Manners/Social Conventions You Don't Follow

[RougeUnderoos]

Originally Posted by Trailer Fire

1. While I realize that saying and implying aren't mutually exclusive, they do pretty well go hand in hand. Saying someone "sounds" like a so-and-so is just you indirectly calling them a so-and-so.

For a guy that says (not implies) "You aren't a Canadian, you're a parasite" to anyone who doesn't sing a song at a hockey game, you sure get your knickers in a twist when you get some back.

I don't care where anyone grew up or how long they went to school, but that is undoubtedly a stupid thing to say. Take that as directly or indirectly as you like.

[OutOfTheCube]

Ugh, can you guys take it to PM? This prattling and picking each other's post line by line to hunt down semantics has officially ruined kind of a fun thread.

[To Be Quite Honest]

Originally Posted by Trailer Fire

All that being said, I still stand by what I said. I don't think you deserve Canada.

All that being said, I still think you need an education.

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

Ugh, can you guys take it to PM? This prattling and picking each other's post line by line to hunt down semantics has officially ruined kind of a fun thread.

No, I'm done.

However, if do you have a problem with people not following that social convention I do know a thread where you can post about it.

[Daradon]

Sliver did it again. He's like an idiot savant.

[gargamel]

Originally Posted by Stormageddon

I hate making small talk or any of the social niceties your supposed to do when you see someone. When we go to my in-laws I strategically let my wife go in first every time so I don't have to say "hello". People then have to go through the whole, stupid "how are you? Good. How are you?" thing which sucks even more. Then they expect you to ask about other stuff. A) I don't know what to ask you outside of "How are you?" B) I really don't care about any of the answers you give me.

A few months ago, my friends gave me crap because I only say "Hello, nice to meet you" when I meet a person for the first time. Ever since then, if I'm around them, I'll launch into a series of sarcastic questions when I meet someone.

"Hello. Nice to meet you. So how's the family?"
"Oh, you're single. What about work? Same old same old? What's Bruce up to these days?"
"Oh, you don't know anyone named Bruce? What about Dave?"
etc.

[CliffFletcher]

Originally Posted by Antithesis

It just seems so weird to me that removing hats has somehow become entwined with love for country. If you don't remove your hat, you hate and disrespect Canada. OK?

And in a game where there are players of many different nationalities, it simply makes no sense to me that we sing the national anthem at sporting events. What is it that makes them special? We don't do so at the opera or the CPO. My questioning this practice doesn't mean I am not a proud Canadian.

Most customs have little purpose beyond showing respect for the custom itself. But how is the custom of removing your hat during the anthem any less arbitrary than showing solidarity by wearing red to the game? I find it kind of sad that we will cheerfully enforce conformity when it comes to being the fan of a team, but balk at similar gestures of civic solidarity.

[Hammertime]

I don't hold back in public washrooms, just let it go as loud and proud as I would at home - no matter who else is in there.

[Party Elephant]

I don't miss tipping. At all. And I work in the service industry. It's just so much better this way.

The last time I went back to Canada was a real shock to the system when I had to re-learn how to tip.

[Flames89]

Originally Posted by polak

Yeah I always wait until everyones food is out unless they tell me to eat. Even then I still wait.

Same here. I find it awkward to be the only one eating, so I wait.

I also believe wearing a hat at dinner is disrespectful, the same as during the national anthem.

[jwslam]

Originally Posted by OutOfTheCube

I honestly don't overthink and analyze it that much. Like that guy that wrote a couple paragraphs the previous page on his careful calculations of the tip. I'm out for dinner or lunch or something, talking with my friends and eating -- good service and you'll get something, bad service and you won't.

So if the restaurant is busy as-f*** and the server can't get to you because there's the one customer that demands 100% attention, you're going to punish this server due to poor management/understaffing...
Good on you. Stick it to the man

[Weitz]

Originally Posted by jwslam

So if the restaurant is busy as-f*** and the server can't get to you because there's the one customer that demands 100% attention, you're going to punish this server due to poor management/understaffing...
Good on you. Stick it to the man

Since the server is the point of contact with the Customer, that's the way it goes. Management should cover their tip-out. But god know that won't happen.

[troutman]

Is it ever okay to be dumped by e-mail?

http://nymag.com/thecut/2014/10/email-breakup.html

[codynw]

Originally Posted by Flames89

I also believe wearing a hat at dinner is disrespectful, the same as during the national anthem.

I'll never get this. Seriously, what is disrespectful about a hat?

[Derek Sutton]

I never say "It was nice meeting you", I hate that over used canned phrase and the smile-laugh and spirit fingers wave that everyone does when they say it.

[burn_this_city]

Originally Posted by Flames89

I also believe wearing a hat at dinner is disrespectful, the same as during the national anthem.

My Grandpa had an obsession with hats at the dinner table. Never understood that one.

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by burn_this_city

My Grandpa had an obsession with hats at the dinner table. Never understood that one.

My parents were the same way... or are the same way as I was reminded over the holidays.

[EldrickOnIce]

It is not the wearing of the hat itself that is disrespectful, it is not following the social convention. Removing ones hat is a symbol of respect by social convention.
Therefore, failing to remove ones hat is disrespectful to anyone who follows that social convention. This will tend to be an older crowd.
And, you will likely come to follow this convention as you 'mature' lol.

[DoubleF]

Originally Posted by EldrickOnIce

It is not the wearing of the hat itself that is disrespectful, it is not following the social convention. Removing ones hat is a symbol of respect by social convention.
Therefore, failing to remove ones hat is disrespectful to anyone who follows that social convention.

Kinda like the shoe in house thing?

[northcrunk]

The hat thing seems like a baby boomer/even older than baby boomer thing. Lets let that one just die shall we.

[EldrickOnIce]

Originally Posted by DoubleF

Kinda like the shoe in house thing?

Yes, exactly like that. And why social conventions are different in Canada/North America than elsewhere in the world. The act itself is only disrespectful because people believe it is... so if veterans who stood and fell on behalf of this country believe it is disrespectful to wear a hat during the national anthem, then I remove it in respect of them.
But social conventions will evolve over time, or won't. Either the conventions change or we change. Or even a bit of both.
The wearing a hat at the dinner table might or might not change.
I do know that when I was a 'kid' I thought it was so stupid to have to remove a hat at the dinner table. Now I would never enter someone's home without removing mine, simply out of respect to them.