Rate your current mental health level out of 10

[BagoPucks]

I think thats the key.. you cant just magically out of thin air cultivate happiness.. your choices with physical space/attributes and environment can really drive the happiness from the inside.

[Point Blank]

I’ve went to church for most of my life, and I am absolutely and continuously shocked, appalled, and disappointed at a large proportion of Christians since COVID and Trump’s first presidency. If Jesus returned, he’d be labeled a libtard and deported.
As a specialist with the CBE, I’ve never been more livid at our provincial government. I am so disgusted at the lack of empathy buoyed predominantly by people who go to church to learn about a person who loved others for who they were and ate with the marginalized.
I’m at a point where I don’t even know where I stand in my faith, I don’t understand how people could pray to the same God as I did could come to such a completely different place.
And then the Charlie Kirk murder nearly broke me. I knew it he was going to get martyred, but I still couldn’t wrap my head around how people who were silent on school shootings, the democrat lawmaker in Minnesota who was killed in June, or the children starving in Gaza, would suddenly tell me how I should show more empathy.
My entire career as a public educator and life as a father of biracial children is to create a better future for children, buts it’s so hard to see that path now.
Anyways, I’ve deleted facebook and reddit, and maybe just need to go off my phone for a while. But any advice on perspective taking would also be welcomed.

[Party Elephant]

Originally Posted by Point Blank

I’ve went to church for most of my life, and I am absolutely and continuously shocked, appalled, and disappointed at a large proportion of Christians since COVID and Trump’s first presidency. If Jesus returned, he’d be labeled a libtard and deported.
As a specialist with the CBE, I’ve never been more livid at our provincial government. I am so disgusted at the lack of empathy buoyed predominantly by people who go to church to learn about a person who loved others for who they were and ate with the marginalized.
I’m at a point where I don’t even know where I stand in my faith, I don’t understand how people could pray to the same God as I did could come to such a completely different place.
And then the Charlie Kirk murder nearly broke me. I knew it he was going to get martyred, but I still couldn’t wrap my head around how people who were silent on school shootings, the democrat lawmaker in Minnesota who was killed in June, or the children starving in Gaza, would suddenly tell me how I should show more empathy.
My entire career as a public educator and life as a father of biracial children is to create a better future for children, buts it’s so hard to see that path now.
Anyways, I’ve deleted facebook and reddit, and maybe just need to go off my phone for a while. But any advice on perspective taking would also be welcomed.

That sucks dude. These are very scary times we are living in and I think yours is a very normal reaction. Stepping away from the online world is probably a good idea, we're all terminally online screen addicts being exposed to way more #### than our caveman brains can process. I definitely spend too much time doom scrolling and I've had a difficult time with this week's latest round of #### as well.

In my opinion the best thing you can do is take care of yourself and the people around you, and do good in your IRL community. I do a bit of volunteering with street outreach and mutual aid groups and I've been finding a lot of catharsis through that lately. Helping people in need, face to face, is about the only thing that feels right in this crazy world.

[TorqueDog]

My mental health hasn't been this good in a long time (it's been up, waaaaay UP... since getting divorced), but there is something creeping in that I'm concerned about.

My mom visited this weekend with a couple friends, and I took them out to Banff, Lake Louise, and acted as their tour guide. Mom is looking rough, and I don't mean "woke up with a legendary hangover after a three-week bender" rough, I mean she's struggling to get out of chairs, cars, and getting winded / sore during walks around downtown Banff. Yes, that downtown Banff, which -- for the touristy three-blocks we stayed around -- is about as dynamic in its elevation as the Bolivian salt flats. It just kind of punched me in the face -- my mom is really, really old and not exactly doing so well.

She's in her 70s now, BMI is over 35 (and no, she's not a bodybuilder), and I feel like I'm completely powerless to help her get healthier and her longevity is going to suffer. My parents live in Winnipeg and I live here, so I'm not close-by to either lead by example or twist her arm to do something about her situation. She's also developed this really weird and out-of-character resistance to medicine and doctors -- which I somewhat credit my pleasant idiot of a Trump-loving cousin for -- so even just getting her to go talk to a doctor about something to help her weight or her knee (which is exacerbated by her weight) is an uphill battle. My parents' house has stairs, I just worry about how long it is until she can't do them any longer.

I don't know how to impress upon my mom that yes, she has the ability to change her situation, but she needs to take it seriously. It's like everything she taught me growing up, she has abandoned for herself. I have no doubt she could get healthier, she just won't entertain the idea aside from my suggesting she get another dog to take for walks... but then I'm worried the dog won't actually get walked and the fact that they smoke cigarettes in the house borders on animal cruelty, frankly.

Anyone else feel like they've started to become the parent at some point in the lifecycle?

[CliffFletcher]

It’s common to wind up parenting your parents. Life expectancy at 65 in Canada today is 85 for men and 87 for women. Almost all seniors will suffer from diminished capacity before they die. This period may last 15 or 20 years - modern medicine has become really, really good at keeping people alive.

This isn’t something we’re prepared for, culturally. Nobody tells you that right about when your kids are starting to become more independent in their teens, there’s a good chance you’ll need to start devoting more time and energy to caring for parents. And that this phase of life may last as long as child-rearing, but in reverse - your parents become more and more reliant on you, not less.

It helps to talk to friends and colleagues who are going through the same thing. They can offer tips for transitioning parents away from driving, from encouraging them to take medication, getting financial and legal matters in order. It’s also easier if you get along with siblings - issues around health, moving into care homes, inheritance, etc. can tear families apart.

[Sr. Mints]

Oh the parent thing is tough - and you're right, nobody prepares you for the role reversal.

My mom started to get very cranky and stubborn about everything and anything. Confrontational, argumentative, and short. And there's something going on either cognitively or visually: she just walks into everything with alarming regularity. For example she'll just saunter through a grocery store and bump into people and turn without looking--not just your fairly common 'stop and put your Costco card away as soon as you enter the store' lack of spatial awareness, but it's like she can't see people. I wonder if it's some kind of tunnel vision.

I know her hearing has gone downhill big time, too. After about a year of that, and mentioning again and again that she needs to get it investigated, I finally just booked an appointment with an audiologist for her and she went ballistic.

It's incredibly worrying and stressful. And there's this foreboding feeling that blankets and envelops you. What compounds it even more--for me--is that my two brothers are absolutely absent, and always have been.

I really don't have the mental fortitude for this.

[Jiri Hrdina]

I had an interesting discussion with my daughter's therapist last week regarding the use of anti anxiety medication.
My experience was, when I was suffering from anxiety leading to severe insomnia, when I was put on anti anxiety medication I became depressed. Depression has never been an issue for me, but anxiety has.

She explained that meds help to strip away the anxiety part, which is masking the underlying depression. So it exposes the real issue, which often IS depression.

Sounds like it could be valid. However, I'm still left thinking that I would rather be anxious than depressed.

[Monahammer]

-5

- Trusted a nagging feeling I had and uncovered the full nature of my wife's ongoing emotional affair(s) and that "emotional" may not apply to one.
- Older Cat died on the weekend
- 1/2 dogs has been having explosive diarrhea for the last 2 weeks. She's finally getting back to normal and last night the other one had a shart.
- I just shelled out a huge amount of money to go to Disney World as a family in April, against my overall will and personal judgement. Family pressure and wife leaning on it. It's too much money, the kids are still too young to get full enjoyment, and between crazy american politics, guns, airline strike, and a weak dollar I am just stressed to the tits about it.
- Work is pandemonium right now.

I dont feel like I have anyone real to talk to about any of this. I could pay my therapist to listen to me complain I guess.