08-25-2008, 02:33 PM
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Is there such a thing as a lover that got away?
When I was in University (6-7 years ago) I had this major crush on a guy. He was tall, handsome, man of my dreams  So I got to know him a bit and gave him many many hints but he didn't react. Then one day I got up the courage and finally just admitted that I liked him. But he wasn't interested. I tried a few more times but still he wasn't interested. So I gave up.
On Saturday I was at my hairdressers waiting and he walks in the door. Wearing a suit and looking more mature and hotter than I remember him.
I tried to not noticed but he saw me right away and said hi.
The next part is not nice of me to say but he introduced me to his wife who was short, fat and ugly. He tried to carry on with the conversation, asking how I was doing, if I was married, what job I'm doing etc..but by now I was too flustered and upset. I went up to the hairdresser (who I have known forever) , rescheduled for Sunday, and left immediately.
Today I'm still upset about that. I'm not that beautiful but I know I'm better than THAT.
Any other girls (or mostly guys on here) ever have an experience like this? Or am I wrong to be this upset over it?
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08-25-2008, 02:34 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2003
Location: Calgary, AB
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Maybe she has a great personality and he just wasn't a fan of yours
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08-25-2008, 02:35 PM
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Usually when a lover gets away I release the hounds to find them!
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08-25-2008, 02:35 PM
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Norm!
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Sure, I had her tied up in my basement, and somehow she gnawed through the ropes and got away.
Sigh, she was my one great love.
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Look on my Works, ye Mighty, and despair!
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08-25-2008, 02:38 PM
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Join Date: May 2004
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Originally Posted by Tyler
Maybe she has a great personality and he just wasn't a fan of yours
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This.
You might be more attractive than his wife, but there's many other factors to consider when choosing a lifelong mate. Maybe he likes her personality, sense of humour, etc.? Or maybe she's loaded and he's a golddigger?
Either way, it's nothing you should be upset about.
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08-25-2008, 02:38 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2002
Location: Auckland, NZ
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Don't worry about it. He's into kinky, messy Gremlin lovin', but he's too embarassed to tell you. Don't always judge a book by its cover.
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08-25-2008, 02:38 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2007
Location: Calgary
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a) I was waiting for Fotze to have a remark
b) I do have a good personality! 
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08-25-2008, 02:39 PM
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Location: Calgary
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Unfortunately love is blind sometimes..
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08-25-2008, 02:39 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2004
Location: Calgary
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No, that's a normal reaction, especially if it's someone you let get inside your head or you created in an image of in those younger years. Sometimes you keep telling yourself that you are better than what they ended up with but in the end, sometimes if they weren't interested, there's no way you can make them interested.
It still sucks though. Even as a laid-back guy, I could imagine having that type of reaction to certain people in my life.
Last edited by Hack&Lube; 08-25-2008 at 02:44 PM.
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08-25-2008, 02:40 PM
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Norm!
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Frankly, love is deaf, blind, dumb, stupid, and it really doesn't exist.
All things die in time, some sooner and some later.
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My name is Ozymandias, King of Kings;
Look on my Works, ye Mighty, and despair!
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08-25-2008, 02:40 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2002
Location: Crowsnest Pass
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It's meeting the man of my dreams
And then meeting his beautiful? wife
And isn't it ironic... don't you think
A little too ironic... and yeah I really do think...
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08-25-2008, 02:40 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2003
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He probably thought he would do better than you way back then, then reality hit him a few years later and he got scared and settled with this chick who was probably not THAT bad when he married her, then she went downhill as so many wives (and husbands) seem to, and now he gets to sit at home and think about you and that you are the one that got away?
(I am admittedly a bit cynical about relationships these days!)
But really, he didn't feel that vibe with you back then and if there is one thing I know it is that you can never force that vibe when it is not there.
Just count yourself lucky you aren't with a guy with such poor girl taste!?
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08-25-2008, 02:41 PM
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Yes, I have had that. A girl I liked ended up dating a d-bag after I went on a few dates with her. The guy was your typical, non-interesting average Joe with crooked teeth and a really small head. I don't know what she saw in him, but I know I was better than that.
However, I realized something very important - why try and be with someone who doesn't share an interest in you anyways? Asking them to suddenly change overnight is hardly a common thing people do, especially in the way of romance.
Some people just don't feel the same way, no matter how hard you try. I know it hurts, but there are plenty of other quality people out there that will like you for who you are.
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08-25-2008, 02:46 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
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I guess i don't understand why you place so much emphasis on looks. To me a persons morals, values, and personality have a higher value to me than looks.
Find someone who shares the interests as you and shares similar values as you do. To me that more important.
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08-25-2008, 02:47 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2003
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Yes, I have had that. A girl I liked ended up dating a d-bag after I went on a few dates with her. The guy was your typical, non-interesting average Joe with crooked teeth and a really small head. I don't know what she saw in him, but I know I was better than that.
However, I realized something very important - why try and be with someone who doesn't share an interest in you anyways? Asking them to suddenly change overnight is hardly a common thing people do, especially in the way of romance.
Some people just don't feel the same way, no matter how hard you try. I know it hurts, but there are plenty of other quality people out there that will like you for who you are.
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The great side of this is when you are on the otherside of the coin, when someone way out of you league just adores you. You don't ask why, you just run with it!
Why begrudge this ugly chick her good fortune?
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08-25-2008, 02:50 PM
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No
I don’t believe that two people are ever destined to be together or any of that ‘one true love’ stuff. Nobody ‘gets away’ sometimes you are interested in someone and they just don’t feel the same way. Sometimes someone is going to be very interested in you but you won’t feel the same. Either way it doesn’t mean you are missing out on ‘the one’ because there is no such thing.
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08-25-2008, 02:50 PM
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n00b!
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Originally Posted by GirlySports
When I was in University (6-7 years ago) I had this major crush on a guy. He was tall, handsome, man of my dreams So I got to know him a bit and gave him many many hints but he didn't react. Then one day I got up the courage and finally just admitted that I liked him. But he wasn't interested. I tried a few more times but still he wasn't interested. So I gave up.
On Saturday I was at my hairdressers waiting and he walks in the door. Wearing a suit and looking more mature and hotter than I remember him.
I tried to not noticed but he saw me right away and said hi.
The next part is not nice of me to say but he introduced me to his wife who was short, fat and ugly. He tried to carry on with the conversation, asking how I was doing, if I was married, what job I'm doing etc..but by now I was too flustered and upset. I went up to the hairdresser (who I have known forever) , rescheduled for Sunday, and left immediately.
Today I'm still upset about that. I'm not that beautiful but I know I'm better than THAT.
Any other girls (or mostly guys on here) ever have an experience like this? Or am I wrong to be this upset over it? |
Sorry - your reaction and judgement of his wife who you don't even know is ridiculous.
"Better than THAT"? Give me a break. Guess what, she's with him, you're not... keep thinking you're "better than that", but reality suggests otherwise.
This probably comes across harsh, but quite honest, your reaction and statement that his wife is "short, fat and ugly" is a lot harsher.
No sympathy from me... grow up.
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08-25-2008, 02:50 PM
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Location: Calgary
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Originally Posted by Claeren
The great side of this is when you are on the otherside of the coin, when someone way out of you league just adores you. You don't ask why, you just run with it!
Why begrudge this ugly chick her good fortune?
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Cause it should have been my good fortune!?
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08-25-2008, 02:50 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2004
Location: Calgary
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Originally Posted by Ozy_Flame
Yes, I have had that. A girl I liked ended up dating a d-bag after I went on a few dates with her. The guy was your typical, non-interesting average Joe with crooked teeth and a really small head. I don't know what she saw in him, but I know I was better than that.
However, I realized something very important - why try and be with someone who doesn't share an interest in you anyways? Asking them to suddenly change overnight is hardly a common thing people do, especially in the way of romance.
Some people just don't feel the same way, no matter how hard you try. I know it hurts, but there are plenty of other quality people out there that will like you for who you are.
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Couldn't have said it better myself....Ozy is a wise man.
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08-25-2008, 02:51 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006
Location: A simple man leading a complicated life....
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Originally Posted by Claeren
Why begrudge this ugly chick her good fortune?
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One persons ugliness is another persons beauty. Guess i don't get this ugliness label that people place on certain members of the oposite sex 
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