Help with women

[mikey_the_redneck]

Originally Posted by Senator Clay Davis

Another tip: Don't called them bitches like Mikey would.

Well not in front of them like, duh.....

[Ozy_Flame]

Wait until you're 26-33. The girls will realize what they're missing. Late 20's has been the best time of my life for meeting women. Unbelievable how well being a little older works. You practically don't even have to work for it.

[VladtheImpaler]

Originally Posted by Makarov

Note to Vlad: if you were playing the skin flute, those weren't women.

Oh, calm down kids - I was just making the point that you can do just fine without any musical skills at all... To get back on track with helping the OP, he can't control things like musical ability or looks, so I suggest he work on the most important thing that he can control - belief in himself...

[Senator Clay Davis]

I see this hasn't been mentioned, but get a dog. Women love dogs, so going for a walk with your dog is a surefire way to attract female attention, plus its an easier way to start a conversation than at the bar.

[Puppet Guy]

Originally Posted by Senator Clay Davis

I see this hasn't been mentioned, but get a dog. Women love dogs, so going for a walk with your dog is a surefire way to attract female attention, plus its an easier way to start a conversation than at the bar.

or borrow a friend's/sibling's/stranger's baby. Babies are even better than dogs at attracting women.

[valo403]

Originally Posted by Muta

It's all about confidence.

You can get it by going to the gym... the physical part is now out of the way. Women love guys who are in shape, at the very least. This should be priority number one for anyone, as it means you speak to women without actually saying a word to them.

When you're out, go with your bros. No chick likes a creepy dude trying to score by himself. But don't go out with more than 2-3 bros... chicks get turned off by big groups of guys.

Next, don't give too much attention to a chick when you first see them. When you lock eyes with her for the first time, give a little smile and then walk away and continue about your own business. That's it. You'll know her intentions by the way she reacts to that. This gives you the opportunity to talk to her later on in the evening.

The next step is rejection - accept it. Here's the scoop: just approach a woman and talk to her. Make her laugh. Just be yourself. it's the easiest and most natural way. If you get rejected, that's not a bad thing at all... it's her loss. Worst case scenario is that she doesn't talk to you again, and so what if that happens? You already weren't talking to her before. Rejection is completely overrated. Recognizing this means that your confidence is where it needs to be.

Lastly, make a woman laugh. Be funny. Show confidence and be funny, but do it within the limits of your own personality in order to avoid awkwardness. Tickling a woman's funny bone greatly increases the chances of them tickling your man bone later.

That's all there is to it.

By the way, don't buy a girl a drink or anything like that. If you're confident, you'll never have to spend money on a chick at a bar. Maybe later on the evening as a gesture of being nice... but that's it.

ADDED: Play guitar, or some instrument. It's a sick skill to have. Chicks hugely dig this.

All great advice, but I deducted points for use of the word 'bros'

I'm probably in the best shape I've been in since I was 20 and I definitely notice a major difference in the way I feel walking into a room. If you know you look good it's pretty hard to not be confident. It enables you to broadcast that confidence simply by being present, you don't need to do anything else.

[MarchHare]

Originally Posted by Senator Clay Davis

Another tip: Don't called them bitches like Mikey would.

[Larry MacDonald]

I suggest getting into the banking industry or anything that involves getting people's private information.

you find out so much, like her phone number, address, where she works...
Don't take "no" for an answer and dont let people tell you you're stalking.
You're just determined

[zuluking]

Originally Posted by MarchHare

As someone who was formerly in your position (perpetually assigned to the friend zone by every girl I liked), I know exactly where you're coming from and exactly what you need to do to break the cycle.

Most of this has been mentioned already, but to reiterate:

Girls like confidence, but learn the difference between being confident and being cocky. It works amazingly well if you balance bragging/showing off with self-depricating humour. It shows girls that you're confident enough to make fun of yourself.

Having enough confidence to approach a complete stranger to strike up a conversation is 95% of the battle. As a Canadian in Australia, you've got a natural advantage here. Just tell girls your situation and ask about places they think you should visit while you're there. Instant ice-breaker! Plus they'll think you're foreign and exotic and will likely have many questions about Canada.

You've probably been fooled by watching Hollywood romantic comedies and trying to emulate the behaviour of the male leads in those films. Girls might think that they want a sensitive man like Hugh Grant, but in reality that type of person will always end up in the friend zone. "You're such a great listener. Why can't I find a guy like you?" Don't be that guy!

If you haven't seen it already, watch the movie Swingers and look at Jon Favreau's transformation from the sensitive caring guy who never gets the girl into someone with more confidence who uses self-depricating humour to hook up with Heather Graham. "When you go over to talk to her, I don't want you to be the guy in the PG-13 movie everyone's really hoping makes it happen. I want you to be like the guy in the rated R movie, you know, the guy you're not sure whether or not you like yet. You're not sure where he's coming from. Okay?"

BE YOURSELF! Don't fake that you're interested in things that you're not just to impress a girl. It won't work long-term.

Success breeds success. Once you have a bit of luck, you'll very quickly get on a "hot streak". This is partly because you'll get more confidence, but also because women will be more likely to give you a shot when they realize that there must be something about you that another girl frinds attractive.

Thanked purely on the merits of quoting "Swingers". Love that movie. It's money, baby!

[Northendzone]

would you be adverse to taking any medication to help you, something like extenze......

anywyas, i think a lot of us have been where you are.

back in my bar going days in wpg I would have sporadic success. then one spring I was in the process of moving to TO and I was travelling back and fourth and would go out to bar in wpg and I had an out of town game on and I would meet/talk with som many girls at the bar - and I just chalked it up to more confidence......

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by Larry MacDonald

I suggest getting into the banking industry or anything that involves getting people's private information.

you find out so much, like her phone number, address, where she works...
Don't take "no" for an answer and dont let people tell you you're stalking.
You're just determined

I haven't noticed you before, but your avatar was/is the exact same as Lanny's . . . . Is that you Lanny? Have you graced us with your return? Please say yes

[Buff]

Originally Posted by Larry MacDonald

I suggest getting into the banking industry or anything that involves getting people's private information.

you find out so much, like her phone number, address, where she works...
Don't take "no" for an answer and dont let people tell you you're stalking.
You're just determined

Larry is almost right here. Find out something about them. Do you know somebody that she knows? Drop that person's name in conversation. If she trusts that person then she'll open up a little more to you. Better yet, talk to that person about her to find out what she likes. Then you have a whole bunch of avenues to take when starting a conversation with her.

[Larry MacDonald]

Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame

I haven't noticed you before, but your avatar was/is the exact same as Lanny's . . . . Is that you Lanny? Have you graced us with your return? Please say yes

Nope, I'm Larry
just a cheap knock off wanna be of the legend that is Lanny

[dancingoyster]

Some great advice here

Just remember, do not pass up an opportunity to stike up a conversation. Weather, sites, her name...whatever...just don't pass up an opprtunity.

I am a little older than 22, and if I had it all to do over again, that is the advice I would take.

Relax and just chat. At worst you will get a couple of rejections and a couple more friends. A funny thing about friends, they look out for each other...and most women have other girlfriends who are also single...

You will regret 100% of the chances you do not take. You are in Australia man! Just relax, talk to people, learn about the country. The rest will follow.

[blankall]

Originally Posted by Muta

By the way, don't buy a girl a drink or anything like that. If you're confident, you'll never have to spend money on a chick at a bar. Maybe later on the evening as a gesture of being nice... but that's it.

Great advice, but no harm in being generous. Obviously don't waste your money on women who just want to use you for drinks, but if you have a good conversation going and you are in proximity to the bar, I'd always suggest buying a woman drink when you order one for yourself. Just be casual about it and act like it's not a big deal. Women are hard wired to react positvely to gifts. A woman will also feel left out and that you are cheap if you order a drink and don't get one for her.

If you really want to pick up women, become a good dancer. Being a good dancer accomplishes all the goals you have in getting to meet a woman in one go. You get close to eachother and used to casual touching, you demonstrate confidence, you demonstrate athletic ability, and you get her having fun and feeling attractive. Women love to dance.

In my early 20s I hated to dance, and it cost me big time. At that age I was going to university and went out largely in mixed groups where the women were always wanting to dance and I habitually said no. I really wish I could go back in time and kick my 20 year old self in the nuts and tell him to dance to Bon Jovi with the hot women.

To put all this together, the ultimate formula for picking up women is talk, drink, dance, drink, dance again. In a long term relationship now, so haven't used it in a few years, but it works like a charm.

[freedogger]

Originally Posted by MarchHare

OMG YES

I'm pretty sure everytime I got laid in university (late 90s to early 00s) it was because I impressed some chick with my ability to play Dave Matthews Band or Radiohead songs.

I fricking hated that guy. Wanted to pull a Belushi every time I saw it. But yes, effective...

[Jacks]

Originally Posted by Puppet Guy

or borrow a friend's/sibling's/stranger's baby. Babies are even better than dogs at attracting women.

Hey Julie, it's Bob .... your cousin Bob .... ya, ya, long time no talk. Say, I heard you had a baby, I'm just going to the park and was wondering if I could borrow it for a few hours ...... why not? ..... okay okay ....... hey, you don't have a dog do you?

[Calgaryflamesgirl34]

Originally Posted by STeeLy

Trying to determine if he's recommended on your e-harmony profile?

Never used eharmony sorry lol

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by Larry MacDonald

Nope, I'm Larry
just a cheap knock off wanna be of the legend that is Lanny

Referring to himself as a legend is exactly something Lanny would do.

[Street Pharmacist]

Play hard to get while making yourself obviously available.

And eye #### the #### outta girls. Works great