Advice needed, noisy neighbor who likes Nickleback
Looking for some advice here.
We live in a little townhouse complex with all units backing onto a central greenspace. So it'd be like 4 or 5 buildings in a rough kind of square, all sharing a nice quiet area. It's great to sit outside, as we are not close to any busy roads. Good, quiet neighbors and usually the only noise we have is the wind and the birds.....and a clearly very mentally challenged person in a building across the space.
Now before I get jumped on here, I have relatives with mental issues so I understand and completely sympathize with what it takes to care for people with these challenges. I believe, or I should say my wife speculates that this may be an actual home worker who cares for this person, as there is at least a couple of these guys in the home. Only one is a trouble maker though. From as early as 5:30 AM....yes AM, he sits in his bedroom, with windows open, yelling out the names of bands and singers all day long. Now it's not so much yelling, as he just has a very, very loud voice. So if we want to be outside, along with anyone else in the complex, we are subjected to Nickle....Nickle.....Nickle...Nickleback, or Avril.....Avril.....Avril.....Avril.....Avril Lavigne, Brian, Bri....Bri...Bri....Brian......Brian....Brian Adams, etc. Whatever his flavor of the day is. This will go on all day. He must take a lunch break and supper, because it'll stop for an hour or so a couple times a day, but then continues.....ALL DAY, usually EVERY day.
Now I don't clearly remember when this started, but I have to say it was at least three, probably four years ago. Had this been any other type of noise, I could never have dealt with it this long, but being a rather unique situation, I have. Others in the complex must feel the same, or they likely would have confronted this by now as well. Obviously it's not much of an issue in the winter, but enjoying our summers outside is really compromised by this.
So you can see, we've put up with this a long time. But I can't any longer. Now due to the sensitive nature of this situation, I'm not real sure how to approach it. I'd love to just bang on the door, and tell whoever answers it to shut the hell up and close the damn window, but obviously that's probably not the route to take. If it's actually someone's son and the parent answers the door, how do I tell them that their mentally challenged son is going to put in the same state!!
So yeah, what would you do? My possible idea is to write a polite letter stating the situation, and discreetly drop it off in the mail box and hope it might at least get someone to close their windows. But if that doesn't work then what? Can I get a hold of bylaw services and file a complaint over this?
Send an anonymous personal letter explaining your sympathy for the situation like you did in your post here, but that it is very difficult for the neighbors.
You cant go wrong being honest and empathetic, if nothing happens after a month, you talk to your neighbors and go from there.
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Sounds like you live next to a real life Timmy. Tricky situation as its likely not something anyone can just "stop". Best solution would just be for them to limit the times the window is open.
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Are you saying you think the guy who owns or rents the place takes care of mentally ill people in his home? If so, I definitely think you have the right to be upset and need to confront the guy, and/or get the authorities involved. If he is earning an income doing this, he has the responsibility to not be disruptive to his neighbors.
If it is someone who is living there with his family though, then that requires a lot more tact and empathy, so the letter suggestions and such might be more appropriate.
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Says the person who doesn't have to hear it all day long. There has to be some compromise. Respect goes both ways. This would drive me crazy.
If he put up with it for four years, it's not such a big issue that you need to tell someone what to do inside their own home.
Why not try engaging with the person, maybe they'd really like to listen to some music instead of repeating names all day. I dunno. Give him an iPod, see where that goes.
If he put up with it for four years, it's not such a big issue that you need to tell someone what to do inside their own home.
Why not try engaging with the person, maybe they'd really like to listen to some music instead of repeating names all day. I dunno. Give him an iPod, see where that goes.
I think it might be worth knocking on the door and having a friendly conversation. If it's an issue of needing to keep the window open to keep the room cool, send over a portable AC unit and respectfully request the windows stay closed for the majority of the day.
If it is a different issue, I'm sure you can find a way to make a mutually beneficial compromise.
Other than that, it might be time to move unfortunately.
Last edited by Rocky Raccoon; 07-14-2013 at 05:08 PM.
Advice needed, noisy neighbor who likes Nickleback
