So about 5 hours ago I find out my grandma has passed away. She wasn't in Canada and was about 100 years old. I barely knew her, but did see her in the summer on my trip overseas. Now my dilemma is it's my best friends wedding tomorrow, but out of respect for my mom should I just cancel my plans to attend? I haven't talked to her about it yet since I haven't had the chance, but I think she would be ok with me going.
What would you guys do if in the similar position? If it was my grandma who lives here and I've known all my life then I think the easy choice would be not to go, but well since it's still my grandma but someone I have little attachment to, do you guys think I'd be making the right decision in going?
Just curious to what the proper protocol would be.
To me this wouldn't be a dilemma at all, even a moral one. I guess my mom wouldn't mind and would totally understand me going to a wedding, especially one that's important to me.
I think you nailed it in your second paragraph to be honest.
I would attend my best friends wedding. But I would also visit my mom and be a son, in whatever way you and your mom do that, so that she knows you understand her pain. I bet she'll likewise understand your situation.
My goodness, please accept my condolences for your family on their loss.
Congratulations on your friends wedding.
Funerals are for the living and so are weddings. I don't think your Grandmother would be sorry that you celebrated life. You can always leave the day after and meet up with the family.
Are you and your friend Chinese? I know that Chinese people do not want someone who is in mourning to attend a celebration. When my grandpa passed we cancelled a wedding we where suppose to attend. I think the ban is for 100 days or something like that.
Thanks everyone for the advice. Looks like I'm going and I'm not Chinese but I'm Lebanese and we do have traditions like that. I'll be going against the norm by attending but to me living to 100 and being relatively healthy all her life even until the day she died should be a celebration not a huge mourning.
Thanks everyone for the advice. Looks like I'm going and I'm not Chinese but I'm Lebanese and we do have traditions like that. I'll be going against the norm by attending but to me living to 100 and being relatively healthy all her life even until the day she died should be a celebration not a huge mourning.
We can all wish for such a life.
All the best to your family during this tough period though.
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