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flambers · 07-23-2007, 04:33 PM

I agree with KevanGuy, call her up...

I bet she thought you too were an item or were going to be an item and your actions with her firiends ...friend... totally ticked her off.

enthused · 07-23-2007, 04:35 PM

She deleted you from facebook? Thats right up there with "you're not invited to my birthday party anymore", maturity-wise.

If she liked you, she should have made a move. You snooze, you lose.

jammies · 07-23-2007, 04:38 PM

I agree with whoever said that you should have tried for the 2 for 1 deal. If she was really your friend, she would have said yes... yes.... oooooohhhhh yes!

rubecube · 07-23-2007, 04:40 PM

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Originally Posted by Muta

MY EYES... MY EYES... NSFW! Boss walks by, happens to read this post... wonders what kind of forum I'm on... holy could this have gotten more awkward

But I agree... bang away!

Agreed. We're men, it's what we do....we like to bang.

J pold · 07-23-2007, 04:46 PM

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Originally Posted by rubecube

Agreed. We're men, it's what we do....we like to bang.

Here Here!

octothorp · 07-23-2007, 04:49 PM

Confront your friend, but for the love of god, figure out what you're going to say first. Write it down if you need to. I don't think you did anything wrong exactly, but being upfront and honest is the best way to recapture any moral highground you might have lost. She'll probably want to know where things are at, relationship wise, with the friend-of-a-friend, where things are with her, what you honestly thought of her, and the amount of effect that alcohol had on your decision-making that evening. Don't say anything stupid like 'sleeping with her had absolutely nothing to do with you.' Even if it's the truth. To quote Lionel Hutz, there's the truth, (frowns and shakes head), and the truth (smiles widely and nods). Also be prepared for the declarations of unrequited love; those are doozies.

HOOT · 07-23-2007, 04:51 PM

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Originally Posted by fredr123

Totally in the wrong.

Should have invited the friend to play along.

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Originally Posted by Table 5

bang chick #1, kick her out, and then go bang chick #2.

seriously though, any good friend would sacrifice sleep to help get their friends laid. thats what friends are for.

^^ Both winners of this thread so far

One thing I would suggest is maybe putting names to your story so its not so confusing, make them up for all we care we wouldn't know the difference anyways.

However I am falling along correctly I would say you did nothing wrong if the girl you first hook up with a long time ago (we will call her Sara) wanted a peice of you she should have said something, guys and girls can't be expected to wait forever, especially when there has been no communication to show interest.

Now another thing is her friend (we will call her Mary) should have known better if Sara liked you. However if Sara never mentioned anything to Mary then neither of you are in the wrong. If Sara's friends don't know how the hell should you know.

I would honestly phone her up, don't text or facebook thats just wimpy, and ask her what the hell her problem is. If she says nothing, well she is lying because she wouldn't have deleted you off facebook. I wouldn't put too much effort in trying to keep the freindship because Sara should have just said something to you instead of being 13 years old and deleting you off facebook because she is mad.

Also as Troutman put it, this thread is useless without pics

Just don't get in trouble like I did.

TheyCallMeBruce · 07-23-2007, 04:58 PM

You should have practiced celibacy, then none of this would have happened.

HOOT · 07-23-2007, 05:02 PM

^^ Gay!

suegate · 07-23-2007, 05:03 PM

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Originally Posted by enthused

She deleted you from facebook? Thats right up there with "you're not invited to my birthday party anymore", maturity-wise.

If she liked you, she should have made a move. You snooze, you lose.

I have to agree with this one, especially being a girl, totally lame to all of a sudden become passive aggressive and act like a school girl...although school girl acts can be fun...

Sylvanfan · 07-23-2007, 05:07 PM

I think you did play your cards wrong. The menage a trois was there to be had and you dropped the ball.

suegate · 07-23-2007, 05:11 PM

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Originally Posted by fotze

She went to your bedroom and you hadn't previously? That is her way of saying, "enough of this charade, let's fata". She was probably in there getting all ready for you to come in and have your way with her. She went out on a limb in front of a bunch of people only to have you come in with another chick saying "Hey, put you pants on and get out, me and Sally here are gonna hump, the rest of the gang are outside you can go home with them". Then she has to slink back out of your room shot down. Of course she is pissed. Mind you she probably only pushed it to the next level because she saw you hitting it off with Sally.

The situation here is a no win, women shouldn't be allowed to think that it's okay to make assumptions on men's behalfs, that's f****ng crazy and never does any good. Women like the one described here would loose their minds if a guy ever made those same assumptions...it should go both ways but it totally doesn't. So, whatever. Not worth the games she's already playing. Plus the part at the end about it being in spite 'cause you were paying attention to another chick tells you she probably has something contagious, because that's not normal behaviour, completely lame in my book...!!

ken0042 · 07-23-2007, 05:15 PM

Most important question- are you still with "Mary?" If so, then you made the right call.

rubecube · 07-23-2007, 05:26 PM

I had a similar situation where one of my really good friends was over and she got really drunk and ended up passing out in my bed way before the party was over. Another chick at the party ended up being the last person there so, me being me, I decided to tak advantage of the situation (completely forgetting about the other girl in my bed). We walked over to my room opened the door and I was kind of like "Oh."

CaramonLS · 07-23-2007, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by rubecube

I had a similar situation where one of my really good friends was over and she got really drunk and ended up passing out in my bed way before the party was over. Another chick at the party ended up being the last person there so, me being me, I decided to tak advantage of the situation (completely forgetting about the other girl in my bed). We walked over to my room opened the door and I was kind of like "Oh."

You can't end a story like that.

Table 5 · 07-23-2007, 05:28 PM

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Originally Posted by CaramonLS

You can't end a story like that.

you can if it ends with an oh oh oh face.

rubecube · 07-23-2007, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by CaramonLS

You can't end a story like that.

The ending isn't very much fun. It ends with the one girl going home and me sleeping on the couch.

Muta · 07-23-2007, 05:53 PM

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Originally Posted by rubecube

The ending isn't very much fun. It ends with the one girl going home and me sleeping on the couch.

Menage a solo

RougeUnderoos · 07-23-2007, 06:12 PM

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Originally Posted by fotze

She went to your bedroom and you hadn't previously? That is her way of saying, "enough of this charade, let's fata". She was probably in there getting all ready for you to come in and have your way with her. She went out on a limb in front of a bunch of people only to have you come in with another chick saying "Hey, put you pants on and get out, me and Sally here are gonna hump, the rest of the gang are outside you can go home with them". Then she has to slink back out of your room shot down. Of course she is pissed. Mind you she probably only pushed it to the next level because she saw you hitting it off with Sally.

Yeah, she got pretty badly burned. No doubt she's pissed and maybe even embarrassed. I don't know many dames that would slink into some guy's bed in the middle of the night just to sleep.

flip · 07-23-2007, 08:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Poison

Exactly what i was thinking, i tend to think there was a reason she was in your bed when you got back from the store.
Was the one you hooked up with hotter? Thats the real question here...

and are you going to have another chance to tap it?

i would call her and just talk about it. maybe you are just to stupid and oblivious to realize she has always been all over you. or maybe her friend was just hotter, either way just calmly discuss this matter with her. despite what most people would lead you to believe many women are rational and logical thinkers. at least i don't date the crazy ones anyway.

she may just forgive you...and then you can have makeup sex. as long as she was mad at you it qualifies i think.