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Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:15 PM

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Originally Posted by pepper24

Sounds like both aren't being flexible and self centered.

I've been in this situation before where I've had family commitments during Flames and Seahawks games. I PVR the games, try my best to not hear the score, then watch later. Family over sports.

He's offering to do something after the game is over. They're still going to be celebrating that day but she's still not happy. To heck with football she says, it's our day and you will celebrate it the way i tell you. That's how she sounds to me. And it's not as if you need the whole day to celebrate.

Bagor · 08-13-2008, 05:18 PM

Out of curiosity what were Sundays like during the football season last year?

Did she bug you then? Is this a one off?

Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:21 PM

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Originally Posted by CMPunk

Well then they are both at fault and need to sit down and discuss this like reasonable adults.

Her yelling at him doesn't create a good atmosphere for discussing

CMPunk · 08-13-2008, 05:23 PM

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Originally Posted by Dion

Her yelling at him doesn't create a good atmosphere for discussing

And him telling her that Sundays were for football doesn't help either

rubecube · 08-13-2008, 05:24 PM

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Originally Posted by Bagor

Out of curiosity what were Sundays like during the football season last year?

Did she bug you then? Is this a one off?

No, but she's made sure to tell me that this year if there's something important going on on a Sunday then I'm expected to attend it. I said not if the Eagles are playing which she seems to have accepted.

redforever · 08-13-2008, 05:24 PM

Well, let me put it this way, there will never be a more important anniversary than the one you forgot or the one you refused to celebrate

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Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by CMPunk

And him telling her that Sundays were for football doesn't help either

Then maybe she shouldn't have dated the guy. She must have known he was a football fan and should have anticipated there'd be a conflict on thier anniversary.You don't go into relationships expecting people to change to suit your needs. What you see is what you get.

pepper24 · 08-13-2008, 05:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Dion

Then maybe she shouldn't have dated the guy. She must have known he was a football fan and should have anticipated there'd be a conflict on thier anniversary.You don't go into relationships expecting people to change to suit your needs. What you see is what you get.

For curiosity, are you married or in a long term relationship?

Sainters7 · 08-13-2008, 05:30 PM

If it was a Flames game, then I could understand, because that would be at night, when you'd probably be out for dinner or something. But the game's at 10am and is over by friggin 1pm, whats the big deal?? Me and the girl's anniversary fell on a Sunday last year, I dont seem to recall getting any grief for watching the game. What does she want to do so early in the day anyways, go to the park or something?

If worse comes to worse, TiVO(and shutting off your cellphone so your idiot buddies dont text/call you the score, which has happened to me in the past) the game and avoid all human contact until you can watch it later. But I'd have a tough time giving in on this one, it seems very irrational. Give in ground here and it may be tough to get back down the road.

I'd say take her out for a nice dinner and stuff the night before to keep her happy. Then afterwards hit the town full blast and get her sauced. That way she won't want to get out of bed until 1pm on Sunday anyways. Everybody wins!

Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:30 PM

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Originally Posted by pepper24

For curiosity, are you married or in a long term relationship?

Why does it matter?

CMPunk · 08-13-2008, 05:31 PM

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Originally Posted by Dion

Then maybe she shouldn't have dated the guy. She must have known he was a football fan and should have anticipated there'd be a conflict on thier anniversary.You don't go into relationships expecting people to change to suit your needs. What you see is what you get.

And maybe she thought she was important enough that he could miss one game. Whats next? Miss the wedding cause the Eagles are on? Miss the birth of the kids cause Philly is in the play offs? Both people need to sit down and chat about this, thats the main thing here. She probably thinks he'll be "hammered by noon" like the original post says, thats why she's worried about him watching the game.

The Fonz · 08-13-2008, 05:35 PM

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Why does it matter?

I too was wondering that. Your attitude towards relationships leads me to believe you probably don't have much success with them. That's how you come off sounding to me.

Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:36 PM

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Originally Posted by CMPunk

And maybe she thought she was important enough that he could miss one game. Whats next? Miss the wedding cause the Eagles are on? Miss the birth of the kids cause Philly is in the play offs? Both people need to sit down and chat about this, thats the main thing here. She probably thinks he'll be "hammered by noon" like the original post says, thats why she's worried about him watching the game.

I think the birth of a kid is a lot different than an anniversary. A kid isn't going to wait to come out of a mothers womb because a football game was on.

CMPunk · 08-13-2008, 05:37 PM

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I think the birth of a kid is a lot different than an anniversary. A kid isn't going to wait to come out of a mothers womb because a football game was on.

Right, but will Dad show up for the birth or will he stay home to watch the game?

Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:39 PM

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Originally Posted by The Fonz

I too was wondering that. Your attitude towards relationships leads me to believe you probably don't have much success with them. That's how you come off sounding to me.

My parents have been married for close 40 years. My attitude came from them and how the deal with problems that arise.

Dion · 08-13-2008, 05:40 PM

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Right, but will Dad show up for the birth or will he stay home to watch the game?

Dad will show up for birth like any father would.

rubecube · 08-13-2008, 05:42 PM

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Right, but will Dad show up for the birth or will he stay home to watch the game?

Because that's really comparable.

Sylvanfan · 08-13-2008, 05:44 PM

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Dad will show up for birth like any father would.

You sure about that? No shortage of "Dad's" out there who don't really give a rip about their kids and would rather be doing something else. I can see how someone might project that a guy who would rather watch a football game than spend an anniversary with his wife/girl friend is more likely to be that guy who eventually leaves you with two kids and not making the child support payments while he's out at the bar...Not saying thats what will happen...just saying that in the eyes of a woman that's an easier projection to make than if you date a guy who can miss a football game to spend an afternoon with you on a day you think is important.

MarchHare · 08-13-2008, 05:50 PM

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Isn't Rube being a bit self centered for wanting to spend the day watching football?

He doesn't want to spend the whole day watching football, he wants to spend three hours in the morning/early afternoon watching one game.

There's nothing unreasonable about watching football from 10:00-1:00 and then spending time with his girl for the remainder of the day. Taking her out for a nice dinner to celebrate their bogus "anniversary" should be plenty; dating someone for a year doesn't mean she gets to boss him around like a petty princess from morning until night.

Besides, what's so important that she can't wait until after 1:00 when the game is over? If she has some special all-day activity planned, such as a trip to the mountains or something, why not do it on the Saturday instead?

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Whats next? Miss the wedding cause the Eagles are on? Miss the birth of the kids cause Philly is in the play offs?

Comparing a dating "anniversary" (not even a real anniversary!) to his wedding day or the birth of his children is utter nonsense.

pepper24 · 08-13-2008, 05:55 PM

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Why does it matter?

It doesn't really matter but me personally when I was younger and just dating, I never missed a Flames game. Sports was more important than a girl.

Now that I am oler and in a long term relationship, I'd miss a Flames or Seahawks game for family etc. Family over sports. It's a no-brainer now that would never have made sense 5 years ago. Luckily my wife is a huge Flames-Seahawks fan.PVR is also great.