How much do YOU give as a wedding gift?

[taco.vidal]

I haven't been to a wedding in about a decade. Whats a fair amount as a gift these days? Ten years ago, for a close friends wedding I would have given $200 ($100 for me, $100 for my date). Whats a fair inflation adjustment? $150 per person? is that fair, too little or too much? or $200 per person?

I know theres a lot of factors that come into play though I just want to make sure I give enough, and also don't give too that it seems weird (although most wouldn't complain too much about receiving a big amount.) The wedding is at a nice venue and I expect it to be rather nice (with open bar - haha).

[Knut]

At a nice venue with an open bar they are probably paying close to $75 to $100 per person for the night. $200 likely allows them to break even on your cost.

I also base it on what they gave me for my wedding ... haha

[To Be Quite Honest]

A Pink Taco should be fine.

[taco.vidal]

Were talking wedding here not the stag. Lol.

I think Ill up to $500 for the two us. Reasonable?

[albertGQ]

Nice venue and open bar? I'd say the minimum is $200 for me and my wife. Depending on how close we are to the couple and what they gave us, it would climb to $250 or $300

If its a sibling, then the minimum is $300

[Bertuzzied]

We live in Calgary and we post on calgarypuck so it should be $1000 minimum...

I wish I could get married again. I actually made $3500 from my wedding.

[Table 5]

Just had a wedding myself and the range for non-family amounts seemed to be in the $75-150 range per person (usually around $100). Some close family and friends gave more, but that wasn't the norm. For people who travelled and went out of their way to go to the wedding though, I would've been fine if they didn't give money (although most still stuck to the above numbers). I think as long as you're in that range, you should be fine....although if you're above 30 and aren't an unemployed delinquent, I'd maybe stay away from $75.

At the end of the day, most couples are just trying to get some of their money back to cover the wedding....so you can definitely gauge it by the fanciness.

[albertGQ]

We had a decent venue and open bar. The meal was $55/plate. One couple gave us $50 total.

Don't be that couple

[Russic]

I considered my wedding gifts to be gifts and nothing more. I wanted people at my wedding that I cared about. I never once really thought of the gifts as helping me break even. If somebody gave us $20 we were incredibly appreciative. We had a decent venue for ours and I never once felt that we should receive better gifts as a result.

[Mr.Coffee]

Originally Posted by albertGQ

We had a decent venue and open bar. The meal was $55/plate. One couple gave us $50 total.

Don't be that couple

more like don't be like this guy.

Who cares? I don't know about you but I didn't invite people to my wedding so that we could increase our value as a couple, assuming they'd give a gift more in value to what the booze / food on the plate is. If you don't want to spend that kind of money on people, don't, but don't assume they have to give you X dollars in reciprocate to match the meal you provide for them. That is like being the kid who won't get the other kid a birthday gift because you didn't get one. Who cares? grow up.

The value of the gift in my mind is pretty much tied to how close you are to them. If you're close, get something nice, if you're not, scale back accordingly so that you don't embarrass them.

[Regular_John]

Originally Posted by taco.vidal

Were talking wedding here not the stag. Lol.

I think Ill up to $500 for the two us. Reasonable?

I got married in September 2010 and the $500 gifts were the exception, most of the gifts were in the $100-$200 range. $500 was quite generous in my opinion.

Honestly $200 was probably the norm for a couple attending our wedding. So yes, $500 is more than reasonable, but I wouldn't worry about giving $200 or even $100.

[albertGQ]

Originally Posted by Mr.Coffee

more like don't be like this guy.

Who cares? I don't know about you but I didn't invite people to my wedding so that we could increase our value as a couple, assuming they'd give a gift more in value to what the booze / food on the plate is. If you don't want to spend that kind of money on people, don't, but don't assume they have to give you X dollars in reciprocate to match the meal you provide for them. That is like being the kid who won't get the other kid a birthday gift because you didn't get one. Who cares? grow up.

The value of the gift in my mind is pretty much tied to how close you are to them. If you're close, get something nice, if you're not, scale back accordingly so that you don't embarrass them.

You're entitled to your opinion, but I wouldn't want to be the couple that gave only $50.

[Mr.Coffee]

that's fine and in general I agree with you but your post came across a little judgey is all. What if that's all they could afford / weren't rolling in the dough? To me the important thing was the person coming to the actual wedding. People could have given me nothing but showed up and I really, truly, wouldn't have given a rats ass.

[Huntingwhale]

I've been to many weddings and never given a single gift. True story.

[Knut]

I think it matters on Income too. I had a couple buddies that only gave $20... but i know that they are tight on money and I really appreciate the fact that they would still contribute. I also have a friend that makes a lot of money and gave nothing.

I think $500 is too much unless it is close friend or family member.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

Originally Posted by albertGQ

You're entitled to your opinion, but I wouldn't want to be the couple that gave only $50.

Well, there are any number of reasons why a couple would only give someone $50 for a wedding gift. One if which is they are petty and cheap.

There is only 1 reason why someone would complain that a couple only gave them $50 for a wedding gift.....

[albertGQ]

Originally Posted by Mr.Coffee

that's fine and in general I agree with you but your post came across a little judgey is all. What if that's all they could afford / weren't rolling in the dough? To me the important thing was the person coming to the actual wedding. People could have given me nothing but showed up and I really, truly, wouldn't have given a rats ass.

Well, I actually had a guest give us nothing. I think that looks better than only $50. But whatever.

I guess what I'm trying to say is, I would not want to be the one giving only $50.

[MrMastodonFarm]

Originally Posted by albertGQ

I guess what I'm trying to say is, I would not want to be the one giving only $50.

You probably think about it more then anyone else.

[burn_this_city]

Geez you'd think the $50 couple tossed you a couple bucks and told you not to spend it all at once.

[albertGQ]

Originally Posted by MrMastodonFarm

You probably think about it more then anyone else.

Probably not. Someone did start this thread asking people what they give because he/she was thinking about it.