You know someone hates you when...

[Ozy_Flame]

...They block you on Facebook!

I had a break-up last month, but we ended it on good terms and even went out for lunch last week just to catch up, and because we work so close. I just wanted to send her a message on Facebook to see if she wanted to go for Pho next week, and BLAM! - no trace of her on Facebook anymore. Even the messages in my Inbox, there's a nice question mark where her profile picture used to be, and I can't click on her name!

Not that I care, but do people really do stuff like that? Does Facebook mean that much to them? She must still be upset over breaking up (I'm not), but really now - is it that big of a deal?

Anyone else with similar stories? I just think it's funny more than anything.

[Eastern Girl]

Are you sure she deleted just you off her list or blocked you, perhaps she deleted her entire acct.? I am not familiar enough with Facebook to know if this is a possibility or not... since I deleted my acct. ages ago.

[Ozy_Flame]

Well, she seemed fairly active on Facebook, can't see why she would pick up and leave, all of a sudden...

Don't worry though, I can take a hint

[pepper24]

I wouldn't lose any sleep over it. Relationships come and go and it's often tough for both parties being able to remain friends. I don't know the full story but I am thinking it's more not wanting to be friends after dating which is very common instead of hating your guts.

[Ozy_Flame]

Originally Posted by fotze

She also might just be pregnant.

Oh god, please no...

[REDVAN]

A few months ago, I removed my ex from my facebook because I had no interest in seeing her status updates and all that stuff. The breakup was her doing, and I was not in favour of it, so I was just trying to close that chapter of life.

So anyway, she sent me an email, asking wtf happened, and we re-friended on facebook. It's a big deal to people if they get deleted from someone else's friend list, or so she told me. So now we are "friends" again.

That being said, it's tough to be friends with someone you dated seriously. I am friends with my exes on facebook, but I would not consider them to be actual friends of any sort. Good luck, but I woulnd't lose any sleep over trying to send her a message, she wants you out of her life and so you might have to let her cool down for a bit.

[J pold]

A lot of people have this idea that if you totally eliminate contact with the other person it will somehow help you get over them

Personally I think this approach is pretty flawed and rarely works, what usually ends up happening is that you get drunk and a bit over emotional end up drunk dialing the person you swore to never talk too again and just make things about 100 times more awkward than they already are

[Muta]

I think non-communication is a bad thing after a breakup. That's the easy route out, just to ignore someone. I could understand maybe a small amount of time afterwards to reflect, but some people seriously think it's the worst thing in the world refuse to move on. I can't comment on all breakups, but seriously... move on. There is, indeed, probably better more compatible people out there.

[STeeLy]

It could be those possibilities EG...

But wow but if its what Ozy_Flame thinks it is... I don't get why she'd be so bitter, especially if she even had lunch with you not long after.

Anyway, I had a break up about a week and a bit ago... we're still friends, but whenever I try to talk to her, she seems to be the most disinterested person... so I don't even know if she even wanna be friends.

[Muta]

Originally Posted by Eastern Girl

Are you sure she deleted just you off her list or blocked you, perhaps she deleted her entire acct.? I am not familiar enough with Facebook to know if this is a possibility or not... since I deleted my acct. ages ago.

When you delete your entire account, there is no trace of you... if said person posted on your wall, it all vanishes like it was never even there.

[Eastern Girl]

Originally Posted by Muta

When you delete your entire account, there is no trace of you... if said person posted on your wall, it all vanishes like it was never even there.

Well, there goes that theory.

I guess she just had second thoughts about maintaining the friendship. It happens.

Maybe the lunch you had not too long ago was actually awkward or uncomfortable for her, and she realized that she couldn't see hanging out with you anymore?

[troutman]

Have you ever:

1) Looked up old flames on Facebook (people you saw 10+ years ago)?

2) Invited them to be friends?

3) Explain to your current partner who these people are?

I've only gone as far as #1.

[Weiser Wonder]

Originally Posted by troutman

Have you ever:

1) Looked up old flames on Facebook (people you saw 10+ years ago)?

2) Invited them to be friends?

3) Explain to your current partner who these people are?

I'v only gone as far as #1.

I looked up German Titov on facebook, but he refused to be my friend.

[habernac]

Originally Posted by troutman

Have you ever:

1) Looked up old flames on Facebook (people you saw 10+ years ago)?

2) Invited them to be friends?

3) Explain to your current partner who these people are?

I've only gone as far as #1.

I've had a few of them look me up, my wife knows who thwy are, no big deal. Haven't seen any of them for years.

The strangest Facebook story I have is of someone who kept asking me to be their friend. Never liked them then, don't like them now, why would I accept the request? They seemed very upset when I finally sent them that message.

[mgsimpleton]

Originally Posted by Muta

When you delete your entire account, there is no trace of you... if said person posted on your wall, it all vanishes like it was never even there.

Is this true? Im pretty sure that when you delete your facebook account posts on other peoples walls remain, they just no longer link to a profile. Unless you manually delete all your posts or something?

[Buff]

Originally Posted by Weiser Wonder

I looked up German Titov on facebook, but he refused to be my friend.

Yeah, I looked up Jamie McLennan but he didn't add me either and I even know his former almost-mother-in-law-to-be.

[Claeren]

I imagine she just 'removed you', but did not go so far as 'blocking you'.

A lot of people, especially women, have high privacy settings on Facebook. And under pressure a while back Facebook increased the privacy options available to users. So a lot of people (knowingly, but often not) have it set that NO ONE can see them and that even when searched they do not have an index card style search listing. (Whereas before people would have their profile blocked but you could still see their index card thing).

It has happened to me a few times where people tell me to add them to my facebook and I can't find them, so i have to wait until the next time i run into them to explain. Usually they had no idea their privacy setting was that high.


As for time apart post-breakup, i definitely don't think it is a big deal to keep talking if it is a shorter term thing (under 2 years?) but anything longer than that and i cannot imagine talking to them for a while? You need space to get your barings back? I am not sure you were ever that serious if after a 5 year relationship you can break-up and then act normal. Most people i know try it (including me) and it doesn't work...



Claeren.

[D to the iddy]

Originally Posted by Buff

Yeah, I looked up Jamie McLennan but he didn't add me either and I even know his former almost-mother-in-law-to-be.

I used to have Dion Phaneuf as a friend. I'm pretty confident it was actually him since I was deleted after a week. But it was the best week ever!

Lombo wouldn't add me either...

[Tron_fdc]

Facebook is the devil. I would suggest to the ladies that you never look at your man's profile....you won't like what you see.

For reasons I won't get into it pretty much stuck a fork in my relationship. Once my g/f and I got shaky, all the comments came flooding in on my wall, and once the "relationship status" thing got changed the chit REALLY hit the fan. I got yelled at for facebook. Yeesh.

It's actually really interesting how it all went down.....

[Prototype]

I've actually used facebook to bury the hatchet with former flames. Just sending PMs to them to see how they are. If they respond in a friendly fashion, I reply. If they try to add me, I accept. I've seriously gotten in good terms with like 3 or 4 former flames this way.