Anniversaries: Are they important?

[J pold]

Originally Posted by red sky

Better not take her out for Mexican food... we do not want her accidentally letting a fart slip as we know your feelings towards that. Unless of course you sneak some ground up imodium pills into her wine

HA! Actually we got out for Mexican all the time. Salt and Pepper is one of our favorite restaurants!

But you are right if she farted at diner the only thing she would get for our anniversary would be a lease offer to dumpsville…population her.

Anyway after reading rube’s problem I thought that I would ask my GF what she thought about me watching the football game on the say of our anniversary (my situation is tad bit more complicated as I’m going away for school next year). I told her that I would come back into town and that we can watch the football game together than I will take her out somewhere after. She said that would be perfect, problem solved.

Also rube should be able to do what he wants. If she can’t compromise three hours for something that is important too him (even if she doesn’t understand) than forget her. It’s better to be with someone for a shorter amount of time and be totally focused and engaged with them than spending the entire day together while you are thinking of something else. I love my GF too death but she isn’t the centre of my life, she is a huge part of it, but she will never dictate it. If you make your GF/wife the centre of your being than you relationship is bound to fail. You will start to resent her and she will loose respect for you and your ability to be an independent person.

[GirlySports]

Come on! Do you really need to watch THREE football games on your anniversary? That would make me mad too.

"We" would have to book dinner and you'd have to miss the night game.
If the Eagles are the night game then we'd have to book lunch. Or I'd even let you off the hook and book dinner on the Saturday night (it doesn't have to be the exact day).

But seriously? You can't miss one game on Sunday?

[Jason14h]

And no true football fan would schedule their wedding on a Sunday during the season anyways! Thats unfair to the guests as well!

[troutman]

This happy couple did their wedding in Packer gear:

[Cowboy89]

Originally Posted by troutman

This happy couple did their wedding in Packer gear:

The baseball cap on his wedding day just caps off the White Trash perfectly (Possibly the Cheese earrings for her too).

[mykalberta]

I still think its unreasonable for her to demand the full 24 hours, and all this a happy wife is a happy life is BS in my mind as you arent married, once you make that commitment then its true you pick and choose your battles but you shouldnt have to when you are just dating.

In then end you have to figure out if this is long term or not. If its not long term make your stand. If it is long term then while I hate saying this, PVR the game but make sure she knows this is a serious problem.

I know you know by now that you would have gotten away with the game if you havent even said anything and just made plans for later in the day, then she would be none the wiser which is how you have to handle alot of relationship situations I have found.

Just remember, this isnt Edmonton, there are alot of available women in Calgary

[MarchHare]

Originally Posted by GirlySports

Come on! Do you really need to watch THREE football games on your anniversary? That would make me mad too.

"We" would have to book dinner and you'd have to miss the night game.
If the Eagles are the night game then we'd have to book lunch. Or I'd even let you off the hook and book dinner on the Saturday night (it doesn't have to be the exact day).

But seriously? You can't miss one game on Sunday?

Did you read his post?

He's not asking to watch football all day, only the one game with his favourite team, from 10:00AM-1:00PM. There's plenty of time after the game for a romantic afternoon/evening together.

I told my wife about this thread yesterday -- she agreed that it's perfectly reasonable for Rube to watch the game for three hours and then spend time celebrating their phoney "anniversary" afterwards.

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by MarchHare

Did you read his post?

He's not asking to watch football all day, only the one game with his favourite team, from 10:00AM-1:00PM. There's plenty of time after the game for a romantic afternoon/evening together.

I told my wife about this thread yesterday -- she agreed that it's perfectly reasonable for Rube to watch the game for three hours and then spend time celebrating their phoney "anniversary" afterwards.

I read the OP as "Sundays during NFL season mean I'm usually drunk by noon while I gamble and scream at the TV for a good 12 hours. I also happen to be a diehard Philadelphia Eagles fans."

But you're right she doesn't want him to watch ANY football and spend the entire day with her which is a bit unreasonable. She's dating him, she knows he's a football fan (I think)

[Phanuthier]

If you wouldn't have had the fight, you could have done something romatic like take her out on a nice date the night before, give her a nice kiss at exactly 12:00:01 at the start of the day. Or find something is special and could only be done on a Sat night. Or just do the "I don't need a annerversery to do something special for you."

Now, I guess all you got left is comprimise.

[MarchHare]

I read the OP as "Sundays during NFL season mean I'm usually drunk by noon while I gamble and scream at the TV for a good 12 hours. I also happen to be a diehard Philadelphia Eagles fans."

Yeah, what he said is that normally he would spend the full day every Sunday during NFL season watching football and drinking beer, but he agreed that on this particular Sunday he would forego the afternoon and evening games and only watch his favourite team play from 10:00-1:00. He's already made a compromise and is willing to meet his girlfriend more than half-way: he watches one game out of his usual three, and she gets his attention for the rest of the day. She's being WAY too demanding and high-strung if she refuses to accept that compromise.

[FireFly]

Dude, you appear to have a moderately high maintenance woman. If the compromise you suggested isn't good enough, you need to ask yourself what will be. And whether or not you're willing to give that to her on a regular basis. I mean, come on... it's two months in advance and she's already upset? Wow.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by dubc80

Next year, you need a pre-emptive strike. Eliminate this whole situation by arbitrarily making the plans for the both of you and tell her you'll pick her up at X:XX pm.

That way you can still watch the game and do something great with her in the afternoon/evening and you'll get extra points for planning it all in advance.

The only thing you'll be giving up is the getting drunk part. But if you can't give that part up, you've got bigger issues!

I doubt they count their anniversary as the X Sunday of X month.

Unless that is in fact the case, this proabably won't come up again for another 7 years or so. Unless of course the Eagles play on Monday night that week next year.

Oh, and one more thought on the situation.

If she wants you to bail on the game because she wants to do someting togerther celebrating the anniversary, then you're being a little selfish, and you should suck it up and miss the game.

If she wants you to bail on the game because she wants you to treat her like a princess all day, then she's being prety selfish, and if I were you I'd stand my ground.

[kipperiggy]

After reading the OP, I can see why she would be concerned. As big of a football fan that my boyfriend is, I would not want to spend that day with him drunk by noon and watching football all day. However I'm not sure why she wouldn't take the compromise of watching the one game and then doing something after.

[rubecube]

It sorted itself out last night. She agreed that it's not a huge deal if I watch one game on that Sunday.

[missdpuck]

AHA! The power of the CP........

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by rubecube

It sorted itself out last night. She agreed that it's not a huge deal if I watch one game on that Sunday.

Don't believe her, it's a trick!

[rubecube]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

Don't believe her, it's a trick!

[REDVAN]

Originally Posted by Bring_Back_Shantz

Don't believe her, it's a trick!

Just don't make a big deal about it if she wants to do something when the game is on, since yes, it is probably a trick.

[DuffMan]

nail her before she gets out of bed, that Sunday morning, and that will placate her for a while.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by rubecube

I'm serious dude, think about it.
When in the history of the world has a guy managed to convince a girl that something, that was perviously a big deal, is in fact not a big deal?

NEVER that's when. And you certainly wouldn't be the first dude in the world to get into more trouble when you actually believed her when she said that she agreed with you.