A very easy way to weed out scummy girls on the first date.

[Option84]

It's very simple. If you are doing something that costs money like going out to dinner, see if she offers to pay or not at the end. Even if it's just a hollow gesture or just for her share. I have NO PATIENCE for spoiled little princesses who expect everything to be given to them after just meeting someone for the first time! Of course I usually end up paying like a gentlemen, unless she heavily insists.

[Cheese]

hmmmm...so a woman who is taken out on a date and does not offer to pay is scummy? My how things have changed. In my day it might have had something to do with VD or crabs.

[VladtheImpaler]

Just take her to the liquor store and see if she pays for the pop.

[Ozy_Flame]

I wouldn't judge it on the first date. Second date, definitely. You have to expect to be chival a bit on the first one, and they want it as well.

[black rubber disc bunny]

Scummy = won't sit on the same side of the booth as you

[Yasa]

She didn't offer to pay for pop at Superstore? Did you try sitting beside her to make sure she knows it's a real grown up date?

Edit: Damn. Both my jokes made before my post. Predictable, but worth it.

[Ne7en]

nm

[HPLovecraft]

Whoever asks the other out on the date should pay. They clearly want it more, anyway.

[robocop]

Just make her fall in love with you then she will pay for everything. This method is dangerous if you have a conscience.

[troutman]

Who is weeding who?

[Travis Munroe]

ahahahah option84 would be so much better off if he created a new account lol.

[fredr123]

Originally Posted by Cheese

hmmmm...so a woman who is taken out on a date and does not offer to pay is scummy? My how things have changed. In my day it might have had something to do with VD or crabs.

I'm not even close to as old as you and I think this is a dumb way to determine whether a girl is "scummy". Back in my day (which, as mentioned, wasn't nearly as long ago as Cheese's day), if I asked a lady out on a date there was no expectation on my part that she would pay. I did not judge her based on whether she offered to pay. I'm taking you out, it's my treat.

I might feel different if the date was her idea or we were going out and doing something on her request/demand. I wouldn't expect her to pay, but it might be nice for her to offer once in a while in those circumstances.

If you're concerned about dating spoiled princesses, I think there are ways to figure that out before you get the cheque on the first date. Hell, can't you figure that out before you even decide to ask her out? You just ask girls out because they're hot and then get to know them later? Is that how it works these days?

[squiggs96]

Here's what I do:

When the bill comes for dinner I ask the girl if she wants to split it to cover our own costs. I tell her that way neither of us owes each other anything and we don't feel pressured into doing things because we feel obligated, especially if it's an expensive meal. Then I let her know that if she has sex with me that night, I will reimburse her for her portion of the bill. I'll even throw in the tip.

[dissentowner]

It is simple. If you are paying for the entire date then she should put out at the end. That should be a rule.

[Weiser Wonder]

Of course, as with any group at a restaurant, everyone should offer to pay their share. But to call it scummy is a little much and comes off as bitter.

[malcolmk14]

I just pretend I forgot my wallet and see how she reacts. If it's good I'll pay, if it's bad and the date hasn't gone that well, she can foot the bill, because I probably won't be seeing her again anyway.

[Hockeyguy15]

Did you and your girlfriend who you sit on the same side of the booth with split up?

[HotHotHeat]

I feel like I should congratulate you for getting the girl to stay at the table that long. What did you talk about?

[valo403]

I typically pay on the first date unless she makes a point of paying, which I don't expect her to do. I'm not sure what why reasoning is, it just seems right. As long as I get a sincere thank you I'm happy, the lack of that is a much better way to root out a 'scummy' girl.

From there on out I don't really think about it, split or not if we date long enough it'll even itself out typically. One thing I don't appreciate is the 'I'll pay for this since you got dinner last time' move when dinner last time was 4 courses and dinner this time is an $8 burger. Go ahead and pay, I appreciate that, but don't make it out to be some balancing of payments move.

[shermanator]

Originally Posted by squiggs96

Here's what I do:

When the bill comes for dinner I ask the girl if she wants to split it to cover our own costs. I tell her that way neither of us owes each other anything and we don't feel pressured into doing things because we feel obligated, especially if it's an expensive meal. Then I let her know that if she has sex with me that night, I will reimburse her for her portion of the bill. I'll even throw in the tip.

I bet she just wants the whole thing...