Getting back together with a ex?

[Phaneuf3]

Also, a great man once said: Plow a fatty

[manwiches]

I think if the love is there, and if YOU feel like you've changed, and maybe willing to accept her for all who she is now, and also accept that she may not have entirely changed since than, give it a shot. You have to understand that you are the only person who can change yourself, through your outlook on life to your attitude. You do not have any control on what she is like, how she changed, etc. You have to be willing to accept her for everything, and hopefully you're new life experiences that have shaped you up until this point will have a positive effect on her, and vice versa with her experiences.

My wife and I broke up before we got married 2 years ago, after dating for 8 years. It was the best thing that could have happened to either of us, as we grew as individuals, and were able to come back together a while later with new outlooks on what we wanted out of our relationship. I don't think our relationship would have worked out had we not learned to grow outside of the relationship.

Don't get back together for the sake of it, because you are afraid you won't find someone else. Problems that you guys had prior to breaking up will surface immediately if you go back into it with that attitude. It's better to be happy alone than miserable together.

Relationships are a leap of faith. You both go in with the best intentions, and need to put in all the work to make it blossom. So i think if you feel it's right, get back together. I'm sure you know it'll take hard work and dedication, and you guys will have lots of downs, but if you can follow those up with lots of ups and work through it, you will be happy no matter what.

Just my two cents

[Bigtime]

NO NO NO NO NO.

I did this twice with one of my ex's. Guess what? We both hadn't changed, sure there was the 1-2 month honeymoon period but after that it was right back to what led to the breakups.

On the other hand, sometimes you have to learn these things yourself.

[DropIt]

I dated a girl for 3 years.

We broke up for 3 years.

We have gotten back together 18 months ago, and I bought the ring last week. Never been happier.

People do grow up and change, I've witnessed it first hand

[DuffMan]

My favorite sex is drunk sex with an ex.

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by DuffMan

My favorite sex is drunk sex with an ex.

Never an ounce of awkwardness the next morning. Not a drop.

[mykalberta]

Do what you think is best, but dont repeat the same action expecting a different result.

At the beginning the sex will be great but then after that few months you will remember all the reasons you broke up with her in the first place.

The great myth purpotrated by the man-hating establishment is that there is only one person in the world for you. That is a bold faced lie - there are lots, explore the jungle that is woman and in the end Tarzan will find a Jane he can live with.

On one hand: I doubt this is going to work out for reasons mentioned above.

On the other hand:If you don't try, you may spend the rest of your life wondering "what if?" and "was she the one and I lost her?"

What ever you choose: good luck!

[GirlySports]

Originally Posted by rubecube

DEAR LORD, WHY?! I've never understood this. Being single is one of the greatest things in the world. I gave up on it just as it was getting good, and although it looks like I will soon be returning to it, I regret it to this day.

Also: CONTROLLING AND CLINGY CHICKS NEVER CHANGE

How will it not be as good when you return to it?

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

Never an ounce of awkwardness the next morning. Not a drop.

If you can make her do the walk of shame past your friends in the morning then there's no awkwardness.

Or when she goes for the cuddle you ask her if this is when you pay her.

I can't believe that I've seen someone talking about a clingy and controlling girl in one post then talking about wanting to get married and settle down in the next post.

If you go back to her with that thought in mind, she will pick it up, she will cling you to the ground, hammer your self esteem and you will become her Nels Olson, sweeping the floor, wearing the apron and watching the store while she sits on the coach and eats bonne bonnes and reminds you to pee sitting down.

If you see yourself as immature, you probably weren't but she made you think you were. How many times in a argument did she call you immature anyways, or make you feel like the fight was your fault by crying or pouting?

Woman are the master race of manipulators, they have an exta chromosone that not anly allows them to remember every slight, every broken promise and every mistake since the beginning of time perpetrated by you, but they have poison tears that they use so effectively that even if she boils your pet rabbit for dinner, she'll make you believe that its your fault by using these super powers.

There are wonderful woman out there that don't need to play those games, you should find one of those and plow her.

[Winsor_Pilates]

Sounds like you want to get back with her because she's the only option; not the best option. That answers the question right there.

Absolutely don't get back together with her. If you've dated around a fair bit, and than still find yourself interested in her (because she's the best option, of many) than getting back with an ex can work.

[The Yen Man]

Why don't you give it a try and see where it goes? What's the worst that can happen? You break up again and this time you're sure she's not the right one for you. It's better than regretting not giving it a try later on in life. That feeling would probably suck even more.

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by Puxlut

On one hand: I doubt this is going to work out for reasons mentioned above.

On the other hand:If you don't try, you may spend the rest of your life wondering "what if?" and "was she the one and I lost her?"

What ever you choose: good luck!

Or he might meet the one that he was suppossed to be with and his thoughts will be thank god, dodged a bullet and phew.

And one day down the road when he's with the new chick he'll look across a bar and see the old clingy one, with her life partner helga.

[Weiser Wonder]

Originally Posted by rubecube

DEAR LORD, WHY?! I've never understood this. Being single is one of the greatest things in the world. I gave up on it just as it was getting good, and although it looks like I will soon be returning to it, I regret it to this day.

Also: CONTROLLING AND CLINGY CHICKS NEVER CHANGE

Single always seems wonderful when you with a girl for a long while. You start seeing girls everywhere that you could sleep with if you were single.

On the other hand, once you are single for a while, and you're going through a dead period, you become jealous of your friends with girlfriends. All that regular sex! If only I had a girlfriend...

Grass isn't always greener.

[Northendzone]

this situation is similar to sutter putting and iggy and joker together again and again.....

anywyas, i'll steer away from wether or not you should get back together and ask you a different question - do you think your friendship could survive an attempted reconciliation? would you care if you lost her as a friend?

to me it would be surprising if a friendship could survive two attempts at dating - but that being said, i am the type who could never be friends with an ex......tried it once and it was an emotional train wreck for me....

[troutman]

Try some counselling together first to see if you can progress from past patterns of behavior.

[DuffMan]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

Never an ounce of awkwardness the next morning. Not a drop.

yeah, unlike waking up with your friends' Mother.

[Winsor_Pilates]

Originally Posted by troutman

Try some counselling together first to see if you can progress from past patterns of behavior.

By counseling; do you mean get out there and sleep with at least 5 other women, and then see if you still miss her?
I'd agree with that.

[Trojan97]

I've had a similar thread on here before. I went against the collective wisdom of CP (as you probably will too and I don't really blame you) and it didn't end up working out the second time. One thing to realize is that while she may have "grown up" a little bit, she is still going to be 99% the same person as before. There will be a honeymoon stage again of a few weeks/months and then the same things that bugged you about her before will resurface.

I'm not saying don't do it, just make sure you realize this so you aren't totally crushed if things don't work out the second time.

Good Luck.

[GreenLantern]

There is only one way to find out if she truly has changed.. ask her to do it in the but.

If she refused before and accepts now, she is much more laid back.

If she accepted before but refuses now, she is a bitch.

If she accepted before and accepts again, she is a slut get rid of her, after of course.