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[TorqueDog]

Originally Posted by opendoor

PLA isn't really biodegradable outside of industrial composting facilities, unless you're talking about over a period of centuries. So those things are really no better than normal plastic in terms of their impact if they end up in the environment.

The real issue is that banning plastic straws is even a priority. They make up such a tiny amount of plastic waste, it really is more like slacktivism to ban them.

Co-Op's bags that contain PLA were specifically tested by the city and found to be compatible with the green cart program though, which is to where the most biodegradable stuff should be finding its way. That said, I also recall reading an article where someone from Co-Op stated the bags are biodegradable to the point that they aren't even shelf-stable for more than a year and they essentially begin to break down if not used before then.

But yes, it is 100% slacktivism, that much we can agree on.

[White Out 403]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

There's a possibility that that's maybe the problem. After my vasectomy I would have this happen sometimes and I would call it, umm, a 'back-up' for lack of a better term. Taking care of the back-up would make it feel better. Stopped happening after about a year post-snip.

Not saying that's his issue here, but you never know.

I guess I have homework tonight.

[You Need a Thneed]

Originally Posted by TorqueDog

Co-Op's bags that contain PLA were specifically tested by the city and found to be compatible with the green cart program though, which is to where the most biodegradable stuff should be finding its way. That said, I also recall reading an article where someone from Co-Op stated the bags are biodegradable to the point that they aren't even shelf-stable for more than a year and they essentially begin to break down if not used before then.

But yes, it is 100% slacktivism, that much we can agree on.

99% of what we do in the name of recycling is slacktivism. Basically anything that involves the end consumer.

[getbak]

Originally Posted by TorqueDog

That said, I also recall reading an article where someone from Co-Op stated the bags are biodegradable to the point that they aren't even shelf-stable for more than a year and they essentially begin to break down if not used before then.

I have certainly noticed that with the ones I accumulated during the early days (months, years) of the pandemic when they wouldn't let you use your own bags. I still have a bunch left and when I go to put them in the compost bin, they fall apart at the seams.

[Brendone]

YouTube should have to put a poo emoji or something on concert videos shot on some ding dongs phone. “Warning: this HD video is a POS from a phone”. Used to enjoy going down a good concert rabbit hole, but 9 out of 10 end up being phone crap, so not really worth it anymore.

[Locke]

Originally Posted by habernac

It can really change quickly. My Dad went from “ hey, we’ve probably got 6 months to a year” to gone in three weeks. Say everything you want to say soon. I did ok, but there’s a few discussions I didn’t get to have with him.

Fully agreed with this.

When my dad went into the Hospital the Doctors told us that he only had a few weeks left to live and that they'd get him a room, etc. and that we should go home, rest, get some food.

37 minutes later I'm getting a phone call from the Hospital.

"This is happening and its happening NOW."

[cam_calderon]

Originally Posted by Brendone

YouTube should have to put a poo emoji or something on concert videos shot on some ding dongs phone. “Warning: this HD video is a POS from a phone”. Used to enjoy going down a good concert rabbit hole, but 9 out of 10 end up being phone crap, so not really worth it anymore.

These have actually got a lot better. Some still suck but you can get a pretty good recording from an iPhone 14.

[OutOfTheCube]

Some people so entitled — my wife’s friend asked if my wife could watch her two kids today, all day, for free. I guess her babysitter bailed. My wife said she could but please send them with a lunch at least — and she said no, they just took a day off instead, lol. Didn’t think that was a huge ask for 8+ hours of free child care.

[GordonBlue]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

Some people so entitled — my wife’s friend asked if my wife could watch her two kids today, all day, for free. I guess her babysitter bailed. My wife said she could but please send them with a lunch at least — and she said no, they just took a day off instead, lol. Didn’t think that was a huge ask for 8+ hours of free child care.

I can see asking a friend for the favor, but to not even be willing to send them with lunch? brutal.

[PepsiFree]

Maybe they felt guilty about asking without being able to pay and were able to get the day off instead.

[btimbit]

Meh, I don't see the problem there. I would have said no too but unless they got bitchy about it after I don't see what's so entitled about asking

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

Some people so entitled — my wife’s friend asked if my wife could watch her two kids today, all day, for free. I guess her babysitter bailed. My wife said she could but please send them with a lunch at least — and she said no, they just took a day off instead, lol. Didn’t think that was a huge ask for 8+ hours of free child care.

Wait, so you think you’d be a hero for not charging a friend for watching their kids? And you expect parents to send kids with lunches when they stay over the day?

When I was a kid, I ate lunch at friend’s houses several times a week. And we had kids over at our place all the time. Often all day. And they were fed. And our parents didn’t even know each other.

Our kids don’t have friends over nearly as often, but we don’t have a problem feeding them lunch, dinner, etc when they do.

What kind of world are we living in where anyone would even consider charging money for watching their friends’ kids for a day, and balk at feeding them lunch and snacks?

JFC, no wonder fewer couples want to have kids when this is the selfish every-person-for-themselves attitude towards child-rearing and community.

[Wormius]

Yeah, did they say just say, “forget it” because your wife asked them to send a lunch or because they decided on staying home instead. I think you / wife might be reading too much into it. I know sometimes during a conversation, maybe you’ll ask for something but you’re also weighing other potential solutions simultaneously, so it’s not necessarily a case of your wife asking to send a lunch along that had bearing on their decision.

[OutOfTheCube]

Originally Posted by CliffFletcher

Wait, so you think you’d be a hero for not charging a friend for watching their kids? And you expect parents to send kids with lunches when they stay over the day?

When I was a kid, I ate lunch at friend’s houses several times a week. And we had kids over at our place all the time. Often all day. And they were fed. And our parents didn’t even know each other.

Our kids don’t have friends over nearly as often, but we don’t have a problem feeding them lunch, dinner, etc when they do.

What kind of world are we living in where anyone would even consider charging money for watching their friends’ kids for a day, and balk at feeding them lunch and snacks?

JFC, no wonder fewer couples want to have kids when this is the selfish every-person-for-themselves attitude towards child-rearing and community.

My kids aren't even home, they're at school all day today, so it's not a friend hang-out. It's a big inconvenience for my wife to then be watching someone else's kids, feeding them, driving them around (when she goes to pick up our kids) -- all arranged last minute. I don't think it's a selfish ask to at least help out by sending your kid with a sandwich.

There's a history with this friend too, we've watched one or more of her kids many many times for free of course, and fed them too, and the days always stretch out longer than they say or more kids get added in. And they're never available when we need help for something. It's never a one-off thing and you start to feel like you're being taken advantage of at a certain point.

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

There's a history with this friend too, we've watched one or more of her kids many many times for free of course, and fed them too, and the days always stretch out longer than they say or more kids get added in. And they're never available when we need help for something. It's never a one-off thing and you start to feel like you're being taken advantage of at a certain point.

Okay, that puts it in a very different light.

[Sliver]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

My kids aren't even home, they're at school all day today, so it's not a friend hang-out. It's a big inconvenience for my wife to then be watching someone else's kids, feeding them, driving them around (when she goes to pick up our kids) -- all arranged last minute. I don't think it's a selfish ask to at least help out by sending your kid with a sandwich.

There's a history with this friend too, we've watched one or more of her kids many many times for free of course, and fed them too, and the days always stretch out longer than they say or more kids get added in. And they're never available when we need help for something. It's never a one-off thing and you start to feel like you're being taken advantage of at a certain point.

I think this added context helps. Some people are mooches and you do have to draw the line.

Cliff's response was fair absent of this clarification, though.

[Erick Estrada]

Originally Posted by cam_calderon

These have actually got a lot better. Some still suck but you can get a pretty good recording from an iPhone 14.

I was near the stage for a Code Orange concert in Seattle and recorded a song on my iPhone 14 pro and it plays and sounds surprisingly well on my TV via Apple TV. Sound can vary a lot in a larger venue depending on where you are in relation to the speakers so yes some of these youtube clips can sound pretty terrible.

[OutOfTheCube]

Originally Posted by Sliver

I think this added context helps. Some people are mooches and you do have to draw the line.

Cliff's response was fair absent of this clarification, though.

Yes I can see why it might've been taken as us being ######-y without the additional context.

My wife just has trouble saying 'no' to people sometimes so it makes me mad when I think they start to take advantage of her -- then it makes me annoyed when she finally does ask for something in return or a little help and that's like, a bridge too far for them.

We do have another acquaintance that is great though, when she needs help she'll offer to send her kids with lunches and has been available when something comes up and we need help watching the kids. And her boys are great and super respectful, we even watched them overnight one time and they did the sleep-over better than our kids do, lol. So I think seeing how a more balanced relationship works has helped her be a little more confident with her other friends in trying to make it that way.

[Monahammer]

When my son was first born, my wife started mommy and me classes. This was in late 2019, just prior to COVID times. She makes friends easily but is generally more reserved, so I was surprised that after the first class she had already set up a play date with another mom! I congratulated her and didn't think too hard about it (we were first time parents after all, and between work and new baby I am not ashamed to say that I was not very attentive to my wife's feelings).
Day of the play date, only two days later, and my wife is a bit stressed. Originally they had spoken about a playdate at a local toddler cafe, but the other mom had suddenly insisted on playdate at our house. I ask her about it more, and come to find it was other mom that approached her and insisted on a near term playdate, after the introductions during which my wife divulged that she was a social worker. I started to notice the red flags and suggested that she cancel the play date and ask to reschedule. But my wife didn't want to turn down what could be her first new mom friend! So I relented and left for work.

4 hours later I get a call. The lady had brought her newborn daughter to our house and within 15 minutes made an excuse and straight up left. My poor, new mom wife with a 2 month old was now also babysitting someone's 3 month old. Someone she had only met once and barely knew.

Needless to say my wife became an intense scrutineer when it came to mom friends from that point on. COVID also stopped that. Damn lady had the nerve to request a play date 2 days later. My wife blocked her phone number. I sympathize as I understand that her husband had been out of town a lot, but that type of behavior is off the wall crazy. She's really, really fortunate my wife did not get her work colleagues involved.

[8 Ball]

Originally Posted by Monahammer

When my son was first born, my wife started mommy and me classes. This was in late 2019, just prior to COVID times. She makes friends easily but is generally more reserved, so I was surprised that after the first class she had already set up a play date with another mom! I congratulated her and didn't think too hard about it (we were first time parents after all, and between work and new baby I am not ashamed to say that I was not very attentive to my wife's feelings).
Day of the play date, only two days later, and my wife is a bit stressed. Originally they had spoken about a playdate at a local toddler cafe, but the other mom had suddenly insisted on playdate at our house. I ask her about it more, and come to find it was other mom that approached her and insisted on a near term playdate, after the introductions during which my wife divulged that she was a social worker. I started to notice the red flags and suggested that she cancel the play date and ask to reschedule. But my wife didn't want to turn down what could be her first new mom friend! So I relented and left for work.

4 hours later I get a call. The lady had brought her newborn daughter to our house and within 15 minutes made an excuse and straight up left. My poor, new mom wife with a 2 month old was now also babysitting someone's 3 month old. Someone she had only met once and barely knew.

Needless to say my wife became an intense scrutineer when it came to mom friends from that point on. COVID also stopped that. Damn lady had the nerve to request a play date 2 days later. My wife blocked her phone number. I sympathize as I understand that her husband had been out of town a lot, but that type of behavior is off the wall crazy. She's really, really fortunate my wife did not get her work colleagues involved.

That's brutal man, I couldn't imagine that.