confidence

[jamoro]

What do you people think about confidence as a personality trait?
Personally I believe that to be a balanced person you need to know what it feels like to have no confidence, to really relate to others who don't have confidence.
I have come from that. My confidence in school was non-existent because of bulling. Now today I have a lot of confidence and don't get depressed like I once use to. But I think if you came from a back round where you were always confident you cant really relate to others who don't have it, because you just don't know how they feel.
I also find arrogance is more profound in people who were always confident.
But I do find that I am now enjoying myself a lot more when I go out because of my confidence, and people seem to be more interested in talking to me as well

What does CP feel about this?

[Rathji]

Your girlfriend thing ks wormkng out well I see.

[First Lady]

This wouldn't have something to do with hell freezing over would it?

[MrMastodonFarm]

No matter what happens, don't be beta, bro.

[jamoro]

Originally Posted by First Lady

This wouldn't have something to do with hell freezing over would it?

well that was an ego boost :P but just asking in general

[RedMileDJ]

I'm still trying to figure out if Jamoro is legit in all these threads, or just an attention-starved troll.

[aaronzaski]

Confidence is wonderful. Over-confidence is obnoxious.

[jamoro]

Originally Posted by Red-Mile-DJ

I'm still trying to figure out if Jamoro is legit in all these threads, or just an attention-starved troll.

I hate it when people are friendly and like talking about their life and creating discussion they are labeled as a troll. I'm sorry i don't fit the mold of the typical poster

[malcolmk14]

I don't think you're a troll, I just think you exhibit some particularly interesting attention-seeking behavior.

Like starting a thread, for instance, about a girl giving you her number, and then when the date has passed you won't share any more details, saying "hehe I don't kiss and tell". Well if you truly didn't kiss and tell, you wouldn't have started the thread in the first place.

And now starting a thread about how you used to be insecure and now you're not. That's great, good for you, but what kind of question is "How does CP feel about confidence as a personality trait?"

Confidence is great, some people have too much, some people have too little. Some people once had low confidence and now have high. Some had high and now have low. End of thread.

In my experience people on here are very friendly and happy to discuss life issues. But something like "I used to have no confidence and now I have confidence"? That can go in the "things that make me happy" thread or "I just have a small question that doesn't warrant it's own thread" thread.

In before "if you don't like the thread don't open it" and "report the post if it makes you upset".

Just saying.

[jamoro]

Originally Posted by malcolmk14

I don't think you're a troll, I just think you exhibit some particularly interesting attention-seeking behavior.

Like starting a thread, for instance, about a girl giving you her number, and then when the date has passed you won't share any more details, saying "hehe I don't kiss and tell". Well if you truly didn't kiss and tell, you wouldn't have started the thread in the first place.

And now starting a thread about how you used to be insecure and now you're not. That's great, good for you, but what kind of question is "How does CP feel about confidence as a personality trait?"

Confidence is great, some people have too much, some people have too little. Some people once had low confidence and now have high. Some had high and now have low. End of thread.

In my experience people on here are very friendly and happy to discuss life issues. But something like "I used to have no confidence and now I have confidence"? That can go in the "things that make me happy" thread or "I just have a small question that doesn't warrant it's own thread" thread.

In before "if you don't like the thread don't open it" and "report the post if it makes you upset".

Just saying.

I can see your point, I guess I am new to this forum and am still learning the etiquette

[Locke]

Originally Posted by jamoro

I can see your point, I guess I am new to this forum and am still learning the etiquette

The real key to etiquette is not to have any.

[Flash Walken]

[AvsJerk]

My big wiener gives me lots of confidence...I enhance that confidence by driving my fancy sports car or, when the weather is bad, my really big truck with really big tires...of course, this is only possible due to the huge salary that I make at work.

[jamoro]

Originally Posted by AvsJerk

My big wiener gives me lots of confidence...I enhance that confidence by driving my fancy sports car or, when the weather is bad, my really big truck with really big tires...of course, this is only possible due to the huge salary that I make at work.

Man your living my dream... with the cars I mean lol

[peter12]

I don't mind jamoro's little overly-personal questions.

Confidence is truly the most important currency you can possess, especially when combined with insightful self-reflection. You'll always have to make changes, especially when dealing with women.

[vektor]

Confidence based on superficial means (e.g. money, appearance) can crumple at the slightest bit of upheaval. Confidence from true self-acceptance is unbreakable, you can tell who has true confidence based on how they react when they get criticized. People with real confidence will take criticism and try and take some valuable advice out of it, people with false confidence will defend themselves too much instead of trying to see why they were criticized in the first place. I'm not saying defending yourself is wrong, but there's a difference between a criticism and a personal attack.

People who tend to boast a lot and get defensive when they are criticized are much less confident than they seem, people who live their own lives without caring too much about how people perceive them could be cornered by a group and insulted and it wouldn't irk them one bit. If you find the need to have people's attention because you feel awesome then it's probably the false confidence, if you can do something stupid and laugh at yourself it's the good kind of confidence. Often times the hyper-alpha male type exudes that false confidence because of some deep seeded sense of inferiority in some aspect of their life, often times it's extreme sexual frustration. Jeff Winger from Community is the perfect character example of that, he exudes confidence but inside he's extremely self-conscious because he is terrible at sex.

[jamoro]

Originally Posted by vektor

Confidence based on superficial means (e.g. money, appearance) can crumple at the slightest bit of upheaval. Confidence from true self-acceptance is unbreakable, you can tell who has true confidence based on how they react when they get criticized. People with real confidence will take criticism and try and take some valuable advice out of it, people with false confidence will defend themselves too much instead of trying to see why they were criticized in the first place. I'm not saying defending yourself is wrong, but there's a difference between a criticism and a personal attack.

People who tend to boast a lot and get defensive when they are criticized are much less confident than they seem, people who live their own lives without caring too much about how people perceive them could be cornered by a group of and insulted and it wouldn't irk them one bit. If you find the need to have people's attention because you feel awesome then it's probably the false confidence, if you can do something stupid and laugh at yourself it's the good kind of confidence. Often times the hyper-alpha male type exudes that false confidence because of some deep seeded sense of inferiority in some aspect of their life, often times it's extreme sexual frustration. Jeff Winger from Community is the perfect character example of that, he exudes confidence but inside he's extremely self-conscious because he is terrible at sex.

Great break down, thanks for the contribution

[albertGQ]

If you're so confident, why did you pm me a little while ago to stop bullying you?

[Travis Munroe]

Originally Posted by jamoro

Man your living my dream... with the cars I mean lol

Not sure if serious... Green text intended??

[jamoro]

Originally Posted by Realtor 1

Not sure if serious... Green text intended??

haha joking but also a little serious, wish I had the money to buy a nice car. will be riding in my 98 ford explorer until then :P