends on age. If she is over the age of 40, go for it. Under 40, to just call a woman out of the blue--this might seem excessively forward, and thus a flag goes up.

Originally Posted by Da_Chief

Call where she works and ask to speak to her. Ask her out. She'll say yes. Profit.

I'm not sure if this is a serious suggestion or not, but oh no, don't do this. Don't call a woman's workplace and ask to speak with her for a date. Beyond potentially getting her in trouble, depending on workplace protocol, to me that would be intensely creepy.

Flowers at work? Absolutely fine. A personal phone call at work? No way.

Spoken as a woman: either try to get in touch with her via mutual friends/family members/wedding contacts, or flowers at work with a small note and your number, those are your ways to go. Neither seems desperate or creepy. The flowers, honestly, would be a nice touch. Small romantic gesture, and then the ball is in her court and she can control whether or not to respond.

[Amethyst]

Originally Posted by wittynickname

Spoken as a woman: either try to get in touch with her via mutual friends/family members/wedding contacts, or flowers at work with a small note and your number, those are your ways to go. Neither seems desperate or creepy. The flowers, honestly, would be a nice touch. Small romantic gesture, and then the ball is in her court and she can control whether or not to respond.

Totally agree. One of these or the other.

[CaptainCrunch]

See fellas, flowers and a nice handwritten note, small gestures that take no time but mean a lot.