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firebug · 09-13-2007, 07:40 AM

I can win this one...

My wife and I lost a baby at 39weeks and 6days last year (8/22/06)*. Difficult duties included:
Holding wifes hand as the nurse in the women's diagnostic center failed to find a heartbeat with the doppler ultrasound;
Consoling spouse as the imaging ultrasound confirmed the baby was lost, while asking semi-intellingent questions to the radiologist;
Contacting my in-laws and my parents by telephone who were anxiously awaiting good news from the hospital (easily the toughest phone call you will ever make to your mother-in-law);
Coaching my wife through the labour and delivery of a full-term baby that we knew we could never take home;
I won't get into the minutia of choosing caskets and grave plots, however being a pall-bearer of your own child is a difficult duty as well.

Other difficult duties:
Eulogizing (and being a pall bearer for) both my maternal grandparents as well as a murdered 18-year old niece.

Performing CPR in an unsuccessful attempt to revive a family friend who had a heart attack in our bathroom.

While volunteering in a regional trauma center in Iowa during harvest season I had to perform many duties to which those who might be squeamish would consider difficult.

Best regards,

~bug

*note to those who may be concerned: An experience like this has shown me how resilient the human psyche can truly be. While it was certainly a challenging experience, the small amount time my wife and I got to spend with Evie ranks as the most wonderful of our lives.

We are also now expecting again in the early part of January.

09-13-2007, 07:40 AM	#17
firebug Powerplay Quarterback Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: Mayor of McKenzie Towne Exp:	I can win this one... My wife and I lost a baby at 39weeks and 6days last year (8/22/06). Difficult duties included: Holding wifes hand as the nurse in the women's diagnostic center failed to find a heartbeat with the doppler ultrasound; Consoling spouse as the imaging ultrasound confirmed the baby was lost, while asking semi-intellingent questions to the radiologist; Contacting my in-laws and my parents by telephone who were anxiously awaiting good news from the hospital (easily the toughest phone call you will ever make to your mother-in-law); Coaching my wife through the labour and delivery of a full-term baby that we knew we could never take home; I won't get into the minutia of choosing caskets and grave plots, however being a pall-bearer of your own child is a difficult duty as well. Other difficult duties: Eulogizing (and being a pall bearer for) both my maternal grandparents as well as a murdered 18-year old niece. Performing CPR in an unsuccessful attempt to revive a family friend who had a heart attack in our bathroom. While volunteering in a regional trauma center in Iowa during harvest season I had to perform many duties to which those who might be squeamish would consider difficult. Best regards, ~bug note to those who may be concerned: An experience like this has shown me how resilient the human psyche can truly be. While it was certainly a challenging experience, the small amount time my wife and I got to spend with Evie ranks as the most wonderful of our lives. We are also now expecting again in the early part of January.