Now, whenever I shake a man's hand, I use a pretty firm, non-bone-crushing grip. I don't know why, but I feel strange when it is returned with a wimpy and flimsy greeting.
The other day, I shook a woman's hand who was running a fund raiser for a sick friend. When it comes to women, I offer zero firmness, almost a " how do you do, m'lady" kind of shake.
I was returned with a hand crusher that would have put a car salesman to shame.
I quickly tried to recover and add a little manliness to the grip but it was too late; she had withdrawn. I sold myself short by being a gentleman and am now possibly seen as girly in her eyes. I felt like Costanza after getting out of the pool.
You seriously have different handshakes for men and women?? That seems... old fashioned.
I just shake everyone's hand the same... pretty middle of the road on the "firmness" scale for men and women alike. When I receive a "How do you do, m'lady" in return, it kind of creeps me out, to be honest.
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We may curse our bad luck that it's sounds like its; who's sounds like whose; they're sounds like their (and there); and you're sounds like your. But if we are grown-ups who have been through full-time education, we have no excuse for muddling them up.
I gave up on trying to adapt the firmness. It is either too firm, or I have the other person squeeze my fingers together so that it becomes impossible to recover.
I now avoid it at all costs, or just go middle of the road when I have to.
I usually have success by saying my hands are dirty or something.