For those of you who have gone through hard relationship breakups

[Cluelessboy]

Ive been through 3 hard breakups in my life but my last one was by far the worst. Its been two and a half years since i was engaged to this girl, (she cheated on me for this abusive loser who abuses her). i was absolutely a different person (for the worst) for the following 6 months, i just wasnt myself. So bad i was so ashamed of myself i went to counselling and it helped a lot because i just couldnt live like this.

But even today i find from time to time that this girl still comes up on my mind! I just went through a good scretch of 12-14 months where i felt i was past her 100% and would never think of her. But in the past few months her pretty face is still in my memory. And here i thought i was completely over this girl a year ago. Though mind you, now i wont dwell or cry about the past or about her but i just cant seem to forget about her once and for all!

I think its just the fact that she cheated on me for a total loser who abuses her and theyre still together today (Long story made short, didnt mean to find out but stumbled across that info on a friends, friends, facebook). When i saw a pic of them together, i just had all this sudden anger spike inside of me. I know they will get married and have kids cause theyre made for each other.

I am extremely ashamed of myself for still letting her get to me! What should i do? 2.5yrs now i need to make adjustments.

Is it normal to take this long to get over someone?

[Hemi-Cuda]

man up and quit treating a hockey forum like your personal blog

[Boblobla]

Have you tried ####ing her mom or sister or sister and mom at the same time?

[icecube]

You're a wussy. Part wimp, part #####. That's why she left.

Read some self help books on how to be a man or something.

[peter12]

[OffsideSpecialist]

My dad was telling me that every girl he's ever broken up with turned out to be a lesbian. Including one he was engaged to at 17. You could at least be happy you don't turn women off men entirely?

[Traditional_Ale]

Do not feed the OP.

[GreatWhiteEbola]

Originally Posted by OffsideSpecialist

My dad was telling me that every girl he's ever broken up with turned out to be a lesbian. Including one he was engaged to at 17. You could at least be happy you don't turn women off men entirely?

I have never had that conversation with my father.


To the OP, I still think about the odd one that got away. I am with a great girl now and I am going to marry her. Before her, I went whoring for about 3 years, that seemed to help.

[Frank MetaMusil]

Can we at least see some pics of her before making judgment? Is she a swamp donkey or actually hot?

[Blaster86]

[Barnet Flame]

Get revenge by ####ing her boyfriend.

[troutman]

Auch andere Mütter haben auch schöne töchter.

[CaptainCrunch]

Give me her address, I'll leave her with no sense of worth whatsoever and clinically depressed.

[Hack&Lube]

I want to make a witty comment or paste some internet meme but I know what that situation feels like so I'm a little more sympathetic and I'll try to be a little more constructive.

She cheated on you with him and is still with him because he brings her something you couldn't/didn't/wouldn't bring. Figure out what that is, add it to you repetoire, move on, man up, and grow a pair. Time heals everything but some things and some people you just won't forget. You just deal with it. C'est la vie, c'est l'amour, c'est la merde.

Either you use it a motivator improve yourself and move on; or you wait for the helpless oblivion of Alzheimers to do it for you.