Dealing with Jealousy/Insecurity

[ffp204]

Posting under another username becuase this is some embarrassing ####. Need some input on how to deal with this issue.

I recently got screamed at for having the Katy Perry concert movie downloaded. Didn't even watch it but I sure got hell. "The only reason you have this is to lust after her", "I thought you didn't like women with caked on makeup", "Is this the kind of woman you have fantasies about?", "This is completely disrespectful to me". I got dressed down.

What porn I have ammonts to maybe 10 Playboy magazines from the 90s, half a dozen VHS tapes and a folder on my computer with about 50 files. Pretty average when compared to friends and guys I know.

This is a grown woman, not a teenager. I've been aware that she's sensitive and insecure but this is over the top. I'd throw away the porn becauase I really don't care about it but I can't walk on eggshells wondering if a movie or video by a female singer is inappropriate but she is adamant that I am being very disrespectful to her.

My idea of disrespectful is cheating, lying, insisting on watching porn even if she's not into it. Have not even come close to that.

She would lose it if she saw the Hot Chicks thread.

How far have you gone to appease your woman? Been together 2 years, do not live together. I need some perspective.

[Dion]

If she's insecure and doesn't trust you it will only get worse. You need to ask her what is REALLY troubling her about you. Her complaints is only masking a bigger issue and you need to find out what it is if you have any hopes of salvaging the relationship.

[CMPunk]

Your other account is from April? Planning ahead?

Ya, she's over the top over this. You can try talking to her about this and find out what the real reason behind it is, otherwise I see a lot of long nights getting yelled at for glancing at the wrong woman.

[Street Pharmacist]

Seems unreasonable to me. You're human, to lust is normal. She should feel comfortable enough that doesn't bother so much.

Having said that, there's got to be a compromise somewhere. Be honest with her that you find other women sexually attractive, and it's impossible not to. If she doesn't want you watching regular movies, weird. Porn outside of her knowledge would be fairly normal, but there's some case to be made there I suppose

[AC]

Why do you have a Katy Perry concert downloaded?

[ffp204]

Becuase she's fun to look at and some of her music is allright.

Originally Posted by CMPunk

Your other account is from April? Planning ahead?

That was the first time I got yelled at.

I actually don't think there is anything else behind this. She just thinks I should only have eyes for her and finds it insulting that I would want to watch something just to "lust" over a women. If it has no artistic merit then I'm being a pig and disrespetful.

[SHOGUN]

Find another girlfriend. Seriously... a ****ing Katy Perry movie??? Leave the relationship with some dignity that you have left, and find a better girlfriend who realizes that humans are sexual beings.

[WhiteTiger]

This is a tough call, man. Without trust, there is no relationship. I'd make an effort to figure out what is really bugging her, but honestly if she's that insecure...either bail or prepare to spend a lifetime looking over your shoulder wondering if your woman is keeping an eye on what you are looking at.

[DOOM]

[alan21]

Bang her sister.

[Caged Great]

My last girlfriend was like this exactly. No trust in a relationship is going to blow up in a very negative way and it will suck for both you and her.

You will be better off not having to deal with that, rather than having to deal with that.

[Regulator75]

Not married? No kids?

Run away quickly.

[Regulator75]

Just because.

[Cheese]

Originally Posted by Caged Great

My last girlfriend was like this exactly. No trust in a relationship is going to blow up in a very negative way and it will suck for both you and her.

You will be better off not having to deal with that, rather than having to deal with that.

maybe it IS your last g/f?

Bail on this woman...possessive, jealous people will make your life miserable. She'd be happier with a Mormon or JW...until she caught them

[Caged Great]

Originally Posted by Cheese

maybe it IS your last g/f?

Bail on this woman...possessive, jealous people will make your life miserable. She'd be happier with a Mormon or JW...until she caught them

If so, run, run like the wind.

[albertGQ]

Now the CP detectives will get to work.

Hmmm, what is your other username?

Maybe you should get her to see a psychiatrist?
I know a good one. His name is Dr.Destiny.

[FlamesAddiction]

My wife was kind of like that when she found my Suicide Girls collection, but she got over it quickly.

It's funny how women act totally computer illiterate, but as soon as it is about finding the sick stuff we look at, they are like Neo in the Matrix.

[Northendzone]

years ago i had a g/f who turned very jelous, it got tot he point where i was walking around the mall with my head down, or i was turning my head away from the TV if something suggestive was on. For whatever reason I married her, it got better for a while and then suddenly i had to start explaining stray hairs around the house and crap like that......more time passed and eventually i found out she was trying out for the role of the town bicycle. finally manned up and ended the relationship.......

found out that for whatever reason, my exes siblings all had jelousy issues in thier relationships......in my opinion, it never ends.......

man that gif of katy is some kind of awesome.....

[rotten42]

advice: run....run away fast and far. There is no furure with someone that insecure.

[rain_e]

Since you are not living together and it is only 2 years in and you've realized she is crazy it's time to call it quits. It will only get worse.