Ok, I can live with that. Not especially excited, but I can live.
This kid was way past 2...
If you've seen me fighting the gay marriage cause, and women's issues, you'd know I'm cool...
This kid was way past 2...
I was just taking issue with:
I said (and still think) cut him off at 1 latest.
Since it goes against what all the latest studies show what is best for the Child. Though that doesn't mean you still have a breastfeed the whole time. You can just as easily pump and dump and give the milk in a bottle.
Attachment is one of the most important things a child can develop with their parents, it is actually what lets them become more independent, because they understand that they are loved.
That said, I don't think breast feeding a 7 year old does much for attachment that couldn't be gained in more age appropriate ways.
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I was just taking issue with:
I said (and still think) cut him off at 1 latest.
Since it goes against what all the latest studies show what is best for the Child. Though that doesn't mean you still have a breastfeed the whole time. You can just as easily pump and dump and give the milk in a bottle.
And I wasn't taking you to task.
I probably know more about breastfeeding than any guy should. Definitely more than any non parent guy should.
I'll admit, I was breastfed till about 1.4 years. But I was born with a significant defect. The cardiologist told my mom to do it as long as she could, but then she got preggers with my sis.
In healthy babies, you need to split the need for bonding and nourishment, with the lessons of independence. If you wanna pump that's fine, but you gotta start weening sometime.
I'm not even saying this for optics (which can get weird enough, believe me) but more for the development of the child. Go out, live, learn, play. And take your bottle with you. Whether it's formula, or mommies juice.
Attachment is one of the most important things a child can develop with their parents, it is actually what lets them become more independent, because they understand that they are loved.
That said, I don't think breast feeding a 7 year old does much for attachment that couldn't be gained in more age appropriate ways.
I kind of feel bad for both mom and kid here. Kid because his face isn't really obscured so this could follow him around pretty easily, and mom because it's her own kid and she's doing what she thinks is right. I would take issue if she was legitimately harming her kid, but she's not. Ya it's a little odd to me and not something my wife would partake in, but everybody parents differently. I definitely have opinions on parenting, but to publicly attack her for it seems unnecessary.
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Interesting fact:
If you look closely enough, you can see a 3 year old child in that picture.
That being said, this affects me in absolutely no way.
That being said, this is creepy, one of my buddies wife is into this and he's not too fond of it either (especially the "co-sleeping"). From what I've seen, he's lucky he only has daughters, because any kid raised by a mom like this is gonna be a huge sissy. Honestly, when I see how my friends 3 year olds who don't do this act, and compare it with how the ones who do, it's night and day.
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There have been long discussions about this magazine cover on my "mommy boards" and the conclusion that was reached wasn't about the image itself (though some comments ranged from the mom looking aggressive and wanting conflict with this image, as well as comments that it wasn't a natural breastfeeding position), it was more about more "mommy wars" associated with parenting topics and the feeling of superiority over moms who don't espouse the specific topic/lifestyle.
Virtually all articles that come out about parenthood, particularly motherhood, are slanted heavily toward one pole, with little consideration for the other side. It pits mom against mom - the breastfeeder vs. formula feeder, cosleeper vs. crib sleeper, Stay at home mom vs. working mom. Rarely ever is there an article that says "Hey! Do how YOU feel is right - if you don't feel right doing it, don't! Who cares what anyone else does with their kid?"
As for the photo itself - the United States has one of the worst breastfeeding rates in the industrialized nations. While it might not give normalcy to extended breastfeeding a 3 year old, if it can give a bit of normalcy to breastfeeding to a year, more power to them. And in the end, Time is just there to sell magazines, and this cover will do just that.
Signed, a new mom who formula feeds, has her kid sleeping in a crib after 2 months in a cosleeper, loves her baby carriers, will go back to work and put the kid in daycare and really tries hard not to care what anyone does in raising their kids as long as it's not criminal. (the last part is hard to do but I strive towards it).
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I can't believe stuff like this, the women who do this are whackjobs. And I'm saying this as a mother myself who has a strong bond with their child.
Attachment parenting is basically wanting complete and total control over another human being. You are robbing your child of independence when you do stuff like this. Which is only going to end up leading to behaviour where the child is 16 years old and expects Mommy to come to school and fight the bully for him or open his can of soda. These kids will grow up learning to be fully dependent on others.
Because they drink from the awesomest milk container in the world?
I think you are wrong about the implications, but I also don't fully understand what the 'attachment parenting' that is described in the article entails, so I might be out to lunch.
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She's going to be on the time life cover again in about 10 years with the title, look I'm a helicopter.
Its funny how things have changed.
In my day, it was off the tit, out of the parents bed, and you can cry all you want we ain't coming. What's the matter with your legs, can't you get your own glass of water. Here's a damn bat I ain't looking under your bed for monsters.
Then it was its only a skinned knee suck it up. the only way that bully is going to respect you is if you fight back, and don't come to me if you don't, and if your grades don't improve I'm gonna tell your teacher to fail you. I'll give you something to cry about.
Then it was, get a job, why don't you have a job, your grades suck, I'd be proud of you if you were ######ed. 5 years til your moving out, 4 years til your moving out, 3 years til your moving out, 2 years til your moving out, here's a hundred bucks get out of my house, I can't believe you joined the army, you keep making bad decisions but they're your decisions, that girl is no good, thank god its her families job to pay for the wedding, what the hell do you mean the wedding is off, I rented a damn tux. Followed by
You paid money for that piece of crap car? You paid money for that piece of crap house? What do you mean you don't like your job? Your getting paid perfectly good money to hate it.
Your girlfriend told me that you sniffled at the end of field of dreams, I raised a sissy
Then
Lets get a beer.
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Why would this chick be surprised with the type of reaction this is getting. The caption, combined with her stance in the picture all but guarantee a combative response. I wish there was someone out there that could present these topics in a balanced rational manner.
I'm a mom that couldn't wait to stop breastfeeding.
To me I got no enjoyment out of "nurturing" my child. I believe that everyone has their own views and mine is: that picture disturbs me.
When that boy gets to school, my daughter is likely going to kick his a$$.
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Sometimes I worry that you actually think your upbringing was even remotely consistent with the average child in your day.
t was pretty consistant. For all parts it must have worked. I have a sister who's one of the top research hemotologists on the planet. A sister who practices human rights law, another sister whos been with the O+G company where she started her first job for 30 years in a senior position, and I've had my successes.
None of us are deep in debt, have had major run ins with the law, and have handled all manner of adversity.
My parents weren't warm and fuzzy, problem solvers on first request. And absolutely there were relationship problems with my folks that I've talked about in the past, but that was just as much about my imaturity as my dads inability to be a truly warm buddy buddy dad due to his upbringing.
But based on what's happened in my and my sisters lives, I wouldn't trade my upbringing with the overly lets be best friends with our kids and not hold them to account parents that I know of now who's kids frankly are codenpendant messes.
Plus I'm not a serial killer so good on team mom and dad.
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