Why do people imply that living by yourself is depressing / lonely? YOu don't have someone else to clutter your place up, the look and feel is totally yours, and whenever you want (ahem) company over, just make it happen.
Hate this stigma that being by yourself is wrong or something. Sheesh.
I imply it's depressing and lonely cause I find it depressing and lonely for the most part.
Everything you said is true and it also gets you looking for things to get you out of the house which can be healthy and fun (although expensive) but I still preferred living with my ex before that relationship fell apart. I'm not going to text my buddies to "chat" about my day so it's nice to have someone at home to talk to about whatever.
Man, when I turned 18 I couldn't wait to move out! I was working a full time low wage job and me and a buddy rented a dingy basement suite in Tuxedo - great times. I couldn't imagine living with my parents until my mid twenties, I would have gone crazy.
Man, when I turned 18 I couldn't wait to move out! I was working a full time low wage job and me and a buddy rented a dingy basement suite in Tuxedo - great times. I couldn't imagine living with my parents until my mid twenties, I would have gone crazy.
As would they. A 'Party Elephant' is hardly a respectful roommate.
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I imply it's depressing and lonely cause I find it depressing and lonely for the most part.
Everything you said is true and it also gets you looking for things to get you out of the house which can be healthy and fun (although expensive) but I still preferred living with my ex before that relationship fell apart. I'm not going to text my buddies to "chat" about my day so it's nice to have someone at home to talk to about whatever.
Dude, I see what you're saying but you can avoid that by keeping yourself active, healthy and busy. I find that I have a large social circle because I'm NOT in a relationship (when people typically reduce their social activity), and there's always someone to hang out with - but I put the time in to get there. I also keep busy with a side business, with working out, with volunteering... keep yourself busy and you don't have time to be lonely.
I love living on my own... I guess I'm just frustrated at the social stigma there is in not living with a 'significant other', especially as you get older. Some people, like myself, actually really like it. I can't say I will do it forever, because who knows when that status changes, but it's not the problem society and the media make it out to be.
Dude, I see what you're saying but you can avoid that by keeping yourself active, healthy and busy. I find that I have a large social circle because I'm NOT in a relationship (when people typically reduce their social activity), and there's always someone to hang out with - but I put the time in to get there. I also keep busy with a side business, with working out, with volunteering... keep yourself busy and you don't have time to be lonely.
I love living on my own... I guess I'm just frustrated at the social stigma there is in not living with a 'significant other', especially as you get older. Some people, like myself, actually really like it. I can't say I will do it forever, because who knows when that status changes, but it's not the problem society and the media make it out to be.
I think I touched on a nerve here cause you're overthinking what I'm saying. Like you're pretty much echoing exactly what I'm saying except for the part where I said it still gets lonely. If you never get lonely living alone then sweet, that's good.
I don't think there's a social stigma to living alone though? I've never thought twice about if someone lives alone or not. Maybe if they're older and still have a roommate you could say there's a social stigma but I'm pretty sure if you're in your late 20's or older, you're expected to be living alone or with a Significant Other. Not the other away around?
Now being single and older definitely has a stigma but I don't think that has anything to do with how many people you live with...
I had about $5000 in the bank when I moved out. At 22 I discovered my grandparents set up a trust fund purely for room and board while enrolled. So I moved into a dump place in Cambrian Heights for my last year of university in 2006-07. Rent was paid for until I graduated 8 months later, but I had to foot the bill for everything else. It was a good setup and it was pretty easy to cover the bills split 4 ways working 20 hours a week. The $5000 stayed pretty steady until I bought a place, I just got used to living el-cheapo, and I think it's made me better in managing my money now that I have adult bills to pay.
It was great to have a place where the only amount you can lose is your share of the damage deposit. But man, the place was a dump. The ceiling in the kitchen was collapsing and the landlord trying to play it off as chipping paint. The dishwasher stopped working a week after we moved in. At one point in the winter the furnace broke down and the landlord took two weeks to fix it. By the time it got fixed it was 8 degrees in the house. We responded in kind by throwing big parties every 2 weeks. You wanna be a slumlord? We can trash your house then.
If the objective is to one day own a million dollar house, stay with the parents as long as possible.
If the objective is to have a life, gain new experiences, progress into the real world, and not be a social outcast then move out as soon as possible.
To each their own haha.
I'm not sure why living with parents would make me a social outcast and not gain 'youth experiences'. I still went to clubs at 18, came home drunk, threw up 5 times in the morning, stayed in bed for the rest of the day only to repeat it the next weekend. Who can forget waiting in line at the Mansion in -35C weather?
I was raised that way and my closest friends were raised that way also. I'm pretty sure we came out just fine in the end!
I had about $5000 in the bank when I moved out. At 22 I discovered my grandparents set up a trust fund purely for room and board while enrolled. So I moved into a dump place in Cambrian Heights for my last year of university in 2006-07. Rent was paid for until I graduated 8 months later, but I had to foot the bill for everything else. It was a good setup and it was pretty easy to cover the bills split 4 ways working 20 hours a week. The $5000 stayed pretty steady until I bought a place, I just got used to living el-cheapo, and I think it's made me better in managing my money now that I have adult bills to pay.
It was great to have a place where the only amount you can lose is your share of the damage deposit. But man, the place was a dump. The ceiling in the kitchen was collapsing and the landlord trying to play it off as chipping paint. The dishwasher stopped working a week after we moved in. At one point in the winter the furnace broke down and the landlord took two weeks to fix it. By the time it got fixed it was 8 degrees in the house. We responded in kind by throwing big parties every 2 weeks. You wanna be a slumlord? We can trash your house then.
Good times, good times.
Look at Mr monopoly over here with his dishwasher and furnace.
I'm not sure why living with parents would make me a social outcast and not gain 'youth experiences'. I still went to clubs at 18, came home drunk, threw up 5 times in the morning, stayed in bed for the rest of the day only to repeat it the next weekend. Who can forget waiting in line at the Mansion in -35C weather?
I was raised that way and my closest friends were raised that way also. I'm pretty sure we came out just fine in the end!
Agreed. I lived at home with my parents while going to the UofA and even when I started working full time, and only moved out at 25 when I moved to Calgary. Of course, if living at home was infringing on my ability to have fun, then I would have moved out, as I was able to save some money throughout university by living at home and (luckily) getting my tuition paid for. But I was still able to go out, have fun, bring girls home, etc, the same as if I was living alone.
Similar to the poster above, myself and my closest friends were raised that way too, so it must definitely be a cultural thing (Eastern European).
In my early 20's, just after school, I was single, working a great job with lots of travel, and being able to afford a very nice apartment - just decently sized for one person but slightly too small for two.
They were good years. Very good years.
I have to say that when I find it repulsive that some posters would bring women home while still living at home. Your poor parents.
I'm not sure why living with parents would make me a social outcast and not gain 'youth experiences'. I still went to clubs at 18, came home drunk, threw up 5 times in the morning, stayed in bed for the rest of the day only to repeat it the next weekend. Who can forget waiting in line at the Mansion in -35C weather?
I was raised that way and my closest friends were raised that way also. I'm pretty sure we came out just fine in the end!
Fair enough... from my perspective, if I was not given the luxury to live at home for that long and save money, it would be difficult to be really good friends with someone in the opposite side... while other people are trying to make it on their own and facing hard decisions everyday while introducing themselves to the real world, you kind of have a built in saving mechanism through no work of your own. But at the same time, you might have a harder transition to the next step starting your own independence later on.
Kudos to you for saving the money and being smart about the situation. No doubt that financially you have a step ahead of most. But at what point do you want to face reality and be independent and 100% responsible for yourself. No matter how much you have saved up initially that first step is going to be difficult, and from my vantage point, you are certainly long past the point where you should be ready to face that challenge.
