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Would you marry someone of a different religion? Race? Hockey Team Preference?
So my "buddy" was telling me how he would never marry a girl who wasn't a Christian, and it got me to thinking - if I was the marrying kind of guy, could I marry someone who wasn't a grimly materialistic liberal atheist (ha!) like myself?
I think I could manage someone who was religious in the sense of having a vague belief in a god or gods, but a full-blown believer would probably have me divorced or inside an asylum within a few years - especially if kids got involved. It would be like marrying the stone in your shoe. Is there anyone out in CP land who does have a spouse of a radically different religion?
I'm positive I wouldn't have a problem with marrying a black/asian/middle eastern/polynesian girl, though, as I've dated such in the past and find any kind of exotic look attractive. Yet, despite nobody *seeming* to care anymore than I do about dating outside the race, how many mixed marriages actually happen? Is it one of those issues where what we think we would do and what we actually do when the situation arises are completely different?
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I am pretty sure my wife has Christian leanings whereas I keep moving farther and farther away from religion. My wife is 1/4 Inuit...Inupiaq to be specific AND she hates hockey because she had to watch so much of it as a kid.
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As far as religion goes, it would have to be a level-headed girl who understands that religion is not everything. I am on the same page as you with that one.
As far as a different race - Yeah, absolutely.
Hockey team preference? Yeah. If she knew anything about hockey to begin with that'd be a bonus, let alone knowing enough to have a favorite team.
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Race or sports team prefernce would never be an issue for me, religion would only be a problem if they were overly religious and tried to push their views on me.
Religion: Yes, in fact my parents are of different (albeit Christian) religions
Race: Yes, my aunt married my uncle from Malaysia. Again doesn't seem abnormal
Hockey Team: Hell No!I'm fortunate in the fact that my girlfriend never watched hockey (way better than fan of another team) because then you can mold them and teach them what is right (Calgary) and what is wrong (Edmonton/Vancouver/Toronto/Montreal)
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When it comes to a different hockey team preference. If it was some team that wasn't a rival of the Senators, that would be fine. But a Leafs fan? I'd have to be pretty drunk to even sleep with one, so I'm thinking marriage would probably be out.
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I am pretty sure my wife has Christian leanings whereas I keep moving farther and farther away from religion.
"Pretty sure"? Not to pry, but do the two of you never discuss religion, then?
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I'll assume you mean for race/religion - I've often wondered if it's more the parents that are still somewhat stuck in a past age, and that maybe in 20-30 years there will be many more mixed marriages as the pressure from family lets up.
Do you think you'd support the marital-mixing decision of your own hypothetical child against the wishes of his/her grandparents if it came down to it?
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Hockey Team: Hell No!
Ok this made me laugh - race, religion: hey, no problem. DOESN'T LIKE THE FLAMES?!?! Bitch - pack up your stuff.
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I'll assume you mean for race/religion - I've often wondered if it's more the parents that are still somewhat stuck in a past age, and that maybe in 20-30 years there will be many more mixed marriages as the pressure from family lets up.
Do you think you'd support the marital-mixing decision of your own hypothetical child against the wishes of his/her grandparents if it came down to it?
Yup it's always the parents. I would like to think that I would let my hypothetical child choose but that's easy to say now. I really don't know.
You often see children raise their kids just like their parents did (rightly or wrongly)
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I actually had a conversation with some friends recently about whether or not we'd marry someone with different religious beliefs. Everyone seemed shocked that I said I could flat out never marry someone who was overly religious, no matter what their religious beliefs were. I really, really couldn't. I have no problem with people believing in whatever they want, but I just don't think I could be with someone who is very religious, simply because I am not, and I think that could create major conflicts. However, I also realize that I probably wont ever have to worry about this because I am sure that anyone who is overly religious would never want to be with me in the first place!
As for race, I'd have no problems.
Hockey teams, well..... I suppose I could learn to live with a guy who liked a different team... but he'd have to make up for it in other areas!!!
Religion. I would have no problem with a religious person (me being atheist) but I dated a hardcore Catholic girl and it wasn't the irrational belief in god that bothered me. It was the fact that she didn't live up to her supposed beliefs AT ALL. Apparently, according to her, you can be a hypocrite and a total bitch as long as you go to church and confess. At least walk the walk, just don't expect me to agree with your beliefs. Although I should say I think I'm a pretty moral person.
Actually having read Enthused's post, I agree. Couldn't marry anyone who was a fundamentalist. Just no way could I respect someone that believed gay marriage was evil, the rapture was real, the earth was only 5000 years old, communion really turns into the body and blood of Christ etc.
Race. Don't care at all. Asians and blacks aren't really my thing though. Not because I'm a racist, it is just that like some/most white guys I prefer white girls because I find them more attractive. That isn't to say though that I haven't met any hot asians or black girls, it just doesn't seem to be my cup of tea. Plus I want to marry an Italian girl.
Sports: Same girl from the religion answer but far more horrifying. She was a Stamps fan. An uneducated ahole of a Stamps fan at that. Now that I think about it, a lot of the animosity I have towards Stamps fans stems from her...and about 20 other incidents where me and my family were treated like shiznat but I digress.
Generally though cheering for another sports team wouldn't bother me. As long as she wasn't a you know what about it. (you know like how Vancouver fans are mostly all obnoxious or Oiler fans are mostly all mullet bearing panhandlers)
If someone wouldnt marry you because of religion, that's a HUGE red flag right there that the person is not well in the head to begin with
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