Have you cold approached a girl?

[DoubleF]

Originally Posted by Dion

I'm looking for donations to get my production company up and running

Just get a few CP members with borrowed go pro strapped to their bodies and start a reality show called, "Rec League". Copy situations from Trailer Park Boys and you'll probably be gold.

"In today's episode, Dion's stats against other rec teams isn't that great, so to boost team morale, everyone is going to try help him to score in different ways off ice."

[FanIn80]

Damn, there's some creepiness in this thread...

Edit: I mean, besides the fact that I've just posted in it.

[CalgaryFan1988]

I met my wife by "cold approaching". Will be 15 years ago in August. I met all my previous gf's that way as well. I'm old so not many options beforehand.

[DoubleF]

I personally believe cold approach conversation vs cold approach pick up is different. I do the former, not the latter. A cold approach conversation can definitely get to the point where going further is doable.

[Thor]

Originally Posted by strombad

Anytime you have to watch a video about approaching girls, you're already too much of a loser to make it worth bothering.

Sorry but this is stupid. First guys don't learn this naturally, no one teaches us what women like and don't like when being approached. These guys right or wrong test out what works and learn what doesn't, the hard way.

There is a science to the art of the pickup, if you think they are losers, fine, but they get results and ultimately learning the game and what works makes life better for both women and men.

I really wish women were more into being the aggressors in social settings, which happens a lot more here in Iceland than anywhere else, but sadly its almost always up to the guy to initiate and that means you should learn what works and what doesn't.

There is so much behind all this, psychology, confidence, and becoming a better more confident guy, and I wish I had read "The Game" by Neil Strauss when I was 16, just so much stuff I had to learn the hard way.

Mind you now with my celebrity in Iceland things are a lot easier, but I still find myself using things I've read and learned over the years, and it works, not always mind you but I can promise you good looking women like it, they don't feel like they are being harassed and have fun, which is the goal of learning this stuff, so you are not that annoying guy most girls want to run away from.

[malcolmk14]

There are a lot of young, attractive, single women in that area of the city. I used to take the 301 from Westside and often struck up a conversation. Got a couple numbers, nothing ever really went anywhere though.

[strombad]

Originally Posted by Thor

Sorry but this is stupid. First guys don't learn this naturally, no one teaches us what women like and don't like when being approached. These guys right or wrong test out what works and learn what doesn't, the hard way.



There is a science to the art of the pickup, if you think they are losers, fine, but they get results and ultimately learning the game and what works makes life better for both women and men.



I really wish women were more into being the aggressors in social settings, which happens a lot more here in Iceland than anywhere else, but sadly its almost always up to the guy to initiate and that means you should learn what works and what doesn't.



There is so much behind all this, psychology, confidence, and becoming a better more confident guy, and I wish I had read "The Game" by Neil Strauss when I was 16, just so much stuff I had to learn the hard way.



Mind you now with my celebrity in Iceland things are a lot easier, but I still find myself using things I've read and learned over the years, and it works, not always mind you but I can promise you good looking women like it, they don't feel like they are being harassed and have fun, which is the goal of learning this stuff, so you are not that annoying guy most girls want to run away from.

Without going down the whole misogynistic line here that things like a video guide clearly represents, all I'll say is that it really is just stupid.

If it makes your life easier, great I suppose, but women are just human beings like anyone else, you don't need any special techniques to talk to them. There isn't some magic formula.

Just look at it this way: How would you look at some guy if he had to watch a video on "How to chat with friends!" just so he could go out for drinks with his buds? A little unfortunate and embarrassing, of course. It's the same thing. You could say it in a nice way if you wanted, but the guy would definitely be a "loser."

My point is simply that videos and books and all that stuff are really embarrassing and disrespectful things to admit to using. The idea that you need a lesson on how to talk to a woman treats them like they're something more or less than human. They're just people. Just talk to them like people. It isn't magic.

Just look at Dion. He goes and he talks to them like they're human beings, and it seems to turn out just fine for him. Again, if you need to watch a video to learn to talk to people like they're people, you should probably just die alone.

[AcGold]

I found cold-approaching two girls that are talking to each other a lot easier than just one because they feel less threatened. I'd just go up say hi and then ask if I interrupted them during an interesting conversation, then it's hard getting them to stop talking. It worked on even the very best looking ones, they just love to talk about themselves. Finish by asking the most interested one for her number.

[calf]

Originally Posted by DoubleF

I personally believe cold approach conversation vs cold approach pick up is different. I do the former, not the latter. A cold approach conversation can definitely get to the point where going further is doable.

This. Some of you should lose the mentality that women are objects to be picked up.

[2ArmBands]

Originally Posted by calf

This. Some of you should lose the mentality that women are objects to be picked up.

I always tried to lay them down personally

[GreenLantern]

I think that the only logical way this thread can progress is if some of the posters start cold approaching girls, sober, and document their findings here for our entertainment science.

[HOWITZER]

Transit is the easiest place to cold approach. I spent last summer in Toronto, and would play "lost tourist" on the subway system. People love giving help, and if you're transferring onto the same train, by the time I get off, I usually had a number. Also great because in the tube there's no cell service so a lot of people just sit there like they did pre-cellphone.

[TheGrimm]

Originally Posted by GreenLantern

I think that the only logical way this thread can progress is if some of the posters start cold approaching girls, sober, and document their findings here for our entertainment science.

Agreed, if this thread has taught me anything... All I have to do is steal a baby/dog and stroll up to a woman, compliment her on her tatoo's/highlights and she won't be able to resist petting me.

Will report back with successes.

[Northendzone]

my closest experience was a warm apporach, as there was a woman at the gym that caught my eye, and one day I was at the mall and we literally walked into each other, we stood in the mall chatting for a few minutes, then went on our way, saw her at the gym the next week and we chatted and I then asked her for lunch - otherwise my track record is somewhat dismal......

[socktape]

I walked up to a woman on the 69 street train and said,"Hey, are you girlysports?" She punched me in the gut and walked away. I will try again on the way home!

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by AcGold

I found cold-approaching two girls that are talking to each other a lot easier than just one because they feel less threatened. I'd just go up say hi and then ask if I interrupted them during an interesting conversation, then it's hard getting them to stop talking. It worked on even the very best looking ones, they just love to talk about themselves. Finish by asking the most interested one for her number.

This kind of stuff just blows my mind. You have to either be joking or completely lacking self-awareness to not realize that this is a misogynist statement. Here's a good tip, if you think replacing the word "women" with say "black people" when makes your generalization sound kinda racist, it's probably also a sexist statement.

[Wood]

Originally Posted by vegasbound

I have been hit on a lot when I drive my truck. I have a nice truck but 99% of the guys who hit on me have THE WORST PICKUP lines. Saying "you have a really nice truck, can I have your number?" will not work. Or "I really hope that's not your boyfriends truck."

vegasbounds truck:

Spoiler!

[TheGrimm]

Originally Posted by rubecube

This kind of stuff just blows my mind. You have to either be joking or completely lacking self-awareness to not realize that this is a misogynist statement. Here's a good tip, if you think replacing the word "women" with say "black people" when makes your generalization sound kinda racist, it's probably also a sexist statement.

You can make almost anything sound kind of racist when you put it like that...

Black people love to wear dresses.
Black people pee sitting down.
Black people use a different public bathroom than men.

See what I did there?

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by rubecube

This kind of stuff just blows my mind. You have to either be joking or completely lacking self-awareness to not realize that this is a misogynist statement. Here's a good tip, if you think replacing the word "women" with say "black people" when makes your generalization sound kinda racist, it's probably also a sexist statement.

Men, women, kids, whites, blacks, yellows, all people like to talk about themselves. While the way he phrased it may seem dickish, it doesn't make it any less true.

[Senator Clay Davis]

Originally Posted by Coys1882

Don't waste your time on little old me - there's a misogyny thread somewhere that needs you.

Originally Posted by rubecube

This kind of stuff just blows my mind. You have to either be joking or completely lacking self-awareness to not realize that this is a misogynist statement. Here's a good tip, if you think replacing the word "women" with say "black people" when makes your generalization sound kinda racist, it's probably also a sexist statement.

Apparently it's this thread.