Do you greet people?..

[CaptainYooh]

Do you greet people you know at work or elsewhere when you see them first time in a day with a simple "Good morning", "Hi", "Hello", "How are you" etc. or do you not consider it necessary to be polite?

I always do and it bothers me when someone doesn't. In fact, I consider this behaviour arrogant towards other people and arrogance, at least in my books, is a huge personality flaw. Do you agree? Do you greet people when you see them first time at work or at social gatherings? Or do you care at all one way or another?

[AcGold]

I do but I don't think it's arrogance to not do it. A lot of people suffer from social anxieties and are reclusive so I try not to judge so quickly

[undercoverbrother]

Always.

[OutOfTheCube]

Of course, it's the first sign of some sort of social competence. I even greet people I don't know sometimes. But that probably got engrained into me in my seven years working in retail.

I don't think it's arrogance necessarily not to -- it can be arrogance, but not with everyone. Some people are just really shy.

[t0rrent98]

Is it bad that I let others greet me first than having it the other way around? Through depending on if I know you well enough than I would do it first. Come to think of it, I maybe in the minority of those who are suffering from social anxieties.. heh.

I hate to say it but I am very much an introvert and not sure how to change that.

[The Yen Man]

Originally Posted by CaptainYooh

Do you greet people you know at work or elsewhere when you see them first time in a day with a simple "Good morning", "Hi", "Hello", "How are you" etc. or do you not consider it necessary to be polite?

I always do and it bothers me when someone doesn't. In fact, I consider this behaviour arrogant towards other people and arrogance, at least in my books, is a huge personality flaw. Do you agree? Do you greet people when you see them first time at work or at social gatherings? Or do you care at all one way or another?

On the flip side though, is it not also arrogant of a naturally extroverted person to expect everyone to behave the same way as them? I think giving everyone the benefit of the doubt and not prejudging is a better way to go, so I always take it as a person being shy rather than arrogant if they don't greet me back.

[AvsJerk]

I greet coworkers in the morning. I have one coworker that is often grumpy and doesn't hide it very well...I have to stay vigilant with just a smile and "good morning", if I accidentally let slip with a "How are you?" a tirade of biatching and moaning of his life problems will follow.

[CaptainYooh]

Originally Posted by AvsJerk

... if I accidentally let slip with a "How are you?" a tirade of biatching and moaning of his life problems will follow.

This is a good point. But I see a fine line between being polite and liking small meaningless talk (I don't, normally). I will not ask "How are you?" just to hear "Fine, thanks, how are you?", if I am genuinely not interested in how the person is and not willing to continue the conversation at that time.

[Finger Cookin]

It depends if I've had my first coffee or not.

But seriously, I usually at least acknowledge people. If not verbally, at least a nod or other non-verbal acknowledgment.

[DownhillGoat]

Originally Posted by Finger Cookin

If not verbally, at least a nod or other non-verbal acknowledgment.

Ha! A few weeks ago I was coming off a 14 hour night shift and passed a fellow going onto day shift in the hall. He said hello and I nodded. He then stopped and started berating me in the hall for not actually using a verbal response.

[AcGold]

Originally Posted by t0rrent98

I hate to say it but I am very much an introvert and not sure how to change that.

Reversing being an introvert is pretty much impossible without pharmacological aid (but don't do that), being an introvert is an indication of the way stimuli effect the brain. Introverts are stimulated more easily and there is a lower threshold for something to force itself into the introverts cognitions. So fighting it is a lost cause, to overcome anxieties you have to put yourself into situations where you are forced to interact so that you learn to not care about judgments. There really is no cure for the anxiety beside repeated human interaction.

[Finger Cookin]

Originally Posted by kunkstyle

Ha! A few weeks ago I was coming off a 14 hour night shift and passed a fellow going onto day shift in the hall. He said hello and I nodded. He then stopped and started berating me in the hall for not actually using a verbal response.

Yikes. Glad I don't work with that guy. I'd have to upgrade to the nod with a simultaneous "Hey".

[Jacks]

Some people aren't "morning people". I find the inane chatter that some folks engage in to be annoying as hell. Somebody wanting to yak about everything that happened in the last 12+ hours first thing in the morning is really quite annoying.

Originally Posted by kunkstyle

Ha! A few weeks ago I was coming off a 14 hour night shift and passed a fellow going onto day shift in the hall. He said hello and I nodded. He then stopped and started berating me in the hall for not actually using a verbal response.

I'd have laid into him

[cDnStealth]

I don't think being introverted should be an excuse for not being polite and I say that as an introvert myself. Maybe it's because I worked in retail where I was forced to converse with total strangers that I feel saying hello to someone in an office hallway or on a hiking trail etc. isn't a whole lot of effort. I'd never berate someone for not returning a greeting but I do find it irritating.

[Chill Cosby]

Originally Posted by CaptainYooh

Do you greet people you know at work or elsewhere when you see them first time in a day with a simple "Good morning", "Hi", "Hello", "How are you" etc. or do you not consider it necessary to be polite?

I always do and it bothers me when someone doesn't. In fact, I consider this behaviour arrogant towards other people and arrogance, at least in my books, is a huge personality flaw. Do you agree? Do you greet people when you see them first time at work or at social gatherings? Or do you care at all one way or another?

What's the timeline of events here?

If you greet someone and they don't greet you back (with a hello, a nod, a wave, a smile, whatever) then I'd say it's pretty rude.

If you don't greet someone, and they don't greet you, then it's a blameless scenario where you've both silently agreed not to exchange any pleasantries.

So yeah, if someone doesn't respond to a greeting, that's pretty rude and ignorant (so long as they heard you of course) but if you're upset that someone didn't greet you even though you hadn't made the effort either (even if you were just waiting to see if they would do it first) then you're a crazy person

[getbak]

If I see someone I know (but don't know well) coming the other way in the hall, I pretend I forgot something at my desk, turn around, and hide until they've passed by.

[Puppet Guy]

I'll greet people with at least a nod or wave, but find the "how are you?" too cliche and tempting fate like Avsjerk said. If I say or ask something surreal like "how was school today?" or "are the fish biting?" they'll at least smile or it'll give them a story for later.

[GirlySports]

I smile at everyone and it's up to them whether to greet me or not. In most cases if we know each other, the other person will greet me first cause I'm slow. If they ask a question I'll give a good answer.

[Looch City]

Person 1: "Hello"

Person 2: "Good morning, how are you?"

Person 1: "I'm good, how are you?"

Person 2: "I'm good, how are you?"

Person 1: *weird look*

Person 2: *face palm*


And person 2 is sometimes me haha.

[Huntingwhale]

I do. But there are some people I have worked with for over 8+ years who still don't say hi when I see them, so I don't bother with them anymore.