The only thing a tattoo on a woman is good for is determining your chances of a one night encounter with her. Remember - the bigger the stamp the bigger the tramp!
Well it seems you are superficial, but on the plus side you've identified it early and can now move on to another girl. I think you're nuts and if her choosing to do something with her body is the biggest issue in your relationship there could be worse problems to have.
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End it. It seems that its gone beyond where a compromise can be made. Now you will both be unhappy. You will find her unattractive and it will only cause tension.
You shouldnt have to change your opinion of tattoos and how you find them unattractive.
She shouldnt have to change her opinion of tattoos and how she wants them.
I could never take a girl seriously if she was covered in tattoos. To me it shows poor long-term thinking and questionable taste...which for a short fling is not important, but in terms of real relationship? No thanks.
But we all like different things I guess. Some guys love girls with tattoos. I'm sure there are even some guys out there who like girls with short hair.
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I feel like a superficial ass but it really is unattractive to me. Not sure what to do.
You're not superficial. Questioning your own decision making process isn't something a superficial person would do.
People with tattoos are fully aware that the are making a decision that lots of people look down on. That is probably part of the appeal. Your gf has chosen to get tattooed and must have decided that she's willing to live with the consequences.
This is one of those consequences.
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Tattoos kill attraction for me as well. Something is just wrong with them in my mind. I've contemplated tattoos for a very very long time but this explosion of gaudy giant tattoos everywhere on the body fully steered me away from any interest in them.
Call me shallow or superficial but even if the woman and I got along famously and had great chemistry, her tattoos would kill it. Can't help it, cannot get beyond them.
And people cannot control what they are attracted to or not attracted to.
For those saying the OP is superficial... if your SO got a face tattoo like Mike Tyson's, would you say "that's nice dear"? Do you love her so much that you wouldn't care one way or the other?
I think tattoos are my only general PHYSICAL deal breaker. I have lots of behavioural/characteristic deal breakers, but very few physical ones.
I think it is sorta like vanilla and chocolate ice cream. You really cannot control if you like one vs the other.... you like what you like. You find attractive what you find attractive. Like the OP said, some guys LIKE a little ink. I'm in the camp that is completely turned off by them.
I don't really like huge tattoos on girls either but if i got to know her very well and see a good person under the ink then i would likely let it slide. It would still be kinda weird though.
I am in the camp that finds tattoos horribly unattractive as well.
If you find her unattractive because of it, then it is probably best that you two go your separate ways as there has to be attraction in any relationship (pretty easy for us to say without any emotional capital invested).
Was she planning on this or was this a spur of the moment thing? If it was a spur of the moment thing, then it might signal impulse control issues and if she is willing to give into her impulses for something that leaves a mark on her body, then what would she be willing to give into that won't leave a mark?
Was she planning on this or was this a spur of the moment thing?
No, in all fairness to her she was planning this trip and the tattoo before we were together but we did know each other prior to our being in a relationship together
We have talked about it for almost as long as we have been together and I was never shy about telling her that I really wished she wouldn't do it. She was always intent on doing it and we even came to joke about it.
I really think that she thought I would "let it go" as I have her other tattoos but like I said, this one is different.
It sounds like you don't respect her on top of being not attracted to her. What the hell is the point of forcing a relationship without those two fundamental pieces?
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I wouldn't not do it because you think it's being superficial...who isn't superficial..I'm with you on the tattoos thing and also if i met a girl with moles in all the wrong places - I wouldn't be able to get over it either - send her out on the next train.
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I don't care for tattoos, but whatever. However, "Live, Laugh, Love" as a tattoo should be grounds for immediate relationship termination. That sounds like hippie talk - next thing you know she'll be trying to turn you vegan and talking about how Big Pharma is after your precious bodily fluids.
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