I personally think it's kind of dumb to greet the same people that you see every single day first thing in the morning. Do I greet them after lunch? Do I greet them if I run out for a coffee? If I go to the bathroom? What's so special about a longer gap? Seems like a waste of time, I just assume that everyone is glad to see everyone else.
Not doing it has nothing to do with arrogance (not necessarily anyway), assuming motivations in others when one doesn't have their expectations met is a worse thing IMO.
Or maybe I just get it from my autistic kid lol (we've spent years and years just training him to say "Hi" before he launches into a deep conversation with someone who just arrived, social niceties just mean nothing to him).
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I personally think it's kind of dumb to greet the same people that you see every single day first thing in the morning. Do I greet them after lunch? Do I greet them if I run out for a coffee? If I go to the bathroom? What's so special about a longer gap? Seems like a waste of time, I just assume that everyone is glad to see everyone else.
A lot can happen over night. Maybe they bought a new duvet cover because there was a sweet sale at HomeSense, or they got a groupon for cement mix. Maybe they found a cool rope on the ground after work, but the structural integrity was a bit shoddy, and besides, the rafters in the garage aren't all that accessible. Not to mention the state of their room. Nobody is going to miss somebody with a messy room.
So many things can happen in 10 hours! See a new movie? Play a hilarious hand in Cards Against Humanity? Kidnap a dog? Who knows?
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I generally greet everyone I see, and the level of interaction is commensurate based on a combination of how well I know them, how much I like them, or how much time I want to waste.
90% of the time. I've been told it is a very Calgarian thing to do. I say hi to stranger in passing while walking. If you meet each other's gaze for too long... it's awkward if you don't acknowledge it.
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Reversing being an introvert is pretty much impossible without pharmacological aid (but don't do that), being an introvert is an indication of the way stimuli effect the brain. Introverts are stimulated more easily and there is a lower threshold for something to force itself into the introverts cognitions. So fighting it is a lost cause, to overcome anxieties you have to put yourself into situations where you are forced to interact so that you learn to not care about judgments. There really is no cure for the anxiety beside repeated human interaction.
I thought you were a 20 year old geology student, not a Doctor of Psychiatry ?
I hate when you pass the same person multiple times and you both have to say hi every time, both knowing we have to keep up this stupid tradition so as to not offend.
really? just have to greet a person once a day. Especially coworkers.
The exception for me is someone on another floor I don't see often. There was this guy I hadn't seen for weeks and then on Friday I saw him in the elevator going in and then again in the elevator going down for lunch.
So I said something corny like.. hey, we must be on the same Friday schedule today!
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At home I'll say Hi when I come back from work and Bye when I leave for work...or just have a conversation without any greetings when leaving/arriving
At work, if I see someone close enough I say Hi. They usually reply with a "Good Morning" and only then do I say Good Morning back. Leaving work I'll "se ya" if I run into someone.
If someone doesn't initiate the greeting as I am passing by doesn't matter to me. If I greet and the other person doesn't - then they're probably really busy or didn't hear me - I still will rarely get offended.
I'll do my best to say "hi" or "good morning" or a variation there of.
I won't sticky head into someone's office while they're in the middle of something, but I try and make eye contact.
No eye contact, likely no greeting (mostly because I don't want to interrupt your train of thought).
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Simple guidelines for greeting people first (at least to me, I suppose):
If I walk into someone's office for the first time that day;
If I walk toward a person who's visibly older than me, I don't wait for him to say "Hi', first, I do it first always; same for ladies of all ages;
If I walk into a coffee room or boardroom and someone's there already, I always greet them first.
These are kinda obvious, not?
Not sure they're obvious.
Never heard of saying hello to women or older people first, and you could probably just as easily say that if someone enters a room/office that you're already in, you should say hello to them.
Either way, sounds like you have some nice rules you abide by, but I wouldn't get too worked up if someone doesn't follow them.
I usually say hello if someone says hello to me, or if I know them pretty well. If I'm busy or distracted I doubt I think about it too much, so I'm not really sure if I do it or not.
90% of the time. I've been told it is a very Calgarian thing to do. I say hi to stranger in passing while walking. If you meet each other's gaze for too long... it's awkward if you don't acknowledge it.
I don't know about that. I grew up in St. Albert where it's normal to say hi to total strangers on the sidewalk and when I moved to Calgary I got a lot of strange looks from people when I would try to do the same there. Now that I'm back in St. Albert I can go back to greeting total strangers.
I know Sainters wrote the exact same thing on the forum in a thread previously.
I make it a habit to greet strangers when I walk past them. Old sales practice, but I find it really helps make my day light and often makes others smile.
Don't get me wrong, if I'm standing in a line somewhere I don't say hi to everyone. But I make it a habit to greet, or nod and smile, to every single person I pass by within say a few feet. Within reason of course, not in crowds, etc.
I'll say 'hi' to someone if I see them, but I'll also go out of my way to avoid running into people I work with on the street. For example, if I see someone walking ahead of me, I'll actually walk a block out of my way to avoid a forced, awkward conversation. I walk at a really fast pace so I usually catch up to people pretty quickly. It's always awkward when I'm walking and catch up on someone only to say 'Hi. Well, see ya.', so I avoid that. Also, every once & a while I'll run into someone on my way to the train & it just so happens they're on their way to the train too so they start up a conversation. Then I have to walk infuriatingly slow to carry on the conversation. Then if they're taking the c-train the same direction I am it's even worse. I really enjoy just listening to music and tuning everything & everyone out on my commute home. It helps me relax after a long day and the absolute worst thing is when I get stuck having a 30 minute conversation about the weather with someone on the train.
Same thing with taking the elevator down to grab lunch. If there is someone waiting for the elevator that I'd really rather not talk to, I'll walk by them with a smile & pretend to go to the washroom so I don't get stuck walking the +15s with them.
I probably sound really anti-social.
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In the south of France, where I live, it’s three, in Burgundy, the Jura and Paris (Bordeaux and Champagne too, I’m sure) it’s two. In some regions just outside of Paris, the number is four!!?
There are countries, and regions, throughout Europe where men greet one another with kisses on either cheek.
We have a very odd social dynamic at work, probably because most of us have all worked together for a decade or more, and we see the same faces every morning.
No good mornings, how are you etc.... It's all just names.
Me - "Mike."
Mike nods.
Mike - "Trevor."
I nod.
Names are interchangeable with insults/derogatory nick names as well.
And instead of good bye, I re-enact this scene or just say Big-gulps if I am not in a improvitional mood..... 10 years and counting:
