Stress

[Maritime Q-Scout]

I'm not someone who gets stessed very easily. I can take most of what life throws at me, calmly, rationally, and without worry. However when I do get stressed it's genearlly really bad.

Lately I haven't been sleeping well, had no appitite for the last three days or so, forced food into me today when I realized how little I actually ate in the last two or three days (and someone my size that's more unhealthy than someone of an average weight or overweight).

I've got a knot in the bottom of my stomach, and my shoulders are constantly tense.

Any relaxation ideas, herbal treatments, I dunno anything that might help? Going home for a rest as Spirit of the West suggested isn't helping (again something that would normally relax me).

[Hack&Lube]

I think you gotta identify what the source of the stress is first.

[Cheese]

sex is good....

get really really drunk and you wont think about it....

dont worry, be happy....

[Flames89]

90% of the things we worry about never come true

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Originally posted by Hack&Lube+May 3 2005, 11:33 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Hack&Lube @ May 3 2005, 11:33 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'> I think you gotta identify what the source of the stress is first.[/b]

done, following quote kinda touches on the subject

<!--QuoteBegin-Cheese@May 3 2005, 11:40 AM
sex is good....[/quote]

incredibly long story short:

Girl I like rejects me after months of hanging out, flirting, building up the courage to ask out etc.

No biggie, not the first time won't be the last. Heartbroke yes, but I can handle it.

Girl leaves school for the summer, immediately meets NEW guy (not like an old friend) and starts dating.

I know it's a new guy as her best friend (who grew up with her) has no clue who this guy is.

I find out through the grapevine, and am left thinking, who the hell is this? Less than two weeks? WTF?

Also of note, she's told me stuff like "you're my knight in shining armour" and "I don't know how I would have gotten through the school year without you" "you're my favourite friend, thanks for everything" through helping her, being with her, easing stress etc.

I feel like I've been kicked in the nads.

[Maritime Q-Scout]

Originally posted by fotze@May 3 2005, 11:46 AM
Just come out of the closet.

oh fotze, how I wish it were that easy. Glad to know you want me to though

[Cheese]

Originally posted by Maritime Q-Scout+May 3 2005, 11:05 AM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Maritime Q-Scout @ May 3 2005, 11:05 AM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>

done, following quote kinda touches on the subject

<!--QuoteBegin-Cheese@May 3 2005, 11:40 AM
sex is good....

incredibly long story short:

Girl I like rejects me after months of hanging out, flirting, building up the courage to ask out etc.

No biggie, not the first time won't be the last. Heartbroke yes, but I can handle it.

Girl leaves school for the summer, immediately meets NEW guy (not like an old friend) and starts dating.

I know it's a new guy as her best friend (who grew up with her) has no clue who this guy is.

I find out through the grapevine, and am left thinking, who the hell is this? Less than two weeks? WTF?

Also of note, she's told me stuff like "you're my knight in shining armour" and "I don't know how I would have gotten through the school year without you" "you're my favourite friend, thanks for everything" through helping her, being with her, easing stress etc.

I feel like I've been kicked in the nads. [/b][/quote]
damned woman troubles....wheres Cowperson with a chorus or two from his fave singer/songwriter?

If it werent meant to be then you are WAYYYYYYYYY better off without her! Better shes gone now and hooked up with some other dummy then have you marry said g/f and be divorced 2 years later. She was never worth it if she hooked up that fast off the rebound.

Now...go call the buddies you ignored while with said g/f and go on a hunt!
Start swimming again...its all about that fish story!

[Ironhorse]

Originally posted by Flames89@May 3 2005, 08:47 AM
90% of the things we worry about never come true

"Worry is the advance interest you pay on troubles that seldom come."

[Flames Draft Watcher]

Originally posted by Maritime Q-Scout@May 3 2005, 02:22 PM
Lately I haven't been sleeping well, had no appitite for the last three days or so, forced food into me today when I realized how little I actually ate in the last two or three days (and someone my size that's more unhealthy than someone of an average weight or overweight).

I've got a knot in the bottom of my stomach, and my shoulders are constantly tense.

Any relaxation ideas, herbal treatments, I dunno anything that might help?

Well I do know a certain herb that helps with appetite, sleeping and tension

Another alternative could be meditation.

[I-Hate-Hulse]

Talking helps, so you've taken the 1st step. Going on the offensive does wonders too, if you meet and fall for someone else, you'll forget about her in no time. Go out on a casual date with some other girls you know. It'll also help should she and this new dude work out for the long run.

We've all been there dude, just give it time.


"A man is only as faithful as his options" - Chris Rock

[JiriHrdina]

If you're still hanging out/talking with her - stop.

It doesn't work. You can't "just be friends" if you have feelings for her. You can try to convince yourself that you can, but its simply not going to work. Or you'll just put yourself through more pain.

Cut her off - at least for a good amount of time.

[Cowperson]

"you're my favourite friend, thanks for everything"

That's all I needed to hear.

You were never the one to begin with bub!! So no stress at all now. It's over. Done. That big weight is off your back.

Some Lyle Lovett wisdom as per Cheese's request:

I looked at her and she looked at me
And I looked back and she looked back
And we went out together for a walk
Her eyes were bright just like the stars
But she drove a pickup said she hated cars
But loved to ride around out after dark

And I said ooh give back my heart chipkicker-redneck woman
Take your boots and walk out of my life
Ooh give back my heart chipkicker-redneck woman
I can't be no cowgirl paradise

And just remember, when she invites you to her wedding, as any good "friend" would do, think of "LA County" by Lyle Lovett:

And as she stood there at the altar
All dressed in her gown of white
Lord her face was bright as The stars a'shining
Like I'd dreamed of all my life

And they kissed each other
And they turned around
And they saw me standing in the aisle
Well I did not say much
I just stood there watching
As that .45 told them goodbye

Cowperson

[Tron_fdc]

Originally posted by Maritime Q-Scout+May 3 2005, 03:05 PM--></div><table border='0' align='center' width='95%' cellpadding='3' cellspacing='1'><tr><td>QUOTE (Maritime Q-Scout @ May 3 2005, 03:05 PM)</td></tr><tr><td id='QUOTE'>

done, following quote kinda touches on the subject

<!--QuoteBegin-Cheese@May 3 2005, 11:40 AM
sex is good....

incredibly long story short:

Girl I like rejects me after months of hanging out, flirting, building up the courage to ask out etc.

No biggie, not the first time won't be the last. Heartbroke yes, but I can handle it.

Girl leaves school for the summer, immediately meets NEW guy (not like an old friend) and starts dating.

I know it's a new guy as her best friend (who grew up with her) has no clue who this guy is.

I find out through the grapevine, and am left thinking, who the hell is this? Less than two weeks? WTF?

Also of note, she's told me stuff like "you're my knight in shining armour" and "I don't know how I would have gotten through the school year without you" "you're my favourite friend, thanks for everything" through helping her, being with her, easing stress etc.

I feel like I've been kicked in the nads. [/b][/quote]
I'll make this easy for you. (Keep in mind this is all my opinion)

Step 1) Go out, get totally shinguard faced, and pick up the first thing that gives you any kind of response from poor ass lines like "hey baby nice T**s".

Rebound? Of course it is. Does it matter? Not really, and you'll feel better when you do it. (At least I do, but I'm a bit of a man whore).

Step 2) Stop talking to this chick who is treating you like fotze's "dick in a glass tube". You're plan B, plain and simple. That or come to terms that you'll never hook up unless she is at the end of the line, and will probably never be more than a friend. If you want an example of this go see the movie Forrest Gump.

Step 3) Once you start acting like a dick, she'll be interested. Guranteed. I don't know why women are like this, but 99.99999% of them are when it comes to situations like yours. If at this point the opportunity to do anything romantically presents itself, it's up to you how to proceed, but don't expect anything afterwards. She won't be.

I feel for ya though, I've seen this a lot in my time.....although never really to me, I'm an insensitive ****** destined to a life of 2 month relationships. But hey, it's your thread not mine!

[Shawnski]

Depleted levels of the B-complex vitamins can lead to heightened stress levels. "Stress Tabs" are just that in fact. B-complex. Not eating isn't helping either.

Take some. Won't help the woman problems, but will make you feel better.

[dustygoon]

I fataing can stand chicks like this.

This is going to sound ridiculous but i found out in my dating days that if you treat girls like shinguard, they keep coming back. If you are too nice to them, then they take you for granted.

[octothorp]

Well, I find there's really two ways of dealing with stress--avoidance and confrontation. Avoidance of the stress can generally be achieved through alcohol, drugs, going out and trying to score right away, or just generally filling your life so full of stuff that you have no time to actually think about it.
The confrontation method is a little more tricky. It involves talking it out with yourself, rationalizing the situation, and coming up with a solution, if necessary. The obvious problem is that not all situations can be rationalized, or the only rationalization is that you were a naive fool. When I was in college and going through similar issues, I got in the habit of putting a full tank of gas in the car, heading out down a familiar highway, and simply driving and thinking and talking to myself, sometimes listening to sympathetic music. When I felt that I had worked everything out in my mind, I'd turn the car around and head back. Usually it takes about 40, 50 km to get things sorted out, but once I drove almost all the way to Golden before turning around. It became a really effective therapy for me: as soon as I turned the car around and headed back, the stress would leave and I'd move on to thinking of other things. Just make sure that you have alternative, non-heartbreaking music for the ride home.

[Bill Bumface]

Looks like an obvious case of an Intellectual Whore to me.

Read the following site from start to finish and you'll gain insight into how this girl operates, why you are stuck on the friends ladder, and get a few chuckles at the same time.

http://www.laddertheory.com

[RougeUnderoos]

Originally posted by JiriHrdina@May 3 2005, 10:32 AM
If you're still hanging out/talking with her - stop.

It doesn't work. You can't "just be friends" if you have feelings for her. You can try to convince yourself that you can, but its simply not going to work. Or you'll just put yourself through more pain.

Cut her off - at least for a good amount of time.

Yeah I agree with what he said. Don't be phoning her or talking to her friends about it either. That just prolongs the agony.

Get out of the house. Hang out with people, do something. Sitting around the house, listening to sappy music and picking up the phone occasionally to make sure it's working doesn't help anyone.

And don't listen to all these guys saying "go get drunk". We know you are in the Maritimes so we know you've already thought of that.

[Flames89]

Look yourself in the mirror. Say "I am a sucker" 30 times.

Take solace in the fact you are a "good guy", one day you will be able to combine your good guy powers with nonchalance to be deemed "a good catch", at which point you can begin to utilise your powers to shag and date all that you require.

This loss only helps you out down the road...

[Frank the Tank]

Originally posted by Maritime Q-Scout@May 3 2005, 10:05 AM


I feel like I've been kicked in the nads.

Thats because you just have been kicked in the nads. She's using you and leading you on to get what she needs from you. Kick her to the curb.