Engagement Ring Advice

[Makarov]

I highly recommend whiteflash. Although I hated the idea of purchasing her ring from a generic online retailer, their diamond prices were so much better than local jewelers that I couldn't resist. Here is a photo they took of the final product:

[Kybosh]

That's the most depressing thing I've read in weeks.

[BCGirl]

Originally Posted by MarchHare

Here's my advice: marry a woman who thinks that spending $6-10k on a piece of jewelry is a foolish waste of money and would rather you save for a downpayment on your first home instead.

Please tell me where you can put a down payment on a house for 6-10G's without having an insane mortgage!?

[hmmhmmcamo]

Originally Posted by BCGirl

Please tell me where you can put a down payment on a house for 6-10G's without having an insane mortgage!?

Kelowna?
http://www.realtor.ca/propertyDetail...ey=-1736032204

[MarchHare]

Originally Posted by BCGirl

Please tell me where you can put a down payment on a house for 6-10G's without having an insane mortgage!?

You can't, but that $6-10k goes towards the payment. If you spend it on a diamond ring instead, you'll have to find the money elsewhere. For many young couples, it's a huge struggle trying to come up with enough money to make a down payment for their first home. Why put yourself an extra $6-10k behind for no reason?

[comrade]

Question: Who pays for the man's wedding band?

[BCGirl]

I think most women love the idea of an engagement ring. I have mine and I love it. I didn't want a huge rock, or to spend over $5000 total including wedding band, but I did want a ring that I would love for the rest of my life and not feel like we 'settled'. I not only got the ring, but it was a ring that my guy helped me pick out and we both love. I'm even going without buy the matching wedding band for the wedding because we are paying for our wedding completely and I'm happy to wait a bit. But the point is he spent the money on the ring that I am going to wear for the rest of my life. I won't ever want a different one 'down the road'. It's money well spent at the end of the day. We bought mine from Charm in Market. Awesome diamonds, good prices and very nice designs. Another place I would recommend is Michael Hill. GORGEOUS designs and rings and less expensive than you would get elsewhere. Go to Market Mall and see Nova. She is amazing.


We are in the middle of now looking at rings for my fiance because the wedding is less than a month and a half away. However he isn't sure that he wants to wear his ring all the time (his Dad wore his for the wedding day and has never worn it since) and I am wanting to buy him a ring from Triton. In that case we are deciding on agreeing on the ring due to how much he will actually wear it. If he only is gonna wear it for special occasions, we will just get a simple ring and not spend a lot. $100-$200. If he decides he is going to wear it all the time, then I'm dropping the $500 on the one that he likes from Triton.

I guess my point of this whole 'letter' is that you can't go wrong with investing in a ring if you both agree on the investment. I wouldn't change a single stone on my ring, and it's important to him that I love it. Whatever he decides on, it's important to me that he loves his ring too.

[BCGirl]

Originally Posted by comrade

Question: Who pays for the man's wedding band?

I'm buying his ring. I think it would be unreasonable for him to come out of pocket completely for both our rings. If he can spend a few thousand, I should definitely be able to afford a few hundred for a ring that the likes.

[Flames89]

Originally Posted by comrade

Question: Who pays for the man's wedding band?

Does it really matter when as soon as you are married everything is split anyways?

[LChoy]

Originally Posted by Lchoy

Hey guys

I just bought mine so all of this stuff is still fresh in my head

- There is no hard and fast rule about buying a ring. Spend as much as you are comfortable with. There is no reason to go into debt as you still have to plan a wedding
- The most important decision you'll need to make off the bat. Carat or Cut (or for those where money is no matter, than do both). Carat size is by weight, not size. The better the cut, the more "sparkle" the diamond appears. A well cut diamond will look bigger and better than a large carat diamond with an inferior cut. For me, I got the best cut diamond I could and reduce the carat size to .8
- Do your research before you shop. Get a minimum standard for all 4 qualities. For me, I wanted an ideal cut (excellent grade) or higher, F colour (the first category of "Colourless"), VS2 (will need 10x and a trained eye to see any inclusions), and no less than 0.75 carat.
- Naturally, the more higher qualities you seek, the price goes up. Find what qualities you can sacrifice to make it more affordable
- Canadian diamonds will have a markup compared to diamonds coming from else where. The advantage is that Canadian diamonds are laser inscribed so it gives people the confidence that it is not a blood diamond or something shady
- I bought my diamond from Brilliant earth, and online store. Very good service, and their company promotes itself as a environmentally friendly diamond company (my fiance is very into that). http://www.brilliantearth.com/
- Mine came to be about $8k (damn Ontario taxes) but appraised for almost 17k

Hope that helps

I pulled my old post from the last engagement ring thread
Hope this helps.

Commrade, for us and our other friends, usually the bride and groom buy the other's wedding band. I'm kind of nerdy, so I got my wedding band made out of palladium, which has the characteristics of Platnium, but with a third of the cost.
Good luck OP

[Flamenspiel]

I agree Bluenile is excellent, my wife has tried some of the lesser names on the internet which are cheaper but you really have to be careful as adjustments can be a problem.

[blankall]

Don't buy diamonds from retailers. The markups are insane. Get to know a diamond dealer. Buy from the source. Have the ring custom made with a prebought diamond, if you don't like their limited selection of actual rings.

[J pold]

Every thread about marriage/engagement/kids/divorce, etc really makes me want to avoid the whole process altogether. Hookers and housekeepers FTW.

[FlamesKickAss]

Originally Posted by Husky

Im referring to a medical ermrgency...aint no doctor going to follow that.

A doctor isnt going to know how to get the ring off? Please....

[freedogger]

Originally Posted by J pold

Every thread about marriage/engagement/kids/divorce, etc really makes me want to avoid the whole process altogether. Hookers and housekeepers FTW.

Yeah it aint easy, and I did try to show back on the previous page that the rock is a drop in the bucket to what the total outlay will be.

In all honesty though, my day to day hapiness is higher now than when I was single.

I have these people in my life that love and count on me. Knowing this has forced me to take things up several levels in my career and life in general from where I was. Much more satisfied with my life as a result.

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by freedogger

I have these people in my life that love and count on me. Knowing this has forced me to take things up several levels in my career and life in general from where I was. Much more satisfied with my life as a result.

Yes, but can you fap when and where you feel like? Plus, girlfriends like doing anywhere in the house including the kitchen. Wives don't want to do it anywhere the kids will be eating.

[freedogger]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

Yes, but can you fap when and where you feel like?

I had decades to prepare for this so it isn't as bad as you would think.

[Table 5]

We are in the middle of now looking at rings for my fiance because the wedding is less than a month and a half away. However he isn't sure that he wants to wear his ring all the time (his Dad wore his for the wedding day and has never worn it since) and I am wanting to buy him a ring from Triton. In that case we are deciding on agreeing on the ring due to how much he will actually wear it. If he only is gonna wear it for special occasions, we will just get a simple ring and not spend a lot. $100-$200. If he decides he is going to wear it all the time, then I'm dropping the $500 on the one that he likes from Triton.

I guess my point of this whole 'letter' is that you can't go wrong with investing in a ring if you both agree on the investment. I wouldn't change a single stone on my ring, and it's important to him that I love it. Whatever he decides on, it's important to me that he loves his ring too.

You should buy him a 5k watch to return the love. That's something most guys will appreciate much more than any ring, and at that price range, you get a watch for life.

[freedogger]

Originally Posted by Table 5

You should buy him a 5k watch to return the love. That's something most guys will appreciate much more than any ring, and at that price range, you get a watch for life.

Best advice so far on this thread!!

[Rerun]

Originally Posted by MarchHare

Here's my advice: marry a woman who thinks that spending $2000+ on a piece of jewelry is a foolish waste of money and would rather you save for a downpayment on your first home instead.

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