The Ongoing "Am I the %^&hole?" Thread

[CorsiHockeyLeague]

Yes, that sounds like the opinion of someone who would use the word "mortified" unironically.

[Amethyst]

If it's a BYOB situation, I would expect guests to take left-overs home. Sometimes they leave it, but that usually means I end up with stuff I don't drink sitting in my fridge / cupboard.

If someone was asking about taking it home, I would phrase it more like, "Will you drink xxx if I leave it?" Then the host can say, "Oh, I love that," (leave it) or, "I'm not really a xxx drinker," (take it).

[Strange Brew]

Originally Posted by Mr.Coffee

Ah yes the beer question. I do think this one gets a little murkier than Cecil’s example.

So you invite people over and say “BYOB” and they only drink half and then take their half home. Is it that you expect people to bring you extra booze rather than they are petty and cheap and take their own stuff home, after you told them to bring it because despite your hosting you wouldn’t supply any drinks?

To be perfectly honest, especially considering cost of alcohol, I can see both sides of the leave your beer there or take it home scenarios. Personally I have done both many times, probably leaning towards leaving beer most times but I certainly don’t judge or get upset at my friends if they take theirs with them when they leave my place.

It also isn’t an issue ever with our friends but I’ve seen other friend groups argue over it and I think that’s a dicey one haha

I’d say as a host, you could always remind people to take their unused booze as they leave. I really have no desire to accumulate a bunch of random alcohol and if you say something when people leave, all awkwardness is removed.

To me unused alcohol is not a gift. You should bring a separate bottle or something else for that.

And LOL for Cecil now saying he’s trying to stir the pot after losing his temper a few pages back. All over trying to save himself a couple of bucks by sleeping on the couch.

[monkeyman]

This is turning into the "Am I a cheap %^&hole?" thread.

[peter12]

You are the ####### if you bring ####ty booze to a party and if you bring leftovers home with you.

Always bring something decent, always leave it behind. It’s not hard.

[peter12]

Do some of you not know how to properly socialize? If you are so worried about splitting the bill, then don’t go to expensive places with those people. Go bowling and split a pitcher.

[calumniate]

When I host parties i charge per square on the tp rolls

[peter12]

Originally Posted by calumniate

When I host parties i charge per square on the tp rolls

And I watch guests just to keep proper count.

[ben voyonsdonc]

When I host parties, I’d rather not be left with a bunch of leftover booze that I probably won’t ever drink.

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by peter12

You are the ####### if you bring ####ty booze to a party and if you bring leftovers home with you.

Always bring something decent, always leave it behind. It’s not hard.

I always try to have enough booze to give my guests at least a couple of drinks.

So if I am inviting 4 couples I’ll make sure I grab 2-3 bottles for wine and 12-18 assorted beers.

[corporatejay]

Originally Posted by peter12

You are the ####### if you bring ####ty booze to a party and if you bring leftovers home with you.

Always bring something decent, always leave it behind. It’s not hard.

I generally agree but to someone's point earlier, If some brings a 24 of bud light and drinks 6 I'd rather they take the 18 home, I won't drink them, ever and I don't want them taking up space. I also wouldn't want to serve them to company.

[OutOfTheCube]

Solution: Don't host any parties. Or go to any.

You guys are really overthinking these things.

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by The Fisher Account

I’m sorry, but I would be mortified to attend a friends party who said BYOB.

You’re hosting the party, you supply the drinks.

With my friends that would be ruinous.

[CliffFletcher]

As for splitting room costs, I’ve had a great many roommates, and rent was always split evenly per person. Didn’t matter if there were two, three, or four people sharing the accommodation or where they slept. This was the norm with all my friends and our circle of co-workers, roommates, etc.

Only once did I see someone argue that a couple should pay only half the rent because they were sharing a room, and her argument was shot down. Equitable living arrangements are about more than bedrooms/beds per person.

[chemgear]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

Solution: Don't host any parties. Or go to any.

You guys are really overthinking these things.

Everybody is bringing omicron with them to these parties. It gets left behind AND everybody is taking it home with them as well.

Everybody loses.

[MoneyGuy]

Originally Posted by CliffFletcher

With my friends that would be ruinous.

What’s more important, a party or protecting yourself and your friends?

[peter12]

Originally Posted by corporatejay

I generally agree but to someone's point earlier, If some brings a 24 of bud light and drinks 6 I'd rather they take the 18 home, I won't drink them, ever and I don't want them taking up space. I also wouldn't want to serve them to company.

Sure, if it’s piss, then take it home. I’ve gotta bunch of grapefruit ales (not Radlers though) that my father-in-law brought over that have been sitting in my fridge since June.

[8 Ball]

There is a big difference between a small gathering of people for a dinner party, and a backyard summer barbeque bash. If I’m hosting a small party I will have beer and wine for guests, and usually a signature cocktail of some kind (usually boozy) but they will usually bring something anyways. If it’s a summer barbecue, or a Flames playoff game party, bring your own ####. Leave it behind or take it with you, I don’t care.

[Wormius]

You don’t need to leave leftover or unwanted beer in the fridge.

[8 Ball]

Originally Posted by Wormius

You don’t need to leave leftover or unwanted beer in the fridge.

Bring your beer in a cooler of ice. When you leave take the cooler.