Anniversaries: Are they important? - Calgarypuck Forums - The Unofficial Calgary Flames Fan Community

rubecube · 08-13-2008, 03:40 PM

So I was just having a conversation with my girlfriend (read: she was yelling at me) about anniversaries. It turns out our one year anniversary is in a couple of months and just so happens to fall on a Sunday, which during the fall means it's NFL season. Sundays during NFL season mean I'm usually drunk by noon while I gamble and scream at the TV for a good 12 hours. I also happen to be a diehard Philadelphia Eagles fans.

So I casually said something along the lines of 'Well we can do something that day after the Eagles game,' to which she responded with 'You're not watching football on our anniversary.' I informed her that I most certainly was and she proceeded to get very upset.

This all got me thinking:

a) It's a one year anniversary in a relationship (not a marriage) which seems pretty insignificant to making a big deal out of.

b) What the hell is so important/significant about anniversaries anyways?

Now I know I'm not the only guy out there that thinks like this, otherwise there wouldn't be so many of us that constantly get crapped on for forgetting them. Why do the ladies care so much about them? If one year is a milestone, then wouldn't a year and a day be a bigger milestone? Is it just an excuse for the gal to make the guy go out and buy her a nice gift and/or a fancy dinner? If it's the last one, then it makes relationships sound like prositution with some kind of employee incentinve program.

Maybe I'm completely out to lunch on this but I just don't see the need to pat yourself on the back for spending a lot of time with someone.

/rant

troutman · 08-13-2008, 03:42 PM

Unless you are married, when do you calculate the anniversary from? First date?

Get her an Eagles jersey.

rubecube · 08-13-2008, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by troutman

Unless you are married, when do you calculate the anniversary from? First date?

Get her an Eagles jersey.

Yeah, I think that's what she's calculating from. Seemed rather abritrary to me.

Bring_Back_Shantz · 08-13-2008, 03:48 PM

I like the Eagles Jersey idea.

Ever think of asking her if she would like to do something special on Saturday night instead?

Ice · 08-13-2008, 03:48 PM

I never cared about celebrating any anniversary until I was married. Even now, if my husband forgot our wedding anniversay, I don't think I'd care. I don't think there needs to be one specific day set aside for celebrating a relationship. I feel the same way about Valentines Day, that's a lame holiday. He'd be in trouble if he forgot my birthday though.

rubecube · 08-13-2008, 03:50 PM

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Originally Posted by Ice

I never cared about celebrating any anniversary until I was married. Even now, if my husband forgot our wedding anniversay, I don't think I'd care. I don't think there needs to be one specific day set aside for celebrating a relationship. I feel the same way about Valentines Day, that's a lame holiday. He'd be in trouble if he forgot my birthday though.

That's kind of my feeling on it.

J pold · 08-13-2008, 03:50 PM

This thread just prompted me to check the day of one year anniversary with my current GF…and it also falls on a Sunday!!!

The Jets are playing the Pats at home!!!!! NOOOO!!!

Luckily I know she will be writing her MCAT on the 16th of September which is a Tuesday so hopefully we can put it off till after she is done writing

But also agree with Rube…what is the big deal? I mean come on

brownie · 08-13-2008, 03:52 PM

So technically your "anniversary" is at Midnight on the Saturday night.Go out for supper that night....give her some flowers after midnight,and maybe a little gift. Then you should be home free for Sunday.

Muta · 08-13-2008, 03:53 PM

Do what I do - keep breaking up and getting back together every couple of months so you perpetually avoid having to worry about one-year anniversaries. This way, you'll never forget one, because you'll never have to remember one.

Saves a bunch of money, too.

ricoFlame · 08-13-2008, 03:53 PM

it's funny, once you are married, the dating anniversary becomes meaningless, at least it did for us. i don't even remember when it was.

CaptainCrunch · 08-13-2008, 03:56 PM

a) This thread is useless without pics. If she's hot then yes anniversaries are important.
b) Woman have different wiring then men and its based around two things, the first is the level of the garbage in the house and other chores. The second is date sensitive. One year anniversaries are huge, in fact they celebrate one year anniversaries for every single event that happens in that first year of dating. IE Its the first year anniversary of the first time we went roller blading together. Its the first year anniversary of the first time you met her mother blah blah blah.

Suck it up buttercup, screw football for a few hours, and get your party hat on. Because if you miss or ignore that anniversary, then she might still date you, but everytime you have a argument, she's going to pull the insensitive jerk card who missed an important date and doesn't take the relationship seriously stuff, including a power point presentation.

REDVAN · 08-13-2008, 03:56 PM

I think it is a huge deal for a girl. But usually when you say "Like hell I am skipping football for you" she gets mad, so you should have said "ok I would love to spend time with you" and then try to plan your adventure around football.

And if you don't like her more than football give me her number haha, because I like girls more than football.

flylock shox · 08-13-2008, 03:57 PM

As soon as I read the thread title I thought "It's too late. If you're asking this question, you're already in trouble."

There are, of course, all sorts of reasons that this might be an important occasion for her. Perhaps she's never been with anyone for so long, happens to be pretty pleased with you, and sees this as a milestone that suggests to her that things between the two of you are working out better than anything has worked out for her before, thus giving it some real emotional significance (regardless of the arbitrariness of the actual date).

Or, maybe it means your relationship now falls under your local family relations legislation, you are now common-law husband and wife, and she just got rights to one half of the plasma TV you watch your football games on. In which case, I suggest you accustom yourself to figure skating and Grey's Anatomy.

Superflyer · 08-13-2008, 03:57 PM

To me an anniversary is just another one of those hallmark things, where it was created to spend money.
But as someone said above mention that you would rather go out and have fun on Saturday night instead of Sunday cause you have more freedom to have fun and not have to worry about work the next day. This way you can focus more on her and not work the next day.

But one thing I have to say, why is she planning your one year dating anniversary a few months out? Seems a little ambitious.

CaptainCrunch · 08-13-2008, 03:59 PM

You - "Happy anniversary baby, I got you a gift"
Her - "Oh boy a present I'm so excited, what did you get me?"
You - "Well the technical term is a donkey punch"
Her - "Oh"

Prototype · 08-13-2008, 04:01 PM

I can say from experience, all the above posters are guys, cause I, as a male, have gotten in crap from ex-girlfriends, and my current wife for how I've handled anniversarys.

Are they important? To the female persuasion, yes. It's usually just another day for guys, but the girls think it's Valentines Day v2.0. That's not to say that it's every woman... but to most, it's lethal to miss.

I would suggest to the original poster, and keep in mind that this is a guys idea, that the jersey thing may work in this scenerio.

Buy the jersey and give it to her the week before. Tell her that it's important to you that she sits and watches a game with you, so that she can understand how important Sunday Morning/Afternoon/Evenings are to you, but you'd like to share the experience with her.

Here's the catch. You let her know that if she does that, she gets to choose what happens in the evening. A little give and take. You may set yourself up for Ballet or Opera here, but if watching this game is that important for you, you're probably going to have to swing something in her favour in return.

Women want to feel special, but as ricoFlame mentioned, the dating anniversary goes away... in our case it kinda disapeared after about 3 years of dating. They weren't as important, and now we celebrate the yearly mariage anniversary. I couldn't tell you what exact day we started dating, but it was about 7 years ago.

Bill Bumface · 08-13-2008, 04:03 PM

It's your anniversary too. She should be doing something to make the day special for you. Like servicing you during the Eagles game...

Boblobla · 08-13-2008, 04:05 PM

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Originally Posted by hulkrogan

It's your anniversary too. She should be doing something to make the day special for you. Like servicing you during the Eagles game...

AHAHAHaHAHAHAHAHA

G/L with that.

The Fonz · 08-13-2008, 04:11 PM

I want to write a long post but I'm too lazy right now.

A happy wife is a happy life.

HelloHockeyFans · 08-13-2008, 04:11 PM

Personally, I don't see it as a big deal, but I know that lots of girls do think it's a big deal.

From my experience, if my girlfriend puts a lot of importance in anniversaries, then I do something special for her. The day itself might not be a big deal to me, but it's also not a big deal for me to do something special for her that day because it is a big deal to her.

So I take her out to a nice dinner, spend the night in a hotel and maybe get her a nice gift. No harm in doing that.