Ladies, need your help

[TheyCallMeBruce]

And guys too...well, if you think feel that you got the ladies all figured out.

Some guys and I at the office are debating what women look for in a guy, and pretty much all my coworkers think looks.

What is most important to you?

Confidence
Looks
Sense of Humor
Intelligence
Honesty & Morals (thanks to Mango)
Chemistry

Rate them in order of what's most important to the least.

[Flames89]

I think it depends what the woman wants the guy for... a spin in bed, or take home to the parents...?

[FireFly]

Most important? I don't think I could decide. It's the whole package. Intelligence and sense of humour are up there though. Obviously you have to be attracted to the person, but I find most men are sexy in their own way. Smell.... mmmmm, they have to smell good. (Again though, most men do.) I would actually say confidence is the least important because it's something you can work on if it isn't there. (At the same time though, I do like a man that can handle me, which does take confidence.)

[Mango]

I think it is a combination of a few things. I like a guy who's honest and has integrity is probably on the top of my list. You have to be attracted to a person that ranks in the top five as well. My rating:

1) Honest
2) Good morals
3) Looks
4) Intelligence
5) Sense of humor

[RedHot25]

Ok well I am definately not an expert, and being a guy I should probably be disqualified from this.

That said, I will provide you with some tidbits my wife has stated:

-confidence for her was/is a pretty big thing (I'm average, sometimes a bit unconfident...so I don't know how I hood-winked her into marrying me).

-looks were important, but not the be all end all...I guess kind of like mango has noted.

Anywho, take that with a big grain of salf, just some random points that my wife has stated.

[TheyCallMeBruce]

Well, it's a good thing looks doesn't rate highly...cause some of my buddies...and myself...uh...yeah

[RedHot25]

Originally Posted by TheyCallMeBruce

Well, it's a good thing looks doesn't rate highly...cause some of my buddies...and myself...uh...yeah

yuppers, how do you think that I got my wife ? thank goodness looks wasn't super high on her list either!

[CaptainCrunch]

What woman look for in a guy

1) Money
2) Car
3) Money
4) Looks
5) Shares in Microsoft
6) Money
7) Hung like a horse
8) Money
9) Is willing to change baby
10) Left arm bigger then the right one for moving all of her friends and taking the garbage out
11) Friend with low self esteem to take her best friend horse faced Eileen out on a blind date
12) Chiseled abs
13) The ability to cook and clean and keep the chocolates stocked up so she can watch her stories
14) Fashion blindness (No baby you look positively svelte in those jeans, and I do think green Lycra makes you look even a tinsey bit skinnier
15) After 6 months of dating, the sex drive of a rock
16) Yes dear, no dear, whatever you say dear
17) Money
18) A guy with the ability to be judged on every single thing he's ever done in his life without the desire to fire it back in her face
19) An outstanding collection of CD's that she can keep when they breakup
20) Must like cute lacy drink holders and kittens

[HelloHockeyFans]

IMO:

1. Looks

This gets your foot in the door . . . period. Sorry, if you don't attract the girl physically, you won't ever get the chance to impress her with your personality.

Once you're in, I think it depends on what the girl is looking for (long-term? fling?)

If the girl just got out of a relationship, but wants to meet a guy to get close to, honesty and morals are probably pretty low on her checklist.

Otherwise, I can see a ranking as follows:

2. Honesty and morals

If the girl wants the option of being with the guy long-term, this is huge and the most important factor IMO.

3. Chemistry

Hasn't been mentioned yet, but I think this is key also. I've been with girls before where I'm completely satisfied with everything else, but the chemistry just wasnt there. Sexual chemistry, enjoying the same things in life, having similar interests... all very important if we're talking long-term.

4. Confidence

If you're confident (not cacky (stupid filter)), you project it without trying... and girls will sense this within minutes of meeting you for the first time.

5. Sense of Humour

People (not just girls) love to laugh. Sense of humour - not in the 'Mitch Hedberg' sense, but in the ability to laugh at things in general (including themselves).

6. Intelligence

Important, but not that key I think. As long as the guy is at the same level as the girl (or close), this is rarely an issue IMO.

The thing with points 2 to 6 IMO, are that once the most important factor of looks is established, it disappears, because the guy is in the door and everything else supplants it, but as I mentioned, there is no doubt in my mind whatsoever that looks is the single attribute which determines whether or not a guy even gets a chance to show off his other ones.

[SaskaBushFire]

Originally Posted by CaptainCrunch

What woman look for in a guy


11) Friend with low self esteem to take her best friend horse faced Eileen out on a blind date

I think I peed a little in my pants from laughing so hard at this comment.

Good work.. you just made me look like an idiot in a 80 person computer lab on campus

[Bill Bumface]

All they care about is how big of a hole you have to cut in that box.

[rubecube]

[FireFly]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

All they care about is how big of a hole you have to cut in that box.

Just to put this to rest... (not the dick in a box joke, as that's funny, but the whole size debate,) it really isn't about how deep you fish, or how fat your rod is. Sure, a big one is nice, however, that doesn't mean you can get away with having that as your 'skill'.

[Maritime Q-Scout]

1) Honest
2) Good morals
3) Looks
4) Intelligence
5) Sense of humor
*) Chemistry (a good addition)

Open body language takes care of 1) Honest, 2) Good morals, 3) Looks, and *) Chemistry

Confidence in what you're saying (no matter how insane) takes care of 4) Intelligence, and 5) Sense of humor

Essentially however you break it down, to get past the initial first impression/conversation you need to self assured in what you're saying, and have open body language. What you say is actually secondary (unless you're talking about your ex-girlfriend, or are OVERLY vulgar/insulting)

[CaptainCrunch]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Just to put this to rest... (not the dick in a box joke, as that's funny, but the whole size debate,) it really isn't about how deep you fish, or how fat your rod is. Sure, a big one is nice, however, that doesn't mean you can get away with having that as your 'skill'.

But if you can change the channel with it, she's yours for life.

[Cowboy89]

Confidence and humor

You'd be surprised by how many sucessful guys I know who only have these two qualities. Women want to feel good around a man. Humor (If indeed you're actually funny and not corny) is a great way to make them feel good in your presence. Secondly they want to respect a man. A lack of confidence in oneself or an aura of insecurity is a good sign to a woman that the guy doesn't even get respect from himself let alone deserve respect from a woman.

[Thunderball]

Originally Posted by Cowboy89

Confidence and humor

You'd be surprised by how many sucessful guys I know who only have these two qualities. Women want to feel good around a man. Humor (If indeed you're actually funny and not corny) is a great way to make them feel good in your presence. Secondly they want to respect a man. A lack of confidence in oneself or an aura of insecurity is a good sign to a woman that the guy doesn't even get respect from himself let alone deserve respect from a woman.

Ever walked around in a mall and seen an incredibly good looking, statuesque woman with a very ordinary looking, and often enough, shorter man and asked "how the hell did he snag her??" Well... that's how... confidence and humor. His introduction with her probably consisted of being lightheartedly rude to her, and shocking her with his audacity and character, or simply, being unique from the typical guy.

With men, looks are key, a woman has to be physically attractive to the guy or its a non-starter (desperate, drunk, or man-whorish guys notwithstanding, but that is typically a disposable fling)... with women, its more how does a man convey himself. Looking good is not as powerful as acting and thinking that you look good, and expressing that with a strong presence. Of course, actually being good looking with the humor and confidence always helps.

[Bill Bumface]

Originally Posted by FireFly

Just to put this to rest... (not the dick in a box joke, as that's funny, but the whole size debate,) it really isn't about how deep you fish, or how fat your rod is. Sure, a big one is nice, however, that doesn't mean you can get away with having that as your 'skill'.

You know how lots of women say that a sense of humour is really important to them?

I hope you aren't one of them because my comment was merely a joke

[Burninator]

Originally Posted by hulkrogan

You know how lots of women say that a sense of humour is really important to them?

I hope you aren't one of them because my comment was merely a joke

I guess that gets filed under the 10% "Things women say they care about but don't" on rubecubes graph.

[TheyCallMeBruce]

Yeah, what a lot of you guys say is totally true. I do believe looks play a part, but what I have found is a man's confidence and humor play a bigger part. I consider myself a pretty ugly looking guy and I'm totally cool with that, cause you work with what you got. And I've never had a problem with attracting the women I am interested in.

I really didn't discover this until a few years ago. Back then, my confidence was pretty low, and I was really shy. I had a hard time talking to good looking women because they intimidated the hell out of me.

Because based on my own experiences, I can't agree 100% to the good looks factor. I do agree that it does factor in, but definitely not the most important.