Living together before marriage

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by rubecube

That was my first thought too, but then he told me to bring one of my buddies. Apparently we're going to golf course he's a member at and hitting the clubhouse.

Dad in whatever - "So son, ya ever seen a fairway from underneath."

6 months later

Dad in whatever - "Guys I love this hole except for that hill just to the right of the fairway, I hit that sob with my drive every time On purpose"

[flamesfever]

I think the Dad is very clever. You can tell a lot about a person's character while golfing.

Remember, no cheating, cursing, fits of temper, talking while a person is playing, etc.

Oh wait...you said the clubhouse...probably too late for golf..or is it in Victoria?

[Yeah_Baby]

Originally Posted by rubecube

This worked out better in my favour than I planned. He admitted to her mom that it was disrespectful to our relationship but those were beliefs. He's buying us a new BBQ this week, gaves us money for groceries, and is taking me boozing after work next week. I asked my girlfriend what this was all about and she told me he doesn't like to admit when he's made a mistake, so this is how he apologizes. We're cool now.

Glad to see he's respecting your relationship considering how much you respect his beliefs.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by flamesfever

I think the Dad is very clever. You can tell a lot about a person's character while golfing.

Remember, no cheating, cursing, fits of temper, talking while a person is playing, etc.

Oh wait...you said the clubhouse...probably too late for golf..or is it in Victoria?

We're not golfing, just going to the clubhouse. It is in Victoria but it's too late in the day for golf. We've golfed together several times. Like I said previously, we actually get along really well for the most part, this just happened to piss me off.

[SebC]

And I thought this thread got bumped because of the Tiger Woods thread...

[longsuffering]

Originally Posted by rubecube

This worked out better in my favour than I planned. He admitted to her mom that it was disrespectful to our relationship but those were beliefs. He's buying us a new BBQ this week, gaves us money for groceries, and is taking me boozing after work next week. I asked my girlfriend what this was all about and she told me he doesn't like to admit when he's made a mistake, so this is how he apologizes. We're cool now.

So you're too proud or principled to sleep in separate beds under his roof, but not too proud to let him put food on your table.

You sound like the type of guy any father would dream of have date his daughter.

Ever think he just wishes his baby girl was living with someone who could actually support her?

I curious whether you work full time or are a full time student, or neither?

[Mr_Hockey]

I think you need to respect the dads wishes. Get it over with. I went out with my gf for 8 years before we got married. She lived in a different city. We always slept in separate beds when visiting each others families (our families have known each other for over 20 years). No questions asked. Our families aren't religious either.I didn't care. We went on our own vacations as well.

A little OT, but I told some of my friends this story (A lot are East Indian). They said they would be shot if they told their parents they never wanted to get married or have kids lol. They almost get disowned for thinking that way.

EDIT: OOPS I didn't read your update. Glad it went well.

[stang]

Originally Posted by rubecube

Yes.



No.



Maybe. I've never been too concerned with owning a house but I could see that changing.



Not a chance.



Depends on what your definition of "being married" is.



So you're saying marriage is the same thing, just add in a joint bank account and a name change?

I am married and we dont have a joint bank account. I cant see us ever getting one either.

Originally Posted by The Yen Man

You're signing one piece of paper to please her dad. Is it really that tough if you're planning to be in the long haul anyways? One piece of paper gets the guy off your back for good, and you can legitimately sleep with your girl in his house without him having any problems with it. I guess I just see it as a small thing to save everyone a lot of grief.

Holy crap whats with all the presure to get married. The guy is 23 years old. If him and his girlfriend dont feel like they ever want to get married all the power to them.

I really dont understand the whole, get married to make the family happy, even if you dont believe in it at all, its still a BIG thing in other terms (money etc.)

Rube, did you sleep on the couch?

Oh and can I get the link to the ex boyfriend story?

[North East Goon]

Damn Sinners just having a good time, while the rest of us are getting none in a proper marriage arangement!!!!

[Muta]

Sinning is what keeps me going. The thought of being with the same person right now for a very long time bores me... but I understand that's just me.

Marriage is my kryptonite... atleast in my 20's and 30's. If I want to get tied down, I'll do it when my body really starts its age-based deterioration. Until then, I'm going to drink, travel, pillage and plunder until my heart is content.

[troutman]

Originally Posted by Muta

Sinning is what keeps me going. The thought of being with the same person right now for a very long time bores me... but I understand that's just me.

Marriage is my kryptonite... atleast in my 20's and 30's. If I want to get tied down, I'll do it when my body really starts its age-based deterioration. Until then, I'm going to drink, travel, pillage and plunder until my heart is content.

Having children is better than all that. But you have to be ready for it.

[BlackAce]

Originally Posted by troutman

Having children is better than all that. But you have to be ready for it.

Good to know My first is on the way in January... yikes! Always good to hear the "great" about children

[Muta]

Originally Posted by troutman

Having children is better than all that. But you have to be ready for it.

Probably true. But you're right, you do have to be ready. Which I will not be for a very long time, but atleast I can acknowledge that.

[flamesfever]

Originally Posted by troutman

Having children is better than all that. But you have to be ready for it.

I agree. These young robust hedonists may some day look back on their early years with regret.

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by longsuffering

So you're too proud or principled to sleep in separate beds under his roof, but not too proud to let him put food on your table.

He gave my girlfriend some gift certificates to get groceries. We don't need the help, but it was a nice gesture on his part and fully appreciated.

You sound like the type of guy any father would dream of have date his daughter.

I'd say so. I'm gainfully employed, treat my woman with respect, participate in her family's life, not abusive or adulterous, don't spend more than I make, etc.

Ever think he just wishes his baby girl was living with someone who could actually support her?

I curious whether you work full time or are a full time student, or neither?

I work full-time and am the sole bread-winner in our relationship. My girlfriend has been unemployed for the past few months.

[BlackAce]

Sounds like you should maybe dump your unemployed, deadweight gal and start dating her dad... Mmmm groceries and boozing dates

[Red_Baron]

I sleep better when I don't share the bed with my wife so when I was in this situation it was no big deal to me.