CP Women/Dating Discussion Thread #841 & #842

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Over the past number of years there's been a number of threads regarding dating, flirting, and relationships with women in general.

One thing that seems to be unanimous is the need to flirt, do it well, and with confidence.

I'm looking for ideas on how to flirt and create/increase attraction via everyone's favourite social networking site (next to CP of course) Facebook.

Scenario: met a girl, got a long, danced, laughed, etc. Just wanted to flirt a bit and see what happens (I'm expecting nothing, we don't live in the same city). Ideas?

[I_H8_Crawford]

np

[chris lindberg]

You're bad.

[PYroMaNiaC]

My question is why flirt if you expect nothing? Expend your energies on something or someone you really desire.

[rubecube]

Poke her brains out.

[flylock shox]

Use sexually suggestive humour. When you make jokes, make jokes of a sexual nature, and try to be outrageous. Don't direct your jokes at her in particular, but build on any cues she gives you in response. Since you can't use physical lines of communication over the interweb, you have to allude to them. Engage her mind, but maintain references which are physical in nature to ensure mutual sexual awareness.

Once you've got a good series of messages going back and forth, and you've established mutual interest, then send her a picture of your wang. Remember though, that women appreciate subtlety, and you should therefore try to portray your wang in as artful a manner as possible. For example, between two lumps of ice cream (the "banana split"), or painted blue and wearing glasses (the "Dr. Gonzo").

After that, you should be golden.

[wittynickname]

Well, I'm perpetually single, but if a guy was going to try to get my interests...

Talk to her. That's right, talk to her. Find out her interests, see what you have in common, discuss it. "Flirting" is overrated, and any lines or anything you might use are likely to crash and burn. You can add in a few playful things, subtly insinuate that you're interested, but really...just talk to her. She'll probably figure out that you're looking for more than just friendship pretty quickly.

[gottabekd]

Weellll....since you have her on Facebook, just note her favourite stuff, and message her about that.

"Oh my god! I love watching Grey's Anatomy too!" "Rihanna's latest album is just so deep and soulful!"

Sold. http://xkcd.com/300/

[Drunk Skunk]

Originally Posted by flylock shox

Use sexually suggestive humour. When you make jokes, make jokes of a sexual nature, and try to be outrageous. Don't direct your jokes at her in particular, but build on any cues she gives you in response. Since you can't use physical lines of communication over the interweb, you have to allude to them. Engage her mind, but maintain references which are physical in nature to ensure mutual sexual awareness.

Once you've got a good series of messages going back and forth, and you've established mutual interest, then send her a picture of your wang. Remember though, that women appreciate subtlety, and you should therefore try to portray your wang in as artful a manner as possible. For example, between two lumps of ice cream (the "banana split"), or painted blue and wearing glasses (the "Dr. Gonzo").

After that, you should be golden.

Wrap a bow around it and say "Belated Christmas present". That's classy.

[Bill Bumface]

Poke the sh*t out of her.

[flylock shox]

Originally Posted by wittynickname

Talk to her. That's right, talk to her.

What a weird idea.

Americans...

[FlamesPuck12]

Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

Scenario: met a girl, got a long, danced, laughed, etc. Just wanted to flirt a bit and see what happens (I'm expecting nothing, we don't live in the same city). Ideas?

A foot long?

[Ozy_Flame]

My last girlfriend was a random on Facebook I met....I just found her through a myriad of friends, then randomly messaged here with something like "Hey, I saw your profile, saw alot of cool things you like and we share some of the same friends...Just thought I'd introduce myself, and if you want to respond, that would be great! Have a good one!"

About a month later we were dating, and I had two great months of zany sex! Then I found out she was a bitchy princess and we parted ways.

FB is awesome for scoring though =)

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by wittynickname

Well, I'm perpetually single, but if a guy was going to try to get my interests...

Talk to her. That's right, talk to her. Find out her interests, see what you have in common, discuss it. "Flirting" is overrated, and any lines or anything you might use are likely to crash and burn. You can add in a few playful things, subtly insinuate that you're interested, but really...just talk to her. She'll probably figure out that you're looking for more than just friendship pretty quickly.

I hear ya Witty, perpetually single myself. () So I suppose I shouldn't really be giving any thoughts/advice on dating...

...But I am bored, so I will anyways. I agree with Witty here, just talking to her is a good idea. I don't know why people insist on trying to find new and outrageous ways to get someone to take notice. Just talk and let things happen naturally. You can both get to know one another better and figure out if there is something there.

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Originally Posted by PYroMaNiaC

My question is why flirt if you expect nothing? Expend your energies on something or someone you really desire.

Good question. My reasoning is that while I'm sociable, flirtatious, and out going around people I know, and know well, I'm more shy, reserved, and tend to live inside my head around people I don't (unless drunk of course, alas as much as I try a perpetual state of intoxication I've yet to achieve). So how do I fix my, now relatively small, shyness problem? By engaging in situations to practice where the outcome of crash and burn isn't a deterrent.

If I talk and flirt with the girl, and it goes no where. No big deal, I'm not expecting it to. However if it goes well and still nothing comes of it, I'm better off by getting over an anxiety, or at least have some experience doing so.

If I'm not good in certain situations why wait until I need to be and then fail? Why not attempt to get better when the stakes aren't nearly as high (or high at all)?

Like I said best case scenario, see Ozy_Flame's response. Worst case, meh. Really it's a no lose situation.

If I'm investing time/energy on someone I really want, I want to be able to invest my time and energy wisely. Something I haven't done in the past.

Originally Posted by wittynickname

"Flirting" is overrated, and any lines or anything you might use are likely to crash and burn. You can add in a few playful things, subtly insinuate that you're interested

Bah, that's the definition of flirting

Examples would be?

As I stated in my response to Pyro, I'm good with people I know as my humour is responsive (my humour is cornball/cheesy combined with intelligent, dry, wit and sarcasm), the problem is just meeting people takes me a bit to warm up/understand how they'd react. Hence, in part, the desire to start the thread. Just looking for good, ideas to add in with talking and chatting.

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

I hear ya Witty, perpetually single myself. () So I suppose I shouldn't really be giving any thoughts/advice on dating...

...But I am bored, so I will anyways. I agree with Witty here, just talking to her is a good idea. I don't know why people insist on trying to find new and outrageous ways to get someone to take notice. Just talk and let things happen naturally. You can both get to know one another better and figure out if there is something there.

What's with all the single girls on CP?

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by FireFly

What's with all the single girls on CP?

We're all too busy on CP, giving out dating advice to ever head outside and meet a guy...


... or because guys seem to think that girls liking sports is butch. A guy called me butch a few months back because I knew more about hockey than he did. That was nice.

Who knows though?

[Resolute 14]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

I hear ya Witty, perpetually single myself. () So I suppose I shouldn't really be giving any thoughts/advice on dating...

...But I am bored, so I will anyways. I agree with Witty here, just talking to her is a good idea. I don't know why people insist on trying to find new and outrageous ways to get someone to take notice. Just talk and let things happen naturally. You can both get to know one another better and figure out if there is something there.

Judging by this place, I think actually talking to a girl would be considered new and outrageous...

[J pold]

Flirting like all things just takes some practice before you get good but here is a rule of thumb I follow

1) Don’t give out comments- just don’t do it, once you feel she is attracted to you than you can slip one in, and even then avoid it being about her physical appearance but rather something she is wearing or doing etc.

2) Be aware of you body langue- honestly you could have a prewritten script for every scenario on how to get a women attracted to you, but if you are delivering the lines with your hands in your pockets, looking at a floor, and talking in a whisper it won’t matter

[flylock shox]

Originally Posted by FireFly

What's with all the single girls on CP?

Maybe you gals should start a CP Men/Dating Discussion Thread. As you can see from the above, this site is loaded with people who give great practical advice.