what is with women out there?

[habernac]

Why is it that women, when they hear another woman is pregnant, suddenly they want to tell them every horrible story about miscarriages, etc? I mean holy crap, tell them GOOD things about pregancy. Not this garbage that "Ohhh, you better be careful, I miscarried at 8 weeks....." fata me, use some common sense here. If you can't think of anything postive to say after "Congratulations" then just stop talking already. Please pass this on to any of the women you know.

[Eddie Bronze]

Guys, I've said on this board before and I guess I'll say it again. Woman are evil. And you're talking about their mouths and the stuff that comes out of them? Man, I knew this chic in college and she said to me, "I want to have your abortion." Filth! Where does something like that come from? Drama, that's where, that's what their all about.

[Thunderball]

Originally posted by Eddie Bronze@Jun 6 2005, 09:50 PM
Guys, I've said on this board before and I guess I'll say it again. Woman are evil. And you're talking about their mouths and the stuff that comes out of them? Man, I knew this chic in college and she said to me, "I want to have your abortion." Filth! Where does something like that come from? Drama, that's where, that's what their all about.

Whoa... if that wasn't so classless and revolting, it could be really funny...

Women are pretty catty for the most part with the odd exception... sadly this isn't a new development.

[flamingchina]

Originally posted by Eddie Bronze@Jun 7 2005, 03:50 AM
Man, I knew this chic in college and she said to me, "I want to have your abortion."

That line is actually from the book Fight Club, so she might have been quoting that...

[Reaper]

Originally posted by flamingchina+Jun 6 2005, 10:29 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (flamingchina @ Jun 6 2005, 10:29 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Eddie Bronze@Jun 7 2005, 03:50 AM
Man, I knew this chic in college and she said to me, "I want to have your abortion."

That line is actually from the book Fight Club, so she might have been quoting that... [/b][/quote]
Yeah, not only was that chick crass but she was unoriginal as well.

[HOZ]

Originally posted by habernac@Jun 7 2005, 03:23 AM
Why is it that women, when they hear another woman is pregnant, suddenly they want to tell them every horrible story about miscarriages, etc? I mean holy crap, tell them GOOD things about pregancy. Not this garbage that "Ohhh, you better be careful, I miscarried at 8 weeks....." fata me, use some common sense here. If you can't think of anything postive to say after "Congratulations" then just stop talking already. Please pass this on to any of the women you know.

Tell her to talkto a mid-wife, like my wife. She will tell her all the wonderful things that will happen in each tri-mester. For you as well , as the father. It is cool to play with them at 6 months on!

Anyways, jthose women sound like bimbos who look for any excuse not to commit.

[Regulator75]

Check this out, I was at work and this woman had just annouced to certain friends/co-workers that she was pregnant. Out of no where and he was totally serious, this guy asked her "so, are you going to keep it?" infront of about 10 co-workers, everyone was just stunned by his comments.

Well if she wasn't going to keep it, then why would she annouce it? This isn't Jr. or senior high school... We are all in our late 20's early 30's.
Yikes.

[Frank the Tank]

Originally posted by habernac@Jun 6 2005, 10:23 PM
Why is it that women, when they hear another woman is pregnant, suddenly they want to tell them every horrible story about miscarriages, etc? I mean holy crap, tell them GOOD things about pregancy. Not this garbage that "Ohhh, you better be careful, I miscarried at 8 weeks....." fata me, use some common sense here. If you can't think of anything postive to say after "Congratulations" then just stop talking already. Please pass this on to any of the women you know.

OH MY GOD! I had this EXACT, and I mean exact to a tee, complaint about women when my wife was pregnant! I would tell anyone that would listen what was going on because it happened to us everywhere we went!!! Total strangers!! My breaking point was the checkout lady at the grocery store. Started telling Tracy (the wife) about how her friends baby died at 8 months and she still had to give birth to it and name it and everything. My wife walks briskly away crying, and I said to the woman "Seriously, what would possess you to tell that story to an 8 months pregnant woman?" The look of shock on her face was unreal. I just stood there with our bags of groceries waiting for her response and she started to cry. ######.

[habernac]

It never ceases to amaze me the comments that you hear. I'm not going to be polite to the next person who says something that stupid. Common sense, people!

[Ironhorse]

That's unreal. But I've heard comments like that myself sometimes, and everytime I've felt an urge to slap that person.

We've had some bad experiences ourselves, but we generally keep these stories to ourselves unless asked (or in a "neutral" environment if the subject comes up), since we know how sensitive a subject it can be.

Being pregnant is hard enough on your wife without having to hear these stories.

BTW, congratulations!

[Buff]

My wife got the same thing. Women get mad at us for making our off the cuff comments (made in attempts at humor), yet they don't always hold back on their comments that may scare or hurt others.

The Doc told us that he may be able to hear the babies heartbeat at 12 weeks, so we went and couldn't hear it. Well people were telling my wife that "Yeah, that happened to me too, I (or somebody they new) had a miscarriage" or "That means you have twins" etc. etc. (not that twins is a bad thing, just a scary thing! ) My wife's own sister made her feel bad for trying to hear the heartbeat so soon because nobody can hear the heartbeat so soon... well if the doctor told us he may be able to hear it then who are we to argue him?

It has been good lately though, my wife hasn't been getting the scary comments anymore, just the plain rude comments like "Wow you look like you're ready to pop anyday now!"

[photon]

Well there is a reason behind it.. women tend to need to tell "their story" to cope with extreme situations (good or bad pregnancy events).

If you take a prenatal class (which I highly recommend you do) they might go into some stuff like this; I know ours did and it helped deal with that stuff when the stories came.

It doesn't excuse it, but it helps to know the reason sometimes.

We've also had some bad experiences, and as Ironhorse said we keep it private unless there's a good reason and context to talk about it.

That's also why I have only one piece of advice to any couple that have just found out they are pregnant with their first: Don't tell anyone until after the first ultrasound. Keep it private until then, it's much better that way.

[Eddie Bronze]

Originally posted by flamingchina+Jun 6 2005, 10:29 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (flamingchina @ Jun 6 2005, 10:29 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Eddie Bronze@Jun 7 2005, 03:50 AM
Man, I knew this chic in college and she said to me, "I want to have your abortion."

That line is actually from the book Fight Club, so she might have been quoting that... [/b][/quote]
Wow. Interesting. When did this Fight Club book come out? I heard of the movie but have yet to see it. My interest is peaked.

[flamingchina]

Umm fight club came out before the movie...
anyways, it's by a guy called Chuck Palahniuk.
My favorite book by him is survivor. He's a kick ass writer...
I'd love to have his abortion...
his site here
ARGHH he's coming to Calgary and I'm stuck in the land of badly tuned scooters...

Anyways, seriously suggest his books.
for a suggestion of what he's like (a bit extreme, but good)
listen to this mp3.
not for the faint of heart.

mmm let me know if anyone actually listens

[Eddie Bronze]

Originally posted by flamingchina@Jun 7 2005, 11:17 AM
Umm fight club came out before the movie...

Yes and as you'll see I asked when the book came out. Just curious because I went to college from fall 96 to spring 98.

[dustygoon]

I think non-pregnant strumpets say this shinguard because deep down, at a primal level, they feel inferior. Something is telling them it is time to have kids, and they have not done it so some guilt bubbles up.

I have overheard other nasty conversations about the "complications" to sex life after having a baby, etc. It just sounds like excuses to me.

It doesn't help that your much better half is probably having some emotional swings during pregnancy too. I hope she ignores these bubble heads.

[BlackEleven]

Originally posted by flamingchina@Jun 7 2005, 01:17 PM
Umm fight club came out before the movie...
anyways, it's by a guy called Chuck Palahniuk.
My favorite book by him is survivor. He's a kick ass writer...
I'd love to have his abortion...
his site here
ARGHH he's coming to Calgary and I'm stuck in the land of badly tuned scooters...

Anyways, seriously suggest his books.
for a suggestion of what he's like (a bit extreme, but good)
listen to this mp3.
not for the faint of heart.

mmm let me know if anyone actually listens

I listened to it. Man, that was hilarious. Extremely crude and disgusting, but still hilarious.....

[dustygoon]

Originally posted by fotze+Jun 7 2005, 07:04 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (fotze @ Jun 7 2005, 07:04 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-dustygoon@Jun 7 2005, 12:57 PM
I think non-pregnant strumpets say this shinguard because deep down, at a primal level, they feel inferior. Something is telling them it is time to have kids, and they have not done it so some guilt bubbles up.

I have overheard other nasty conversations about the "complications" to sex life after having a baby, etc. It just sounds like excuses to me.

It doesn't help that your much better half is probably having some emotional swings during pregnancy too. I hope she ignores these bubble heads.

And those are exactly the people you wouldn't want to have children so I applaud anyone who doesn't want them in choosing to not have them. Way to many people that don't want or shouldn't have kids, do have them. [/b][/quote]
Too bad the ones who would be good parents don't have enough or any kids.

[Maritime Q-Scout]

first of all, congrats! I'd love to be in your place (someday, now's not good) nasty comments and all. I guess it's part of childberth?

But I can't understand what would cause women to say something like that.

I know from my days working retail on more than one occassion (no offense always a woman, but this happened rarely) they'd comment on how skinny I was, and not the "not fat" I sad one woman say to me one day "WOW YOU'RE SKINNY!!! Do you eat?!?!?!"

I felt like saying "WOW YOU'RE FAT! Ever hear of weightwatchers!"

One day I guess I gave this lady and her elderly mother a weird look when they commented on how skinny I was. They back peddled like you wouldn't believe "uhhh my husband's like that you know, I find it attractive, ughhh I really like skinny people, there's nothing wrong with that"


To be fair there are men out there that do the samething (hell when I was between sober and drunk last weekend I was saying stuff I shouldn't have to a friend of mine).

Some people are just idiots, others are in the stage between being sober and drunk and the mouth works faster than the brain.

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Originally posted by fotze+Jun 7 2005, 09:14 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (fotze @ Jun 7 2005, 09:14 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> <!--QuoteBegin-Maritime Q-Scout@Jun 7 2005, 05:59 PM
I know from my days working retail on more than one occassion (no offense always a woman, but this happened rarely) they'd comment on how skinny I was, and not the "not fat" I sad one woman say to me one day "WOW YOU'RE SKINNY!!! Do you eat?!?!?!"

I get that for being short. If I say "ya he's the short guy over there". People will say "and you should talk." What, being short makes me unable to distinguish height differences. [/b][/quote]
I don't care if you make fun of my weight if I know you, or if it's an observation (I'm willing to bet I'm the skinniest person registered here, and there's 3340 people registered) like "Do you remember who was waiting on you?" "Ugh yeah he was tall and skinny" (usually followed by a "ummm ma'am I don't mean to be rude but that description fits like the entire staff)

But if you walk up and start commenting about how skinny I am, and going on about if I eat or not, man FATA OFF!


edit: Fotze for the record I pictured you tall