Meeting women in Calgary

[Sheva #7]

Is it me or is it super hard to meet women in Calgary? I'm in my early 30ies and not the worst looking guy out there with a good career, but seems like there is not that many places in Calgary where you can go and actually meet someone. Couple things:
- most places are full of dudes ( I think there is just more guys in Calgary in general so not surprising)
- On workdays, not many places where you can potentially meet someone after workday is done at 5pm are open, and even if they are, it's usually not busy as not many people seem to be going out on workdays and everything shuts down around 9-10
- bar scene is full of 18 year old kids, don't think many mid 20s females would go there and if they do, it's mostly "just to dance" with their friends. plus it's not really my thing as i've done the whole bar scene in my high school and university days.
- for someone who moved here, I don't have a lot of friends in Calgary as they are all in other cities I lived before

So where do young professionals actually expect to meet their significant other in Calgary? is it dating sites? any tips/thoughts are appreciated. thanks!

[Pizza]

Ironically I know a fair bit of single women in their 30s who are finding it hard to find quality men.

I hate to generalize, but the type of girls i know have remained single because theyre either:

- Strong type A personalities who are too stubborn to accommodate other people and wind up being alone
- Career driven women who have finally made it but are now socially inept since theyve devoted their lives to studying and working.

my advice is to hit on every single girl you meet until you find one single and willing

[Rutuu]

Personally I moved from Calgary 5yrs ago due mostly to your stated issue. After 5yrs of "research" I can tell you without hesitation that it's significantly easier elsewhere to find great girls.

I used to worry about where to meet girls too and where to find a patio on a +30c day; now I know those are Calgary specific issues. In the meantime stay strong it's a numbers game and get Tinder. Ha.

[Fuzz]

Have you looked at http://www.meetup.com/ ? I've heard its a good way to meet like-minded people. I've been to one in a professional sense, and there are was a large variety of people.

You might have some luck at this one....
http://www.meetup.com/Calgary-Divorc...-Meetup-Group/

Or just stick with a classic..
http://www.meetup.com/Singles-Pursuit/

[Schultzie]

All I know is that Tinder is harder than BattleToads.

[taffeyb]

Take a running club at the Running Room. Not the intro one. Take one for one of the longer distances.

I took a couple of the 1/2 marathon ones and the running (pun) joke was that I was running with my harem. Too bad I was happily married by that time.

Nothing to lose...get fit and be with the same group of individuals 3 times a week for 8 weeks at 1-3 hours each time.

[troutman]

Volunteer in the community.

[Erick Estrada]

IMO Calgary can be a sausage fest compared to a lot of places. I always found Edmonton was a much easier place to meet women but if you still can't make that work there's always Montreal. Women are about as friendly there as you will find anywhere.

[_Q_]

Canadian women in general are very reserved and think that every man is out to rape them. The larger the city the stronger this phenomenon . Try meeting women in Toronto or Vancouver, it's downright impossible.

I find women in supposedly more repressive societies like Jordan or Lebanon to be a lot more open than the women here. Yes that's right, you can go out to a bar in Beirut and every girl there will at least be willing to talk with you if you grow the balls to start a conversation.

With that said, during my single days, I found the best way to meet girls was through friends. Go out there, make new guy friends and there's sure to be at least a few women within their circle of friends.

[Northendzone]

why not look for a dating site that is slanted towards some of your interests? to me it would seem the easiet place to start as presumably any woman who puts up a profile is at least open to the potential of going on some dates, rather than trying to cast your line in a public place like a patio, lounge, bar etc.

i have heard (anecdotally as i am happily married) that sites like plenty of fish are filled with women looking for free meals, although the guy that told me that was a cement head.

[Tyler]

IMO, Calgary has a very unique situation that makes dating difficult:

- Large corporate culture
- Very high salaries
- Way more men than women

[undercoverbrother]

Originally Posted by _Q_

Canadian women in general are very reserved and think that every man is out to rape them. The larger the city the stronger this phenomenon . Try meeting women in Toronto or Vancouver, it's downright impossible.
.

I am sorry this seems a little over the top.


OP, if you play a sport or like sport maybe try the Calgary Spory and Social Club. I have never done it, but it is worth a try. Also, trout is, IMO, bang on, volunteer in the community. Maybe make it less about finding a women and just expand your social circle by doing things you like. If you develop a social circle with similair interests your search might before enjoyable.

[codynw]

Download Tinder and swipe right.

[townie_80]

Female here who found dating in Calgary to be the most painful thing I have ever encountered. In the end it was through friends that I met my husband. Put it out there that you are looking and willing to be set up. I also recommend joining things like CSSC and running clubs etc (if it interest you - no point in being someone you are not). I know I joined those in hopes of meeting someone. Never say no to an invitation to try something or go somewhere new. I have plenty of friends looking as well. Took me 5 years here and plenty of dates to finally meet the one.

[calf]

Originally Posted by Sheva #7

Is it me or is it super hard to meet women in Calgary? I'm in my early 30ies and not the worst looking guy out there with a good career, but seems like there is not that many places in Calgary where you can go and actually meet someone. Couple things:
- most places are full of dudes ( I think there is just more guys in Calgary in general so not surprising)
- On workdays, not many places where you can potentially meet someone after workday is done at 5pm are open, and even if they are, it's usually not busy as not many people seem to be going out on workdays and everything shuts down around 9-10
- bar scene is full of 18 year old kids, don't think many mid 20s females would go there and if they do, it's mostly "just to dance" with their friends. plus it's not really my thing as i've done the whole bar scene in my high school and university days.
- for someone who moved here, I don't have a lot of friends in Calgary as they are all in other cities I lived before

So where do young professionals actually expect to meet their significant other in Calgary? is it dating sites? any tips/thoughts are appreciated. thanks!

Honestly, the meeting random people at the bar doesn't really happen here. As others have mentioned, with the higher percentage of men here, so at any of the typical places, women, from what my wife and her friends tell me, get hit on all the time. And it's tiresome for them when they a) just want to hang out with their friends, or b) don't want to be treated like a conquest by random dudes.

Best way to meet people is like others have said. Volunteer, join a club, make friends and even if the people you meet aren't single, they'll know single people that they can set you up with.

[Fuzz]

Originally Posted by Tyler

IMO, Calgary has a very unique situation that makes dating difficult:

- Large corporate culture
- Very high salaries
- Way more men than women

The 2011 census also indicated that 50.09% of the population was female and 49.91% was male in the city (549,360 females and 547,475 males) and 50.05% and 49.95% in the CMA (607,970 females and 606,870 males).[35]

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Demographics_of_Calgary

Looking at age groups:
from 20-40
Male= 174,660
female= 173,565

https://www12.statcan.gc.ca/census-r...CSD&GC=4806016

[cracher]

Originally Posted by Erick Estrada

I always found Edmonton was a much easier place to meet women

That is only if you're into "personality" women who are looking while their live-in bf is up north. I did not interpret the OP's tone to express this level of end-of-the-line desperation.

Was in the same boat several years ago. The key is figuring out how to crash major corporate events. If you have ever been to a CPR xmas party or hung out at the Blake's tent at stampede round-up concert, you will understand.

[East Coast Flame]

I guess I'm in the minority here because when I was single (3 years ago), I found it super easy to meet and date women in Calgary. A lot easier then other cities I lived in. Bars, gyms, CSSC, grocery store, online, etc. There's lots out there, I just think that there's a lot of skeeze bags in Calgary so a lot of Women in the city tend to have their guard up a bit. Treat them like a normal person, don't come on too strong and take a hint. I also got rejected a ton too, but you just move on with your life with a smile on your face.

[Bring_Back_Shantz]

I'm a non married, but not single guy in my 30's so I think I can chime in on this with a few observations:

1) The city you live in is always harder to meet girls than somewhere else you go. Generally when you visit another city you are more outgoing than at home, so everyone seems nicer. Everyone says the girls in the last place they visited are nicer and better looking...oh and the beer was better

2) The guys saying that Calgary has more dudes or is a sausage fest (EE, Tyler) you are flat out wrong. For the last census data I could find, there are actualy marginally more women than men in Calgary. (Edit: Fuzz already covered this)

As for the OP, seriously, how many of your friends met their partners at a bar? Probably not many, and if they did, they probalby weren't in their 30's.

Get on a dating site man. It seems odd at first, and might be a bit embarassing, but it's a great way to get out and meet chicks, and trust me, if you have any single friends, they are probalby doing it too.

I've met some great girls (Including a girl I dated for over a year and a half), and some duds, but that's the way it goes.

Sure, keep up with activities you like, you might meet someone cool (Ironically, I'm telling you to get on a dating site, but I met my GF through friends), but in the meantime play the numbers game. At the very least, you'll get out on a bunch of first dates and maybe find some new places to hang out.

[JD]

There's good advice in this thread. My lesser contribution will be to suggest trying speed dating. It's not for everyone, but you meet a good number of single women that are looking all in one night. Even if you don't see anything you like, I find that it's still a pretty fun night out.