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Temporary_User · 07-23-2007, 04:04 PM

A week or so ago I went to the bar with an old friend who I havent seen or essentially talked to in about 3-4 months.
I should mention that when I first met her, we originally kind of hooked up (never sex of any type). However, after that we quickly became just friends as we knew that we would be apart from each other soon enough.

So at the bar the other night, there was her, a few friends of hers who I have met once before and a friend of one of her friends, and ofcourse myself. Afterwards we all ended up going back to my place for a few drinks and such. Her friends friend and I took a walk to the store, and when we came back my friend seemed to make her way to my bed.
I started hooking up with the girl I went to the store with, so we decided that we had to (politely as possible) kick everyone out; especially my friend who was already taking up my bed.

In the morning, we both felt a little bad for having to kick everyone out, but thought since it was so late in the night it wasn't that big of a deal.
Anyways skip forward a bit, and I hadn't had a chance to speak with my friend since then... I did however notice that she now seems to mysteriously be missing from my friend list on facebook.

I don't know how bad my actions were that night... Was I truely in the wrong?
I'm assuming my friend thought I was pretty rude. I'm unsure if I should sadly write it off as a friend lost, or how i should go about contacting her. Either phone or text, as facebook is sort of out...

Sorry for such a long post, but any advice would be appreciated.

JiriHrdina · 07-23-2007, 04:08 PM

Meh. Doesn't see like you did anything wrong. Though its a little hard to follow w/ the friend and friend of a friend stuff. Tough to keep track of.

Burninator · 07-23-2007, 04:09 PM

Well if your friend that went to your bed while you were at the store was planning on hooking up with you, and you ended up kicking her out of the bed in favour of someone else...I would say there is a good chance the friend-ship has sailed.

Flashpoint · 07-23-2007, 04:10 PM

Confront.

You were "friends" and she never said otherwise. Deleting you is passive agressive BS. Put her on the straight talk express and ask her what is up. If she hates you, nothing lost. If she talks, you might work it out and save the friendship.

Poison · 07-23-2007, 04:12 PM

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Originally Posted by Burninator

Well if your friend that went to your bed while you were at the store was planning on hooking up with you, and you ended up kicking her out of the bed in favour of someone else...I would say there is a good chance the friend-ship has sailed.

Exactly what i was thinking, i tend to think there was a reason she was in your bed when you got back from the store.
Was the one you hooked up with hotter? Thats the real question here...

KevanGuy · 07-23-2007, 04:13 PM

Just call her up and act like nothing happened.

FireFly · 07-23-2007, 04:13 PM

Well you should've perhaps checked on her in the bedroom before hooking up with the friend's friend, but since you were under the impression you were just friends anyways, it shouldn't be a big deal. Unless she really wanted you, then you blew it with her. Hope you have fun with the new girl though!

Buff · 07-23-2007, 04:15 PM

Curious. Is the girl you hooked up with getting the same treatment from your original friend?

fredr123 · 07-23-2007, 04:15 PM

Totally in the wrong.

Should have invited the friend to play along.

Dion · 07-23-2007, 04:18 PM

Hash out whatever problem she seems to have with you.

Find out what her problem is and hopefully the 2 of you can come to some understanding and remian friends. If on the other hand she shuts you out, then at least you can say to yourself that you tried.

Eastern Girl · 07-23-2007, 04:19 PM

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Originally Posted by Flashpoint

Confront.

You were "friends" and she never said otherwise. Deleting you is passive agressive BS. Put her on the straight talk express and ask her what is up. If she hates you, nothing lost. If she talks, you might work it out and save the friendship.

That's what I would do. Be honest and ask why she is angry with you. She can either answer honestly or continue ignoring you. Depending on her reaction, you can either salvage the friendship or move on. Deleting you from her Facebook without any explanation just seems like a childish thing to do. If she has or had a problem, she should have talked to you about it, instead of playing games.

Table 5 · 07-23-2007, 04:19 PM

bang chick #1, kick her out, and then go bang chick #2.

seriously though, any good friend would sacrifice sleep to help get their friends laid. thats what friends are for.

Maritime Q-Scout · 07-23-2007, 04:20 PM

To answer your question, you were the wrongiest wrong who ever wronged a wrong.

Actually that's what I thought the moment I read the thread title.

Just to be clear, you did you kick your friend out of your bed? If so there are a few things at play, she wanted to be a little more than 'friends' and as evidenced by thread http://forum.calgarypuck.com/showthread.php?t=45270 it's impossible for a guy and a girl to be friends without the guy having some desire of relations. Or she's asleep in your bed, you woke her up to kick her out, which, in my opinion, is one of the greatest sins on earth, NEVER wake another sleeping human being without just cause . . . frankly if you wake me up to get some nookie, I'll kill you. I understand that it's sex, and sex is very important to you, however "my sleep > you doing the wild monkey dance". But that's just my opinion. I'm sure other posters here might agree that my sleeping is indeed more important than you getting laid too. (Not saying just anyone's sleeping, in particular my sleeping and possibly your friend's). Or you didn't wake your friend, and you hooked up elsewhere but she wanted to hook up. Or you hooking up with her friend was such bad karma that she can't stand it (maybe you're too good of a guy to hook up with the skank you did, or you're too much of a jerkface to hook up with a quality girl like her?)

So many variables, but I think it's safe to say you were the wrongiest wrong who ever wronged a wrong.

J pold · 07-23-2007, 04:23 PM

You did do something wrong!

You didn’t call me you dick… anyway do what Kevin Guy said plead ignorance I was in a pretty similar situation a while ago

I had hooked up with this girl after the bar…than the next night I made her come to Bob the fish and met me only for to flirt and leave the bar with another women right in front of her…but the next time I talked to her I plead ignorance so it was all good

troutman · 07-23-2007, 04:26 PM

This thread is useless without pictures.

GreenLantern · 07-23-2007, 04:26 PM

Troutman beat me to it

I was so excited it was my first time too!

Muta · 07-23-2007, 04:27 PM

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Originally Posted by Table 5

bang chick #1, kick her out, and then go bang chick #2.

seriously though, any good friend would sacrifice sleep to help get their friends laid. thats what friends are for.

MY EYES... MY EYES... NSFW! Boss walks by, happens to read this post... wonders what kind of forum I'm on... holy could this have gotten more awkward

But I agree... bang away!

troutman · 07-23-2007, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by GreenLantern

Troutman beat me to it

I was so excited it was my first time too!

Sorry Hal Jordan.

Inferno · 07-23-2007, 04:29 PM

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Originally Posted by Maritime Q-Scout

and as evidenced by thread http://forum.calgarypuck.com/showthread.php?t=45270 it's impossible for a guy and a girl to be friends without the guy having some desire of relations.

That's not necessarily true atleast in my case. The girl I talked about is the only one of my girl friends that I ever wanted something more with.

FlamingLonghorn · 07-23-2007, 04:29 PM

who gives a ? Wasn't much of a friend if you haven't talked to her for 3-4 months. No loss... If her feelings are hurt it's her own fault.