How do I get out of the "Friend Zone?" Help!!!

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Yeah. That's why men are now spending more than ever on grooming and little blue pills. I'm not quite sure how it benefits you when your woman constantly has a headache, but if you enjoy a life without sex, more power to you... Sure, go ahead and act like a teenager until you're 30. Meanwhile every girl you've ever had sex with is laughing at your penis size. Why? Because the sexual revolution has allowed us to discuss sex more freely.

Come to think of it, that might be why I'm single... Sure I love sex, but I'm kind of a bitch.

Joke's on you if you were still desperate enough to sleep with the dude.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Joke's on you if you were still desperate enough to sleep with the dude.

Nah, I'm way too selective for that. I don't need a man to get me off so it allows me to pick and choose a little better. Another benefit to the sexual revolution I suppose...

[Table 5]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Come to think of it, that might be why I'm single... Sure I love sex, but I'm kind of a bitch.

That might do it. Just like you don't want a man-child in your life, most men don't want a bitch to hang around with. Well, unless you're super hot...then it really doesnt matter.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by Table 5

That might do it. Just like you don't want a man-child in your life, most men don't want a bitch to hang around with. Well, unless you're super hot...then it really doesnt matter.

I don't have a problem with men-children. I love to play too.

[arloiginla]

Originally Posted by Agamemnon

I don't think the point is that she's subtely interested in you, I think the point is she may hang out with you (and flirt with you) for attention, not because she wants to get in a relationship with you. Lots of women have their 'best friend' guy friends to give them the emotional crap their boyfriends don't give them, ie. listen to every inane thought in their head.

She doesn't really come across as one who craves attention that way, and furthermore she did give me a straight answer and didn't milk the situation and I appreciated that, so I have no problems continuing our friendship from where we left off and neither does she, it's like it didn't happen.

But like I said, if she ever does change her mind...too bad for her. My wiener will be flopping in someone else's hotdog bun

[STeeLy]

Originally Posted by arloiginla

My wiener will be flopping in someone else's hotdog bun

[Phanuthier]

Originally Posted by FireFly

I don't know. Men are idiots? Can't see a good thing when she's on her knees in front of them....

Call me

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

You have to work to get it to the aforementioned second state.

News to me.

Ozy_Flame we dub thee floppy.

No no, it's only floppy when she's not jones'in for a ballpark frank.

Of course, that said, sliding it into a hot dog bun at the most opportune time in a restaurant is a guaranteed dose of love potion!

This is all hypothetically speaking, of course

[Agamemnon]

Originally Posted by arloiginla

She doesn't really come across as one who craves attention that way, and furthermore she did give me a straight answer and didn't milk the situation and I appreciated that, so I have no problems continuing our friendship from where we left off and neither does she, it's like it didn't happen.

But like I said, if she ever does change her mind...too bad for her. My wiener will be flopping in someone else's hotdog bun

Really? You can honestly be perfectly platonic friends with this chick you've liked for a long time who rejected you and is with other guys? You're stronger than I my friend, that sounds like a rough setup for you. I suppose as long as you don't feel badly about it (and by badly, I mean continuing feelings for her), then go nuts. I'd distance myself completely and go after new women, but I'm a weak, weak man.

[zukes]

Originally Posted by FireFly

I don't know. Men are idiots? Can't see a good thing when she's on her knees in front of them....

I'm pretty sure it moved a little right there

[arloiginla]

Originally Posted by Agamemnon

Really? You can honestly be perfectly platonic friends with this chick you've liked for a long time who rejected you and is with other guys? You're stronger than I my friend, that sounds like a rough setup for you. I suppose as long as you don't feel badly about it (and by badly, I mean continuing feelings for her), then go nuts. I'd distance myself completely and go after new women, but I'm a weak, weak man.

Yeah to be honest, I didn't think it would be that easy but once I realized the fact that I was able to put aside my feelings for 4 years without saying anything, it shouldn't be too hard to put them aside forever. When you think about it, nothing's changed. I didn't have her before and I don't have her now. Only difference is that I'm also now without the "what if" and without regrets for finally having asked.
So yeah, it feels great. You can't make someone want you (other than whipping the junk out, apparently). You can control how you decide to let it affect you, so may as well make the best of it and move on.
There's a taco out there for every fish stick

[Agamemnon]

Originally Posted by arloiginla

Yeah to be honest, I didn't think it would be that easy but once I realized the fact that I was able to put aside my feelings for 4 years without saying anything, it shouldn't be too hard to put them aside forever. When you think about it, nothing's changed. I didn't have her before and I don't have her now.

Well... you're right, nothing's changed... you're still hanging out with a girl you (used to?) like. Doesn't that feel wierd? Are you honestly cool with any guy she ever goes out with? You're not jealous when they're together and she's macking him, not you?

Only difference is that I'm also now without the "what if" and without regrets for finally having asked.
So yeah, it feels great. You can't make someone want you (other than whipping the junk out, apparently). You can control how you decide to let it affect you, so may as well make the best of it and move on.
There's a taco out there for every fish stick

Wow... you have a super-positive attitude. Good for you. I couldn't imagine spending time with a girl I really liked who rejected me and stay 'just friends'. I thought that only happened in movies...

[arloiginla]

I won't lie to you, its difficult not to feel a twinge of jealousy when shes out with other guys, but it used to feel worse before I told her I liked her, than it does now. Before there was always that "that could be me" element to it, and now since I tried and I know it can't be me, I choose to move ona nd not let it bother me.
Besides when I'm together with her, we're never with any other guys (any guys that she dates anyway) so its easy to not think about it.

[REDVAN]

I just wanted to prove to FireFly that I actually did read the thread and my only comment is that it's good information to know. Just in case.

But since arloiginla is trying to get this back on topic, time heals all wounds buddy, time heals all wounds.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by REDVAN

I just wanted to prove to FireFly that I actually did read the thread and my only comment is that it's good information to know. Just in case.

But since arloiginla is trying to get this back on topic, time heals all wounds buddy, time heals all wounds.

That wasn't the point in you reading the thread. But it's good that you forgot the rest of the conversation during your perusing.

And frankly, some wounds time does not heal. You can't come back from death. (Just to play devils advocate.)

It's better to know though. If there's nothing there on her end, there probably never will be. Even if she did come back to say she wanted you later, chances are that it wouldn't last and would be a rebound because you're a friend and she knows you're there for her. So it's a good idea to keep away from that.

[simonsays]

If there is a revenge bank they certainly don't take deposits. That's the whole point. You can't go on all 'this didn't bother me'---'yeehaw revenge week!!!'. Doesn't work that way. The revenge bank would accept a small percentage of your soul each month in return for keeping your hatred fresh.

Oh, and slapping your dick on the table in public looks silly. It looks pretty silly in private too, but who's going to know?

[REDVAN]

Originally Posted by FireFly

So let's get this straight here. You're having a conversation with a female and she tells you she doesn't want you. The idea is that your immediate reaction is to flop your weiner on the table... So then, if it's not limp, either you've been "getting it ready" during the conversation (masturbating at a restaurant?) or you can immediately get hard.

If it's the first option, you're a perv, and that clearly won't work. If it's the second option... How YOU doin?

Is that the point of wearing a Flames jersey to a karaoke bar too?

[KevanGuy]

Alright, thats enough.