Fathers Rights in Canada

[Jets4Life]

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[Ducay]

Sounds like a tough situation but it seems like you're doing a bang up job given the circumstances.

As long as you're working the hardest you can to be a good dad, then that is really all you can do, aside from trying to get custody.

[Sliver]

Ducay pretty much covered it. Sounds like you're doing a good job in a bad situation.

[Aeneas]

Good for you being the stand up guy.

Just wondering on two things.

Why does it matter to you if the child's grandparents (your parents) see her without your knowledge?

How does the mother off your child afford to live in a house etc. with no job and only a $200 allowance? How much child support are you paying? Does she have other kids?

[troutman]

It is always open to you to make a court application for increased access.

I prefer that people frame this in terms of the child's rights, not the parent's rights. It is the child's right to have a relationship with her parent, consistent with her best interests. Normally, this means maximum contact with both parents.

[Ducay]

Originally Posted by troutman

I prefer that people frame this in terms of the child's rights, not the parent's rights. It is the child's right to have a relationship with her parent, consistent with her best interests. Normally, this means maximum contact with both parents.

Dr. Phil.....is that you?

[Rod Hockey]

Any chance it could be dissentowners kid?

I would fight hard for 50/50 custody. Lawyer up or seek legal advice from your local Parental rights group.

[yads]

Originally Posted by Ducay

Dr. Phil.....is that you?

Probably best way to get this through in the courts as they are always looking out for what's best for the child.

[Jetsfan]

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[J pold]

Holy for a second there I got you confused with Jetsfan. After reading your post I thought to myself, ahhhh that’s why he hates females.

[Azure]

Well right now you're obviously doing everything you can.

Tough decision though. Going through the courts to force the mother to give you more access to YOUR child might make things worse.

[Boblobla]

Originally Posted by Jetsfan

Google...mgtow

Misogynists Get Their Own Way?

[Rifleman]

Good on you for trying to hold up your end of the bargain. Your daughter needs to know you love her, and for a lot of kids, that'll go a long way.

It seems your ex is having money issues. Could you maybe pay her to see your daughter? As crazy as that sounds, if the ex is desperate for money, you could drop a twenty her and a twenty there when you're with your daughter, and the money finding its way back to mom somehow = incentive to hang out with dad.

[Khel]

Originally Posted by Rifleman

It seems your ex is having money issues. Could you maybe pay her to see your daughter? As crazy as that sounds, if the ex is desperate for money, you could drop a twenty her and a twenty there when you're with your daughter, and the money finding its way back to mom somehow = incentive to hang out with dad.

that's a horrible idea, if she's really having money issues the cost of visits would keep going up.

[SeeBass]

The power has swung way too far the other way

These stories are not unique

[afc wimbledon]

Lawyer up, get a settlement with 50/50 custody and guardianship then if she screws around go back to court, do this quickly as if you don't the court will tend to go with whatever the status quo is.
Get a good lawyer, and this will cost you, say absoloutly nothing to the kid about any of this, the mum may be a cow but that is the only mum she's got and it doesn't help to undermine that.

Even if you lose and go through a nightmare eventually your daughter will grow old enough to realise what has been going on, then she will spend more time with you regardless of the ex.

Cost me 12 grand to sort my marriage out, it never got sane until we had a court order.

[Jets4Life]

I got my lawyer to sign off on a child custody/support agreement two months ago. However, I am having serious second thoughts, as at the time I was being treated for clinical depression by a doctor, due to the legal battle, and just wanted the case to go away.

Now I am having a change of heart, as I am only granted "reasonable" access to see my daughter. Before we went to court, the mother would often not answer my calls/emails etc so I would not be able to see my daughter. Since the agreement, I have realized that I should fight for my daughter, for better access and more time with her. Additionally, I am feeling a lot better now

If the agreement has been signed off by my lawyer, but it has not made its way through the courts, can I still say that I want to change the agreement since I am unhappy with it? If any one with legal knowledge can help me out, I would very much appreciate it. Thanks.

[taco.vidal]

Sorry to hear of your situation.

I would think that it would be wise to speak with your lawyer on Monday morning and ask him the question you are asking above.

[Jets4Life]

Originally Posted by Jetsfan

Google...mgtow

There is no other Canadian forum that I know of that specializes in family law/advice/support/etc.

[Jets4Life]

Originally Posted by taco.vidal

Sorry to hear of your situation.

I would think that it would be wise to speak with your lawyer on Monday morning and ask him the question you are asking above.

Unfortunately, he has not been too helpful, as he had promised me a copy of the agreement by email (Pdf format) when I last saw him, and it took three emails, and two phone calls to get a hold of him recently. He was vague, and I am in the process of flying to Winnipeg when my shift ends in Ft McMurray, and visiting Winnipeg on my week of to find a lawyer where my daughter lives (since I am unhappy with my current legal representation), and to see family.

I should have hired troutman....