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Jayems · 08-02-2009, 06:10 PM

Ok. The day is t-minus... um... about 30 or so. In that neighbourhood.

We're onto the final planning and have stalled on a few things. First, I need to get the groomsmen gifts. I'm really at a loss. For me, I'd like to give them something they not only use during the wedding, but don't just chuck it in a drawer and never take it out. There are five groomsmen and my price range is probably around $50 per guy. I'd go higher if the present was right. As a point of reference, the last 3 times I've stood up, I've received a $50 Earls certificate, a nice classy hat and a pocket watch.

I don't really like the idea of a flask. I'd be interested in giving out event tickets or something like that, as I would find people would get enjoyment out of that.... but again, I struggle with the fact it's like giving a gift certificate at Christmas... very impersonal, but usually very practical. Any ideas?

Secondly, both my fiancee and I despise glass clanking to get kissed. I'm well aware that people are just going to do it anyways .. and continue clanking. It's hands-down the worst part of any wedding imo when it never stops.

We're thinking because it's at a golf course, we'd set up a small putting green and if you get it in one shot, we'll kiss. But what if people suck at golf? Still, it sounds fun.

CMPunk · 08-02-2009, 06:13 PM

I don't know why you make a big deal about the kissing. It'll happen a few times and then it will be done and it's only through the meal. A quick kiss and it's done. Sure beats making people buy drinks, or sing or whatother activities people come up with.

As for the gifts...well I'm stumped as well...I have no Idea what to get my guys

Jayems · 08-02-2009, 06:15 PM

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Originally Posted by CMPunk

I don't know why you make a big deal about the kissing. It'll happen a few times and then it will be done and it's only through the meal. A quick kiss and it's done. Sure beats making people buy drinks, or sing or whatother activities people come up with.

As for the gifts...well I'm stumped as well...I have no Idea what to get my guys

Yeah, the drink thing was just thrown out there. It's just annoying. I've been to a few where the bride and groom never get a chance to sit and it's constant clanking. Edited it to be more clear.

Dion · 08-02-2009, 06:15 PM

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Secondly, both my fiancee and I despise glass clanking to get kissed. I'm well aware that people are just going to do it anyways (which is why we're imposing: 1 clank = buy your table and the wedding party a round rule) but that probably won't stick. And people just won't buy them.. and continue clanking and making me angry. It's hands-down the worst part of any wedding imo.

Set up a donation to a charity of your choice. Instead of clanking glasses have them put some money into a jar.

CMPunk · 08-02-2009, 06:16 PM

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Set up a donation to a charity of your choice. Instead of clanking glasses have them put some money into a jar.

That's a better Idea...$1 a kiss?

CMPunk · 08-02-2009, 06:17 PM

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Yeah, the drink thing was just thrown out there. It's just annoying. I've been to a few where the bride and groom never get a chance to sit and it's constant clanking.

That sucks...most I've been too it's a handful of times and it's done.

skins · 08-02-2009, 06:34 PM

At my wedding, the MC's set up balloons at the front. You had to pop the balloon and answer the question inside (it had to do with us, easy questions and they gave people the answers if they didn't know). It went well pretty good. People tried clinking glasses, but the MC's shut it down. They gave up after a while and went with questions.

Also, after every kiss, the bridal party all held up numbers judging our kiss.

Another idea I've heard is making people get up and demonstrate a kiss and the bride and groom have to copy it. The success of this route probably depends on how conservative/drunk the guests are.

I_H8_Crawford · 08-02-2009, 06:38 PM

As MC before, I did it where if guests wanted the Bride/Groom to kiss, they had to go up and tell a story about the bride and/or groom. It could be any story.

But that really helped (no annoying clanking all freaking dinner long), and had some fantastic funny stories as well!

Jayems · 08-02-2009, 06:52 PM

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That sucks...most I've been too it's a handful of times and it's done.

I think I'd be fine with it if it were only a few time. But you always get that one drunk who clanks 10 times

CMPunk · 08-02-2009, 06:53 PM

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I think I'd be fine with it if it were only a few time. But you always get that one drunk who clanks 10 times

That's when you start to ignore it

Jayems · 08-02-2009, 07:00 PM

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Oh ya, we all know your mom well.

No, she a glass thrower, not a clanker.

Drury18 · 08-02-2009, 07:09 PM

For my wedding party, we gave the groomsmen large glass beer steins with their name (or in one case a nickname) along with "Best Man" or "Groomsman" engraved on them. They got heavily used during the wedding reception and the guys still use them to this day.

Deegee · 08-02-2009, 07:18 PM

We did flask for the men with their names engraved, and for the ladies they were mini boxes with their names engraved.

For ours people had to hula hoop for 30 seconds.

Went to one where they had a giant die and you rolled it and there was cash, story, signing, etc.

Thought the cash grab was extremely week, but the bridge and groom didn't control that aspect of their wedding and they were kind of embarassed by it.

Puddy27 · 08-02-2009, 07:28 PM

At mine we had a little table set up by the head table with Zambooka and Tequila. You could go up and take a shot to make us kiss. There was a mic there for quick tips on marriage if you had any. It was a riot. It did get a little crazy as groups of people would go up lol but it was all in good fun.

We also had a little hockey net set up for the little kids to shoot the ball into...take a shot of booze or take a shot at the net. Was fun and very relaxed.

It was an east coast wedding hence the shots of liquor lol

ken0042 · 08-02-2009, 08:04 PM

Best groomsman gift I ever got was a $50 pre-paid Visa card. That way I bought myself something that I really wanted.

The one thing I see with kissing now is if you want them to kiss, you and your significant other have to kiss, and it is up to the couple to "better" that kiss.

LIP MAN · 08-02-2009, 08:11 PM

I know at my brothers wedding it was "kiss the stuffed monkey" or tell a story about the bride and groom. Glass clanking is annoying though. The hole in one thing could work...NERF golf ftw.

Swarly · 08-02-2009, 08:13 PM

just have the MC announce that its been a long day for the bride and groom so no clicking during dinner so they get a chance to eat, or have him announce that after the first one, gotta give the people what they want. The ones I've been to people respect that.

BlackArcher101 · 08-02-2009, 08:30 PM

One wedding I was at... the couple were into sledding, so they took a wagon and put the front fairing of a sled on it. When ever someone wanted them to kiss, someone had to get pulled around in the wagon in order for them to do it.

It wasn't used a whole lot... but it also allowed the kids to get involved and they loved it.

Antithesis · 08-02-2009, 08:47 PM

I've been at a wedding where you had to kiss someone to get the bride and groom to ... it worked out pretty well.

I don't know about your relationship with your groomsmen but one of my friends' wedding party was all teachers (so was the groom) so he got us various things we'd use at work (I know it sounds really lame but I use them every day and it reminds me of the wedding - which was a lot of fun)

RedMileDJ · 08-02-2009, 09:13 PM

I gave each of my groom's men an engraved beer mug. Make sure if you do this you pay the extra $4 for the "flaking" so that the letter stand out more. I think I paid around a total of $80 for 4 guys. See below:

As for the glass/clinking thing...we allowed it...but my wife and I gave an even BETTER kiss if people used our "Kissing Dice"

4 of the sides said "Bride and Groom kiss" and well...you can see the other sides. It went over REALLY well. The kids at the wedding loved it, and it was so much more fun than clinking glass, or putting people on the spot to answer questions and stuff. I hope this helps! Cheers!