Rant: Getting People To Come Out

[bluejays]

How many people here have trouble getting people to come out as the years go by? My problem is that I just got word back practically last minute that I won't be going on vacation anymore to Veradero because the person I was going with backed out last minute because he couldn't get the time off (we were supposed to leave next weekend). It really pissed me off because I took the time off work since January, was really looking forward to it, turned down another trip because of being committed to it and because he left it to last minute, never got the time off. It got me thinking of how over the years, people tend not to want to go out anymore for the silliest reasons (tiredness, little money, advance notice, girlfriends etc). I'm not old by any stretch (only 27), but it really got to me how much planning people sometimes have to do, in order to come out for the most minute things. What's with people's indecisiveness. Does anyone else have problems like this?

[Yeah_Baby]

I don't think a lot of people 'come out' because of religious reasons as well.

[wooohooo]

I'll come out with you if you pay for me

[pylon]

In before MRCBOICGY

[ma-skis.com]

not really, if my friends can't do something, they just tell me and we don't make a big deal of it, and if i can't do it, they don't bug me either, we're all adults and we understand that everyone has different obligations,

i think it might be a maturity issue. If someone can't go, they should just say no off the get go, if they have to change their mind for whatever reason, that's their own business. But don't make your fun rely on someone else's ability to do something.

and on the rare times everyone gets there stuff together, it's generally an epic night. usually worth the wait.

[Bob]

Supposedly it's normal to give 6-7 days notice of any social event in Finland, otherwise you can expect to be turned down. Seriously, I heard that from people over there.

[Kybosh]

Why don't you just go on vacation by yourself? It's actually pretty sweet to not have to cater to anyone but yourself.

[MRCboicgy]

Originally Posted by pylon

In before MRCBOICGY

That's what he said

[bluejays]

Originally Posted by Kybosh

Why don't you just go on vacation by yourself? It's actually pretty sweet to not have to cater to anyone but yourself.

I'm not really self conscious, but the few people we did meet in Cuba last year who were there by themselves were cool, but there was always something a tad sketchy because of them being there by "themselves". I prefer having someone to verify your stories too when you come back. Always fun.

[I-Hate-Hulse]

Wait till your friends start having kids. You'll be lucky to see them maybe 2x a year? (there are exceptions of course)

[Kybosh]

Originally Posted by fleury

I'm not really self conscious, but the few people we did meet in Cuba last year who were there by themselves were cool, but there was always something a tad sketchy because of them being there by "themselves". I prefer having someone to verify your stories too when you come back. Always fun.

I've only traveled by myself once (an extended trip in SE Asia) and I actually really liked it. Come to think of it, I wouldn't want to go to a resort alone because most of the people would be in couples. Doing the hostel thing alone is awesome though.

I was just thinking that if you've already taken the time off and paid for the trip, why not go?

[bluejays]

Originally Posted by Kybosh

I've actually only traveled by myself once (an extended trip in SE Asia) and I actually really liked it. Come to think of it, I wouldn't want to go to a resort alone because most of the people would be in couples. Doing the hostel thing alone is awesome though.

I was just thinking that if you've already taken the time off and paid for the trip, why not go?

Didn't pay for the trip yet. Was going to book it this week. Cuba is crazy cheap around now. But it really is the nightlife part where you want a friend there to verify the crazy stories you have for everyone else.

[Regulator75]

Maybe he is actually breaking up with you...

[Hack&Lube]

Yeah, we were doing a road trip this month but 2 of the people just backed out with 2 weeks to go when the accomodations and everything for 6 have been paid for. It sucks.

As people get older, they have more responsibilities and things in their own lives that are more important than friends. That happens but it still sucks.

[puckluck]

Maybe become more cooler and funner to hang out with?

[Rathji]

Get used to people drifting apart. As people get married and have kids there is bigger and bigger drift. I need to make a huge effort to go out to a friends house for a game night or something and expect that doing something like going out of the country for a week or more would be impossible.

Speaking of Cuba and vacations, the Cuban government has some sort of requirement that anyone visiting has to have full medical insurance and proof of that insurance or they will force you to buy it at port of entry before you can proceed. They sent an email about it out at work today with instructions on getting the proper proof from our insurance company.

[Muta]

I'm with the OP... the older we get (I'm only 26, but still...) the harder it is to get people to come out. But it's not something to get mad about, it just happens.

It comes down to three things: 1) Relationships, which just becomes more and more the prime factor as people get older / engaged / married, 2) Not living in the same geographical location anymore (this is completely understandable for obvious reasons, however) and 3) general apathy to just going out (ie. getting too old to go to bars populated by 18 year olds).

I found that as long as you can enjoy your own company, you're much more fine with this situation. I just learned to accept it. I'm not one those people that falls into the category that I listed above, but I have learned to really enjoy the time that you do go out with people when you can.

[dubc80]

I get annoyed when guys don't come out when their gf/wife/fiancee don't want to. Like seriously. You have to be with each other 24/7?

[DAN0383]

To the OP, how is having "little money" a silly reason to not go out? Going out costs money...

[Hack&Lube]

Originally Posted by DAN0383

To the OP, how is having "little money" a silly reason to not go out? Going out costs money...

The trick is to only go out when you know it will be cheap or someone else is paying