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Originally Posted by undercoverbrother
Have you found that attitudes towards BDSM has changed in that time, either more or less accepting?
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Huge, mostly good, but what has been dubbed the 50 Shades of Grey effect has been mostly bad. That movie is awful, its basically the opposite of what real BDSM is, considering consent is the #1 rule.
It has unfortunately flooded fetlife.com which has been up until a few years ago pretty great, now it's full of thirsty idiots who treat women, mostly the submissives like whores.
Just to give you an idea, the most common rule in contacting women or men you want to play with, is no kink talk (discussion of what you like is fine), just friendly get to know you stuff, then eventually coffee either just you two or during a weekly "munch" (friendly kinkster coffee night get together).
Only then does it go any further. Sadly all these new people who think 50 shades is BDSM jump onto fet and push a lot of good people, especially the submissives, DDlg (daddy little girl) women, etc..